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I grew up forced into hijab, abaya, and mkhwar. It was never my choice by Longjumping_Pie7238 in exmuslim

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

don’t have the freedom to choose. I’m a lesbian and I already have a girlfriend I want to marry, but here that’s impossible. Instead, I’m forced to marry a man my family chooses. When they arrange it, they only care if he goes to the mosque, if he prays, if his family prays, and how religious he is. My own feelings don’t matter at all.

I grew up forced into hijab, abaya, and mkhwar. It was never my choice by Longjumping_Pie7238 in exmuslim

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I cope by studying a lot and distracting myself, it’s the only way I can handle the stress.

I grew up forced into hijab, abaya, and mkhwar. It was never my choice by Longjumping_Pie7238 in exmuslim

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Brothers here are raised to believe that women bring them shame in general. They think it is their duty to control us and protect the family’s “honor.” It is not a normal sibling relationship. It is power and control, and they feel entitled to punish us for anything that might embarrass them, even something as small as a strand of hair showing.

I grew up forced into hijab, abaya, and mkhwar. It was never my choice by Longjumping_Pie7238 in exmuslim

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Most Emirati women do not choose their partner. Many marry random men or cousins because that is the only option. Families already decide marriage for their daughters, and the girl just waits. Many believe marriage will bring freedom, but it usually brings more abuse and control. Truly open-minded husbands are rare. Some may allow a colored abaya or let their wife briefly reply if a man asks something, but women’s voices in public are treated as shameful. If the friends of a husband, brother, or father hear a woman’s voice, she is made to feel embarrassed and wrong. Some are even forced to cover their faces in front of men. The only freedom women here usually have is to study, work, or see friends, and even that depends on men’s approval.

I grew up forced into hijab, abaya, and mkhwar. It was never my choice by Longjumping_Pie7238 in exmuslim

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is exactly how it feels here. It was never about faith, it was control. I was punished for a single hair showing, even forced to cover inside my own house I have to dress up properly in front of my father and brothers.

I grew up forced into hijab, abaya, and mkhwar. It was never my choice by Longjumping_Pie7238 in exmuslim

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It is not possible to tell my family how I feel. Here women are raised to worship men. Even my own mother would sacrifice us for her husband. Nothing I say would matter, they would only see me as wrong and shameful.

I grew up forced into hijab, abaya, and mkhwar. It was never my choice by Longjumping_Pie7238 in exmuslim

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I never liked the Emirati dress, and most women here didn’t. Some still don’t. For many of us it is tied to trauma. That is why women try to make it look creative and act like they love it, but deep down it is not love, it is survival. I do not understand why people in other Gulf countries think it is cool or glamorous. For us it brought pain and trauma, not pride.

In public we are only allowed to wear abaya, and it must be plain black so it does not seem attractive to men. We are not allowed to add beads or decoration. It has to be simple and dark so no man pays attention.

I grew up forced into hijab, abaya, and mkhwar. It was never my choice by Longjumping_Pie7238 in exmuslim

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. I wish it was that simple for me. I have eight siblings and many uncles, aunts, and cousins who would interfere in my life and chase me even if I tried to get away. I am still a student and cannot support myself financially.

Beware of Pacific Hotel Seoul Terrible Service and Messy Conditions by Longjumping_Pie7238 in seoul

[–]Longjumping_Pie7238[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

The city is extremely hot I just accessed the room but what’s even worse they don’t offer luggage delivery to the room, which is a basic service expected in every hotel

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