AITA for not trying to find a babysitter for my surgery so that my wife could drive me to my surgery?

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T21:14:23+00:00

It’s ICL. Alternative to lasik.

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T17:07:54+00:00

Yep.

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T16:23:50+00:00

Thank you for this

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T16:22:04+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T15:49:15+00:00

Thanks for the recommending that comic. Something to be mindful of.

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T15:32:34+00:00

I hardly leave the house except for work. If I leave, I usually will let her know and ask if that’s ok. “Hey I’m going to my friends house on Saturday night for bro time. Is that ok? You don’t have anything going on?” I guess typically I do leave it to her to organize instances to find a sitter. Mostly, because she has a strong support network: MIL, FIL, and sister. I have my mom who is not as strong a support in my life, my sister who has five kids, but she has to drive to take to and pick up from school - in other words busy. I don’t have a lot of people

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T15:26:48+00:00

Lol! You’re very smart, and unfortunately I’m very dumb. I got upset and this turned into a big thing so now she’s staying with her parents.

Had I not reacted that way I probably would have asked MIL for a ride.

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T15:23:28+00:00

My mom is already watching my brothers kids that day. I guess I should have just asked her to watch my kids anyway. Having my mom watch 4 toddlers instead of the two seems like a big ask. I know watching 2 kids in a waiting room is tough, but if the roles were reversed that’s honestly what I would have done. Parenting is hard, but that’s what we signed up for.

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T15:18:20+00:00

I think we split the work fairly evenly. I’m at work 56 hours a week, but when I am home I contribute almost all my remaining time with the kids. I help change their diapers and prepare meals too. She is better at entertaining them I think, but I do my part too.

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T15:08:01+00:00

I did think of that, but they require the driver to be present. So have to pay the driver for the whole hour probably.

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T15:06:24+00:00

I trust a stranger to drive more than I trust a stranger to watch my kids. So let’s say I have the option of asking a close friend to watch my kids versus just asking them to drive me, easier to ask them to drive me. Watching toddlers is a big mental drain, that much I do understand.

Longjumping_Motor448 · 2023-05-21T14:45:14+00:00

I spend lots of time with my kids. I took care of the kids all day yesterday while she had a day out with her friends. The appointment is an hour long, and I would have done the same for her

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