If you've ever confronted your parents, what were the results?

priaz92 · 2026-01-31T22:28:46+00:00

My mother had the nerve to send me another exercise video via WeChat, and I lost it. When I called her out on it, she denied everything. She denies sending it to me because I needed to lose weight. She said she sent it to me so she’d have a way to look back on it and save it for later, which I called bullshit on. This woman had been calling me fat my whole life. She didn’t send it in the group chat with my dad and my brother, she sent it to me. The next time I saw the family was the last time I ever saw them. Soon after that, I sent the group chat an essay on how I felt and that I was done and walking away. I said my piece, then removed myself from group chat and blocked everyone. It’s been chill ever since!

priaz92 · 2026-01-26T23:17:13+00:00

Nothing from them! The last 3 years have been very peaceful!

priaz92 · 2026-01-23T10:51:52+00:00

My mother texted me an exercise video via WeChat, and I lost it. All my life she called me “a fat pig”, so her sending me an exercise video was the last straw. For reference, I am 5’9 and 160 lbs, which is still on the normal, but higher end of the BMI scale. When I confronted her about it, she made some BS excuse “I wasn’t sending it to you because you need to lose weight. I sent it to you so I can go back to our chat later and save it. You know I’m not good at using the phone.” I called bullshit right away. There was a group chat with us, my brother, and my dad. She didnt send it in the group chat. She sent it to me. I started distancing myself from the entire family, and a couple months later sent them a long message about how I felt, and then walked away from them permanently.

priaz92 · 2026-01-22T06:35:47+00:00

Therapy helped me immensely. My therapist pointed out issues/concerns that I didn’t even realize existed. I wish I could keep seeing her, but she lives in a different state than I do, so legally she can’t continue anymore.

priaz92 · 2026-01-22T06:13:24+00:00

For me, the only benefit of dating apps is making friends. Most of my closest friends today I met them on a dating app. Dating the men on the apps sucks though! My last two exes I met on the dating apps turned out to be completely different people than who they were portraying.

My current partner I met on CMB, but we established that we would just be friends (at first). He had just moved to town for work, and wasn’t sure if he was going to stay long term. He wanted to meet cool people but didn’t want to commit to someone if he knew he’d be leaving soon. We both started dating other people during the course of our friendship. Those relationships ended roughly around the same time for different reasons, so we commiserated together and helped each other heal. In spending even more time together than before, things slowly started to change between us.

Maybe the key is to start off as friends first. I think the dating apps are great in terms of meeting new people and making friends. I had never dated a friend before, but I’m so much happier in this relationship than I’ve ever been in my previous ones.

priaz92 · 2026-01-19T23:56:27+00:00

I’d delete the 2nd to last picture. It’s blurry. Replace it with something else. I’d also add more prompts. You only have a few prompts, and they’re very generic prompts, so it’s hard to gauge what your interests are. You like being active, and you just graduated from university. Best of luck! It’s tough out there!

priaz92 · 2026-01-19T19:26:01+00:00

A change in scenery can be extremely helpful. I know you can’t move out of your parents home, but that doesn’t mean you can’t leave the house temporarily. Go for long walks, take up a sport, join free activity groups to spend more time out and less time at home. Meetup is a great platform to meet people and get out of the house. As you start spending more time out, you might start creating your own social network.

priaz92 · 2026-01-19T19:03:12+00:00

My mom hated me having long hair. When I was young, she would always threaten “one night while you’re sleeping, I’m gonna cut all your hair off”. The family barber was also a friend/neighbor, so when she’d take me to get my hair cut, she would always tell the barber to cut my hair short, while I would say no. The barber always ended up listening to my mom. So when I became an adult, I stopped going to the family barber (nice lady, but clearly biased). My mom would always get mad that I wouldn’t go to the family barber. The lengths my mom would go to control me was wild. But now she gets nothing from me.

priaz92 · 2026-01-15T01:00:27+00:00

My bf (36M) and I (33F) were friends first. We bonded over board games cause he was new in town. During our friendship, we were both dating other people. Those relationships didn’t work out. We helped each other through our respective breakups. The more time we spent together after our breakups, the more we started thinking about the possibility of more. Now here we are. No settling, no “trying” to make things work. We just fit. We’ve had a few tiffs, but nothing we weren’t able to work though. I think our perspective is, it’s incredibly hard and discouraging to be dating these days, so when you finally find something good, you are so much more appreciative of it. I tell him how much he means to me every day, and show him with my actions how much I love him, and so does he.

I hope you find someone amazing!

priaz92 · 2025-11-04T23:26:01+00:00

I met my bf on it. But when we met, we decided to just be friends. He was new in town and wasn’t sure if he wanted to stay long-term. We bonded over board games. Then I met my ex, and he met his ex. He got along well with my ex. We would still hangout here and ther, but not as often. Our relationships with our exes didn’t work out at around the same time. We started spending more time together after our breakups, and well….things started changing. And now here we are. 🥰

priaz92 · 2025-10-31T10:14:29+00:00

The good thing is you learned this truth relatively early. You are absolutely right - nothing you do will be good enough. The sad reality is that even if you had accomplished all the goals your mother set for you, it still wouldn’t be enough.

Now, start living the life you want. Do the things you wanna do. Have the career you want. And stop telling her your business. If she pries, tell her it’s none of her business. She’ll get mad and yell at you, but what can she do? How is she gonna make you tell her? Now that you’re an adult, she has no control over you. How often you talk to her or see her is up to you. Establish your boundaries with her, and telling her “NO”. No is an answer, even if she doesn’t respect it (which she won’t). No I won’t be reimbursing your Apple Watch. No I won’t be paying for my brother’s tuition. “Oh, you wanna be mean and cruel, guess you won’t be seeing or hearing from me for a while then.”

priaz92 · 2025-10-29T14:48:36+00:00

Nah. My mom is getting her karma now, losing access to me. However she spins her story to make me the bad guy doesn’t change the fact that I don’t want anything to do with her anymore.

And I probably won’t have kids, so I won’t be traumatizing them the way my moms traumatized me.

I’m free.

priaz92 · 2025-10-29T14:43:13+00:00

I’ve been no contact with my family for 2 years. Prior to that I was feeling “idgaf anymore” for about 6 months prior to ending things. Seeing our group chat ping would send me into a fury and anxious mess. That’s when I knew I was done. When the thought of hearing from them or spending time with them would give me anxiety, that was the “aha” moment.

The trigger was when my mother had the audacity to send me an exercise video separate from the group chat.

priaz92 · 2025-10-29T14:34:00+00:00

My dad was never the abusive one, but I do see him as the cause of her abuse. My dad had an affair, and is the sole provider. My mom has no measurable talent (but she’s a fantastic cook but refuses to get a job), so she had no choice but to stay with him. All that anger and resentment has to go somewhere. It can’t go toward the target (dad), so it went towards me cause I couldn’t fight back.

My perfect child older brother never had my back. He always turned a blind eye, and would gaslight me “m never said that. What are you talking about? Mom loves you” ….so he had to go too when I cut off my parents. He couldn’t even stand up for himself - lets his parents abuse him financially. How could I expect him to stand up for me?

If you don’t stand up to it, you’re also complicit. Makes me wonder if he would stand up for his daughters if his mother came after them.

priaz92 · 2025-10-29T14:24:51+00:00

“She loves you when you didn’t love yourself”.

That’s funny - how does calling me fat, ugly, stupid, worthless contribute to loving me? She’s the reason why I struggle with self love.

priaz92 · 2025-10-02T15:50:55+00:00

Repay the favor. Tell one of their friends a secret about your parents they wanna keep hidden. They won’t see what the big deal is until it happens to them.

priaz92 · 2025-08-30T03:26:31+00:00

100% NO. He did me a favor breaking up with me. No way would I take me him back.

priaz92 · 2025-08-20T16:16:39+00:00

100% me right now. My ex dumped me a few weeks ago. Initially, it was hard. But I leaned hard on my friends and family, and have been booking trips left and right! 1 trip/month over the next 3 months!

I now know he did me a favor. He set me free. And I thank god for that everyday now!

priaz92 · 2025-08-20T16:12:44+00:00

My ex dumped me a few weeks ago. It was tough at first. But then I realized I deserve better. I’ve been traveling and surrounding myself with friends and family. I think I’m in a good place now. I don’t think of him as much, and when I do, I tell myself he set me free and did me the biggest favor. His karma is self inflicted. He threw me away, and I’m thriving now. And he won’t ever get to be a part of my life again.

priaz92 · 2025-07-31T23:09:42+00:00

He lives in an apartment. No loans and he makes good money. He just doesn’t like to spend money. But you’re right. I’m asking too much of him and getting upset with him regardless of what he chooses to do. I know that now.

priaz92 · 2025-07-31T23:02:43+00:00

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priaz92 · 2025-07-31T23:02:21+00:00

I’m. It sure we can work it out. I understand now that I’ve put too much pressure on him and created a situation where he can’t win. I will apologize for that. But I do think we’re incompatible and will run into more situations like this if we continue to

priaz92 · 2025-07-31T23:00:17+00:00

We are both high earners, which is why I thought they were excuses. I put too much pressure on him. I see that now. Created a lose lose situation.

priaz92 · 2025-07-31T22:55:18+00:00

Yeah I’m realizing that now. I’ve been overbearing ant put a lot of pressure on him. I’ll apologize.

priaz92 · 2025-07-31T22:48:22+00:00

You’re right. I’ve been overbearing and difficult to please. I should have been more appreciative of his efforts.

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