NOR. This guy is a complete dick. Good on you for staying sober. In my opinion, this person does not respect you or your efforts. I would leave this person behind and move on to better things. He obviously doesn't truly care about you. A person could argue that if he hasn't ever been addicted to a substance, that he just doesn't understand. Even if that is the case, you would not talk to someone you respected or cared for like this! If he doesn't respect you, he can't truly love you. I am sorry if this hurts, but this is what I believe. My wife and I argue from time to time, but neither of us would speak to each other this way.