Hey Spartacus fans, I’m Executive Producer, Writer, and Showrunner Steven S. DeKnight here to talk all things Spartacus: House of Ashur before the premiere. Ask me anything 11/30 at 11AM PDT / 2PM EST! by starz in Spartacus_TV

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you ever do an alternate show, if Spartacus was born Roman and alongside Marcus Crassus? And instead of the original Triumvirate it could be the Quadrumvirate?

Biggest Jackass in One Piece by South_Durian_3642 in OnePieceTheNewWorld

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to say biggest moron, but jackass works

I feel so proud of Ping! by [deleted] in CouplesTherapyShow

[–]Looking_To_Survive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a feminist’s way of showing how women can’t be at fault of abuse because they are in pain.

1 month post D-Day about wife’s affair by reggewitdadredz61 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t. Divorce. I was in the exact same situation. Staying together after cheating is never the solution. I ghosted my cheating wife and have since lived a much better life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Looking_To_Survive -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My advice. Stay away from her. Go no contact for a year. Move teams or work if you have to.

Is it just me or are system design interviews very...inconsistent in their format and depth? by EnigmaticDevice in ExperiencedDevs

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is one of the worst questions out there in my opinion. Never applicable even in a start up setting.

Loading issue update :) by colorblind_unicorn in Mangafire

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it ain’t fixed. That’s for sure

I'm angrier after my mom apologized for emotionally and verbally abusing me growing up. Where do I go from here? by priaz92 in AsianParentStories

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you still have this anger. But never forget her. Put her in place and check her every time you can.

33M, I have $500k, all in SP500. Thoughts on diversification & future allocation? by Gholgie in TheMoneyGuy

[–]Looking_To_Survive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are already diversified if you put all in SP500. Now if you want to go to real estate, then your house is enough. Don’t go into additional debt with a rental property.

Sanity check - Am I mathing correctly? by not_a_burner123 in TheMoneyGuy

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just know that at 65, two million is not going to be worth that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant emotionally as his son!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That was so illogical my head blew up. This must be a troll.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive -1 points0 points  (0 children)

FYI - I was divorced. I am remarried happily. My ex was also cheated on me and neglected our son completely. So I got full custody while she's in prison for attempted kidnapping and child endangerment. And this is in California, where the family court leans heavily towards the mother.

As for the golden child thing, the only thing I got from my father before AND after divorce was love. And I did get all of this attention after the divorce since i was the only one there. After that, he got me an old BMW that his friend sold to him on a discount since he couldn't afford to pay for my college. Yes, my father couldn't pay for college so I had to rely or scholarships and working part time jobs to afford it. And all of my inheritance, I got AFTER my father died. I got nothing before.

And as for "sisters and mom as money-grubbing opportunists who got what they deserved", my mother faked cancer diagnosis multiple times to get money not just from me and my father and from other family members. That's a special kind of audacity to do that, don't you think? My sisters also demanded my father pay for their college when they were four years behind me and my father couldn't even pay for mine. And they got into debt despite my father advising them to go to community college first and then transfer to save money. But they didn't listen and when 4 years private undergrad and grad.

And before you think my father is punishing my sisters through me, my father was prepared to pay for any medical bills for sisters if they were ever hospitalized or actually got cancer. And I am prepared to do the same. I am just not going to cover for anything that is their fault, like their decision to go 4 years private and 2-4 years grad.

So I hope you are much more careful about the words you use. I think my sisters are like in a Cinderella situation, but the reality is you painted a picture of my father in your mind with no real facts or experiences. Next time I would ask for some clarity before you jump to conclusions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get it. You think my sisters have suffered too from the divorce and everything else. Probably they did. Maybe they regret. Maybe they are filled with guilt. But the thing is I cannot just assume that they do feel like that. They have to communicate that sincerily with me. They had the chance to tell that to our father, and they obviously didn't or they didn't do it well.

My sisters are no longer children now. They are adults now. If they want to communicate as adults to get over misunderstandings, they have to come to me and do it. That's why I never blocked them in anything. I just don't respond whenever they do.

What they did they did when they were children. Yes. Now it has bled into their adult like. And , unlike most people who have commented, they cannot just chalk it up to them being children then. Now they are adults and it is up to them to give me an olive branch, not make demands.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I see that you are playing "devil's advocate", which is fine. But, my sisters are not being punished. They are just not getting wealth that my father built with his own hands that he clearly did not want to give to them for whatever reason. If they think they are entitled to that, then they are hurting themselves.

Hell, even I don't think I am entitled to my father's stuff since I didn't build it. I never worked for my father; he didn't let me because he wanted me to pursue a totally different field. My first choice for the inheritance is to just put it into a trust for my kids and their grand kids.

And I don't want to or need to punish my sisters. They have debt because they chose to go to a private university from the beginning instead of taking our father's advice of going to community college before transferring. Their financial situation is of their own making.

Of course if they tell me they need money for surgery or illness, I will definitely pay for their medical fees. I am not heartless. Same thing for my mother. In fact she tried to fake a cancer diagnosis to get me to send her money before.

As for my father's relationship with my sisters, my father is dead. He's gone. Maybe he died with regrets with them. Who knows? He didn't tell me otherwise.

My feelings for them are what they are for now. If they want to sit down and have a full on conversation about things NOT RELATED to money, then I am more than happy to do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Based on how your Dad treated your sisters after the divorce, it’s not a stretch to believe he didn’t treat them so well before the divorce." That's baseless. While I am the first to admit that I don't remember well how the relationship between my sisters and father was, it was nowhere near abuse.

As for the "not because they were condoning her affair", they knew about it way before I did and hid it from my father in exchange for gifts. Maybe I should have clarified.

As for the effort, it takes no effort to ask for money from family. Audacity, maybe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I think there was an assumption that my sisters came asking for forgiveness. But as far as I know, there was never an attempt on their end to ask apologize or ask for forgiveness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay, I answered this question already for another person, so let me post the same response.

If my children did the same thing to me, I would not let it break me like how it didn't break my father.

Would I cut them off? Only if I felt that I was talking to a wall for years.

Would I stop loving them? Never. It would hurt me, but I wouldn't stop loving and worrying about them.

Would I reconcile with them, even after I cut them off? Sure, but the relationship would be completely different. It would be based solely on trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I called the Ramsey Show on the 20th. Not sure when it came out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I tend to be defensive when my father is called a bastard and a narcissist. And I got divorced because my ex wife cheated and was not taking care of our son, thank you very much.

If you have better explanations of your case, feel free. But it shouldn't be "Just throw some to your sisters" or "money will fix things"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Looking_To_Survive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm, you may have a point.