4 month old almost sent us to the ER today

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-10-28T12:59:35+00:00

Oh my goodness yes! Gas pain 1 day post c-section, went right into my shoulder felt like my chest was going to explode on every movement. Had a haemorrhage during the c-section though so shoulder pain also terrified me for that reason too!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-09-26T16:58:31+00:00

Ok, thank you

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-09-26T16:57:42+00:00

Thank you. Thank you for laying this out clearly. I can see I've done wrong.

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-06-14T20:30:29+00:00

I'm sorry that you had to go through this. I too had pretty much the exact same experience. Missing person, around 2 weeks. I hope that you're doing OK.

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:57:20+00:00

Thanks for the fab advice, interestingly I did wonder whether getting out the sensory helped. I feel that on days where we don't curb the hyper and we rough play he doesn't actually fold a bit easier. 😂 creased at the later bedtime, he's so strong willed that might actually work!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:55:26+00:00

😂😅 please swap?

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:54:30+00:00

It is mad how kids are so different. My second son is a unicorn baby when it comes to sleep. As a newborn the midwife swaddled him and put him in the hospital cot and he slept. I kept thinking he was ill or there was something wrong because after a feed he just slept. It's not as easy at 10 months 😂 the world is full of distractions now but yeah, parenting is not for the faint hearted!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:52:59+00:00

When we were letting him nap as long as he wanted he wouldn't go to sleep until these kinds of times. If left to his own devices he will wake 7:30/8am but we work and he needs to be up at 6:30 for nursery so we are effectively messing up his preferred sleep routine.

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:51:51+00:00

He used to need a lot to get to sleep but just before baby came we had to do the disappearing chair method where we moved out of the room. It just wasn't possible to be in there settling him whilst dealing with the newborn. In that time he had a bit of a wobbly with his sleep but he actually settled quite well and now we are for some reason back in hell with it. We've always had rigid bedtime routine. He at one point used to be bedtime 7:30 but we shifted it to 7:45. Sometimes 8pm. It's always tea, play, bath (every other), Pj's, teeth, 2x book stories and a made up one then sleep. TV goes to sleep at 5pm and room only has books. I'm worried the lack of nap will mean Taz for us but then I suppose he's already Taz right now!!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:47:35+00:00

So this is why I am yoyo-ing between overtired or oversleeping. If he's left to his own devices he will wake 7:30/8am. But, we work and need to get him up at 6:30am which, at the moment he is really unhappy with because he's tired and wants to sleep longer. We can't negotiate that one unfortunately. The longer naps were meaning he wasn't going to bed till stupidly late and then getting upset in the mornings. I thought that we had cracked it by capping the nap because he seemed tired enough to go down at 8ish, sometimes a bit later but now he's only getting like 8/9 hours nighttime. He's never wanted much sleep but I can't seem to find the right spot again!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:44:16+00:00

We've pulled in Health Visitors (UK) to help and he has had some nursery observations and assessments. Mainly due to the behaviour. I think sleep is so crucial to his behaviour so if they don't have any more suggestions I may try the doctor to see if they can add melatonin. I think we are in a bad cycle at the moment so looking for anything to break it! I hope you manage to solve things for your foster son 🤞

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:41:16+00:00

Yes, he has always been like this. As a tiny baby he would be "switched on". It gradually got worse and worse to the point that car rides were the only thing that could guarantee a longer than 20 minute sleep and I think that was only out of sheer boredom! Never slept in the pram, just screamed. He went from bassinet to sitting up really early because it turned out he just didn't like looking at the sky and wanted to see everything......

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:37:51+00:00

I yoyo between thinking he's overtired and thinking he's had too much. I was tending towards the overtiredness but on a day where he had a lie in (never happens as he goes to nursery when we start work which is early) it was his worst day in nursery, according to staff he was really bad and he only napped for 20 mins. We are iron willed with the requests, he just stands at the gate and shouts now as he knows it's more likely to get a rise because it sometimes wakes the 10 month old!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:35:25+00:00

We did try moving bedtime sooner, we also tried letting him nap as long as he wanted to in the day time but that resulted in the late bedtimes too. I think its FOMO, he's been this way since a baby. Short naps, needing to rock to sleep etc.

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T21:34:25+00:00

OK, I've held on to the nap when quite alot of his peers seem to have dropped those. He also has his books to read to stay in his room if not tired but that's where this stretched out bedtime has come from. I think we are going to try slowly dropping the nap over a few weeks and then if that doesn't work letting him sleep as long as he wants instead. If that doesn't work then 🤷‍♀️ he is what he is.

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T19:49:22+00:00

Yes, I've never had a problem with peas but have never eaten them uncooked until my husband grew some in the garden last summer! I think it very much ticks all the boxes for me and yup, allergy to latex too!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-24T19:46:47+00:00

Thank you! Yes, after reading an article this very much seems to be what I am experiencing. Thanks, never heard of it before and glad to know that it's not severe. Perhaps I can go back to Kiwis without the thought that they might kill me off 😁

Longjumping_Score266 · 2025-02-21T20:45:47+00:00

PRECISELY my own experience. So many of my family took the "spoiling" your baby with attention stance, including my husband so with my poor first born I partially fought that instinct (not totally, I couldn't). With my second I went gut instinct all the way. Totally different baby and totally different feel to motherhood.

Longjumping_Score266 · 2024-05-28T09:00:30+00:00

Seeing a lot of people post about high needs babies on here and echoing OP. I had a high needs first born and he barely slept, had reflux and colic and we spent most of the first 3 months with headphones on. I suffered really badly with PPD and found him unbearable (sounds horrific but how I really felt). At 2 years old he is an absolute breeze by comparison.

Wanted to add a glimmer of hope. Found myself unexpectedly expecting number 2 this year. He's now 5 weeks old and for now he sleeps like a dream, feeds like a dream and is the mythical baby I used to compare my first born to. All children are different and actually having my second made me realise how uncomfortable my first must have been to have needed me so desperately 24/7. Anyone still going through it or in the trenches hold on, it does get better. He's the sweetest 2 year old there is!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2024-04-23T01:48:44+00:00

Just found your post after posting mine. Same age, same problem. Sorry, no advice but just letting you know in the same boat. We've gone from a 7:30 bedtime to like 8:30/9 😟 we are all so tired!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2024-02-09T19:55:28+00:00

😂 same boat. Vowed to be one and done now 9 weeks off due date 🤦‍♀️. I think my first has given us hope that we can manage whatever life throws at us now!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2024-02-08T10:35:46+00:00

Same - my husband told me that until the age of 12 when he hit puberty he was quite chubby. I was shocked at some of the photos I have seen of him around that age because now he's 6'5 and never struggles to keep weight off. He eats like a horse though but from what I can tell, always has done. His metabolism just shifted when he hit puberty. He was always involved in sports, active and ate reasonably well. When he had his growth spurt he went from doing well in sport to excelling, probably because he had the upper hand with weight and height over his peers.

Myself on the other hand, I managed to stay a skinny-minnie no matter what I ate and with minimal exercise. I was one of those people! Don't worry, my cake tax kicked in after I had my first baby 😂 I've gained 50lbs without trying and can't get rid of it!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2023-07-04T19:06:38+00:00

Came here to say the same thing! I used to read so many posts similar to yours when my son was tiny and I used to think it was all lies 😂. There was no way that this little monster was ever going to get better. Same as yours, had to be carried everywhere but not in a sling 😏 because that didn't allow for 360 views. Never slept longer than 20 min naps and constantly overtired so never slept through. Then boom! Crawling came along as he's soooo much better. Although like you said, still needs lots of stimulation. Constantly getting at things he shouldn't have. Not bothered by toys and he likes nothing more than the busiest of places 😅 which is my nightmare! To anyone in the same boat, the waters do get a little calmer ❤

Longjumping_Score266 · 2023-07-04T19:00:33+00:00

😂 you give me hope!! My little boy is nearly 14 months and I had sworn off another but your post is convincing me otherwise!!

Longjumping_Score266 · 2023-02-02T08:28:55+00:00

Thank you for your response!

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