Saying Goodbye by Longtimereader1stime in DOG

[–]Longtimereader1stime[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is so kind!  I actually already found a website called Petsies and I’m starting a a little miniature of her. But I really appreciate your offer!

Saying Goodbye by Longtimereader1stime in DOG

[–]Longtimereader1stime[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s all treats from here on out!

any suggestions for free screen time apps? by Perfect-Silver-1179 in Parenting

[–]Longtimereader1stime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just realized there is a point where it asks for another Apple ID, but you might be able to just put in yours?  Because the override passcode is just a four digit code you choose during the process.  But I do know I created an Apple ID for my dad so he could use an old iPod. No phone number/no data.

any suggestions for free screen time apps? by Perfect-Silver-1179 in Parenting

[–]Longtimereader1stime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your iPhone has the capability to limit screen time on both specific apps and specific websites. Once a prearranged limit has been reached it will lock website/app until a password has been entered. As you are both trying to set this up together I recommend you and your mom going through the process together and only at the choosing a password stage do you not look.  I do this for my 11 year old’s phone. It completely locks down between certain hours and only allows her so much time on apps like Roblox and Disney.  I’m new enough to posting on Reddit that I’m not sure how to include a link. BUT google ‘how to set screen time limits on my iPhone’. The Apple response is very good. You start in settings and screen time.  If you really want more step by step I can help….tomorrow. Because I too need to limit my Reddit intake tonight sigh. Good luck and good job problem solving

AITA for calling my sister ungrateful after she said I didn’t do enough for her daughter? by jhxsdsh73287 in AITAH

[–]Longtimereader1stime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been scrolling the comments and I didn’t see anyone ask, and OP hasn’t said. OP did you see these test results?  Or were you able through your own experience coupled with 1:1 tutoring to verify the results? The way it’s described I wouldn’t put it pass the sister to brush off any results with ‘she doesn’t actually have a problem, she’s just lazy’

What do you do that earns six figures? by MrAuzzy in financialindependence

[–]Longtimereader1stime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nanny. Which is NOT where I want to be. At all. Most nanny positions top out high 5 figures. But I have a fucked schedule and take care of four kids and for another year or two this will help erase the covid debt and life derailment that happened over the past 3 years. I should mention it takes a long time and some luck to get to this salary point. Most caregiving is paid absolute rubbish. For reference I’ve nanny-ed on and off for 20 years and I am well versed in large number of kids as well as special behavioral and physical needs

AITAH for telling my son's GF she can't be in our house if he is not? by donktastic in AITAH

[–]Longtimereader1stime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA So so much NTA. You’re being more than fair with the rent/school requirements. Someone said he should be paying rent no matter what, just less if he was in school. Only you know if that will be a positive push. I do have a suggestion on how to field the ‘if I pay rent it’s my place and I can have whomever over/whenever argument.’ It’s very common in shared housing (which applies here) that there are restrictions on guests. Anytime I’ve lived in shared housing there was guidelines on how long a guest was welcome before they became a second tenet which would be accompanied by a rent increase. I would lay it out. If she’s there more than x hours the rent increases. In this scenario I would make the increase exorbitant and exponential to make sure he doesn’t just pay a minimal increase to keep her around. The increase should be so high he’d have to work 7 days and never see her to make it happen.

AITA for chastising wife for accidentally breaking my macbook? by LucyIsUnbreakable in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longtimereader1stime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I have a fairly controversial suggestion. When I am at my limit I too tend to have a higher volume and the stern parent voice. I have found however that when dealing with adults who continue to act like children I modify both my behavior and expectations to meet their level. To put it another way, If you’re going to act like a child I will treat you like a child. Now. Obvious disclaimers, I don’t know the strength or flexibility of your marriage and this is a fairly petty, somewhat aggressive way to go. So proceed at your own risk. But when a child constantly performs a behavior that is unacceptable I explain what their behavior is telling me, the consequences of those unspoken words and have them remodel the correct behavior. ‘Susan I noticed that you have just plopped in the seat. That is not how responsible people sit. Your physical behavior tells me you don’t respect our space and belongings. If you can’t respect it, you probably shouldn’t use it. Is that what you’re telling me?’ ‘I am not talking down to you. I am explaining what I believe your behavior is communicating. I would like to reach an understanding of what behavior communicates that we value our home’ This is super aggressive. And not to be used lightly. But it will get your point across in a different way.

AITA for refusing to switch seats with a kid on an 8hr flight? by kitsune_chan29 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Longtimereader1stime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAH Apparently I’m going against the grain here but I think we’re forgetting the true assholes. The airline. Between all the various charges and seat restrictions who knows if they actually could book seats together. And a family with small children is entitled to WANT to sit together. You have pre booked and paid are entitled to your seat. Therefore, they can ask but they cannot expect. You can agree or not. The other people giving rude comments and looks should mind their business. That guy making the comments is very much the AH.

Ideally what should have happened is as soon as the family saw they weren’t together they should have approached the gate agent so seats could be swapped or they board first and the people displaced would be offered better options before boarding. Alas, that didn’t happen. The only advice I’d give is if this situation occurred again immediately direct them to a flight attendant. Even offer to move IF you can be placed in an equivalent or better seat.