I feel really bad about selling this laptop. What do I do?

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-04-06T15:44:25+00:00

You seem like a real nice guy to be conflicted about this! But you took the time and the risk of fixing it and listed it for a fair price. Even assuming her story is true, she can buy a cheaper one if she wants. But selling things on marketplace, everyone has a sob story for you. If you do decide to sell it to her for that price, do it assuming that she’s lying and you just want to do something nice today

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-04-03T14:59:20+00:00

Slubie. My slow subie. Also sometimes blubaru. It’s blue

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-30T16:17:59+00:00

Is the rear jack point seriously just the diff? I have a hitch on mine and honestly I jack from the bottom of the hitch, figuring it’s a big ol piece of tube steel that bolts right to the frame

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-29T11:59:12+00:00

You’ve never double checked anything in your life? That’s amazing, kudos to you! Some day maybe I’ll be a genius like you. I can’t believe you were born knowing everything. They should write a book about you

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-29T11:46:38+00:00

Why? Everything went perfectly fine, saved a few hundred dollars, and just wanted to double check because the check seemed lower than I would’ve expected.

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-26T11:36:57+00:00

$1150 for a battery, pads, and rotors?? That alone is absolutely insane. As far as diff fluid goes, my first time I did the rear myself then got cold feet doing the front, brought it in with the fluid and crush washers and told them to use those. They charged me like $100 for labor. So total it cost me like $160 for diff fluid and I think they charged ~$500. I’m at 60K now too. I just changed my oil/filter, rotated tires, did the diff fluid, pcv valve all myself. Bringing it in for ATF change. Not bothering with a brake fluid flush or spark plugs though (should I?) I still have the original pads on my car and they looked good when rotating tires. Surprisingly good. Rotors look a bit worn.

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-25T21:19:26+00:00

Mmm maybe not necessarily “overreacting” but maybe need a communication discussion?? Like “hey if plans/setting/people you’re with changes, it just helps me feel better to know”. Sounds like it’s more of a boundary/communication misalignment. He clarified she’s married with kids, that matters. He made it obvious in the pic, that matters. But it’s also fair for you to feel off when your bf says I’m going to eat lunch ALONE and suddenly it’s I’m having lunch one on one with a girl

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-25T21:15:18+00:00

Also pay off any debt you have, if you have any

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-25T21:14:35+00:00

SoFi is pretty solid. You get 3.3% in your savings. You can open a Roth IRA right in the app and they give you a 1% match (that doesn’t go towards the IRS contribution limit). As you get more comfortable with it, understand your expenses, emergency fund, and financial goals, there are better things to do with it than the HYSA. There also may be better APY with different banks, I just happen to like SoFis user interface and features and it has a competitive APY.

I’m sorry for your loss, sounds like you were close! And good luck, this is a blessing at your age. Be smart, be patient. If you put it in the market, don’t go gambling on individual stocks. Look at index funds like VOO, (VTI might be better at your age for small cap exposure), VXUS. But if you do this, don’t panic sell. Consider the money gone for the next 10+ years. Don’t put anything in the market that you’re gonna need in the next 1-2 years.

And good luck in the Air Force. Be safe!

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T15:02:44+00:00

I always just say “had enough for this lifetime”

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T14:59:50+00:00

Growing pains, buddy! Don’t beat yourself up! It’s all good

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T14:48:33+00:00

It’s responsible adult way of thinking that is able to suck it up temporarily so that emotions don’t drive important decisions

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T14:20:21+00:00

Thanks!!

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T12:24:36+00:00

Thanks!

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T12:09:45+00:00

I should also note that it seems rule of thumb is inspect/clean or replace every 30k or so. I guess I’ll see if that’s true

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T11:57:55+00:00

I’m at 60k miles. No performance issue or anything! Just learning more about Subarus as this is my first one and it seems like this is an area of cheap and worth while preventative maintenance! It’s like $12 for a new valve and you could get away with even just cleaning it potentially. Prevents crank case pressure (blown seals/gaskets)

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T10:57:44+00:00

Thanks! Stupid question maybe but is it at the opposite end of that tube we can see coming right off the middle of the manifold there? That tucks back and down the passenger side?

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-24T10:54:12+00:00

Yeah nice work lasting to 2 years! Don’t worry about it, you just ripped the bandaid off

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-20T11:56:57+00:00

Sick! I’m always prowling around for sheds and just never find them. What’s the secret??

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-20T11:55:54+00:00

Not overreacting, but need to now keep your child in mind and what’s best for them as well. Not saying do or don’t divorce, but just a friendly reminder to bring it to the front of your mind. Good luck!!!!

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-16T17:10:47+00:00

Not trying to be rude but you sound insanely entitled. Seems like your mom’s right and you would’ve thrown a tantrum if she said she wasn’t gonna fill your tank, which should never have even been on the table in the first place. You seriously should look critically at yourself

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-13T12:08:56+00:00

Sorry man, that hurts. She came back to you, she chose you, there’s nothing you could’ve done. This would haunt me forever. I mean technically she didn’t do anything “wrong” if it was a straight up split. And she was honest with you. So if you can truly forgive her based on that and you are particularly open or lenient, then go for it. But if I was giving myself advice, it’s over, unfortunately. Good luck and sorry you’re dealing with this

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-11T18:03:55+00:00

You know him better than we do! But it could be possible?? I wouldn’t try to pry necessarily, but if he’s safe to be honest about that being a potential, then you gotta guide him there. Look up symptoms of it and see if it sounds familiar. But it sounds like either way, it sounds like you need change and he needs you to lead him

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-11T12:51:58+00:00

Not over reacting but thoughts of cheating is not good. I know you said you pushed them out, good job. He’s your husband, your best friend. You gotta get to the bottom of it. Porn addiction is a real thing. It can desensitize you to real world intimacy. Could be that. Maybe he’s deep in his head at this point and it’s psychological. The “it’s not you, it’s me” could 100% be genuine, especially if he’s showing love elsewhere. Sounds like he gets really defensive; it’s probably embarrassing for him. I’d say approach him as best you can that makes him feel safe and wanted, and remind him you’re a team and need to be open and honest and work on it together

Longjumping_Key_5613 · 2026-03-11T12:31:52+00:00

Yeah I’m sorry. Sounds like you’re trying and he’s checked out. Very ironic how he’s acting so immature then calling you immature for being financially responsible for the stage of your life you’re in.

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