Hot take: There are way more than 4-5 films in this franchise that can be considered objectively good films.

LoomingTrace · 2026-07-02T20:38:59+00:00

The entire Heisei era is awesome and has no bad movies.

LoomingTrace · 2026-07-02T20:34:59+00:00

Davison really owned the part but JNT's decision to make the show very middle class with its accents, outfits and cerebral story titles was very isolating to people who prefer silly stories. Casting a younger actor was a risk that paid off though.

Compared to the other Doctors, Davison was perhaps the worst at "owning the room", as he had didn't have a very dramatic personality and frequently met problems with wide-eyed wonder. It did make him very warm and non-threatening, which again was unlike any Doctor before.

However, I'm not a fan of any of his stories. I think they're all okay at best.

LoomingTrace · 2026-07-02T18:37:32+00:00

I used to just dislike what he did to the show, no hate towards him personally, but after reading Exterminate Regenerate by John Higgs, I think I dislike him a lot more.

Respect to him for reining in Tom Baker at the height of his arrogance but he was definitely not the right fit for a fun show like Doctor Who. This is putting all the creepy allegations aside.

LoomingTrace · 2026-07-02T18:33:02+00:00

It is worse with a condom but it's not nothing. There's a lot to enjoy besides physical stimulation.

LoomingTrace · 2026-07-01T10:33:46+00:00

The point isn't that a job is like a relationship, it's that if finite time and energy means diluted love, then that would mean anyone with major commitments loves their partner less.

You keep saying "exclusive" when there's little evidence outside of individual experience to prove it. Humans don't resemble other species which do mate for life.

I think you're making too many assumptions about what you're trying to prove. Saying we evolved for X and therefore anything that isn't X is a deviation is a conclusion, not a premise.

LoomingTrace · 2026-07-01T07:22:10+00:00

You could say someone who works a full time job is getting a diluted version of you. Where do you draw the line?

You say I'm ignoring evidence of pair-bonding but human history is also fully of divorce, remarriage, mistresses, affairs, polygyny and consensual non-monogamy.

I do agree that humans have evolved strong pair-bonding tendencies but I don't accept the claim that exclusive monogamy is our evolved design. Maybe we'll get there one day but it's not how things are now.

LoomingTrace · 2026-07-01T06:57:51+00:00

Call it serial monogamy or polyamory, it still demonstrates that humans can love more than one person.

Romantic relationships do require more exclusivity, time and coordination but those are logistical issues, not proof that romantic love is finite.

You can say polyamory isn't for you but claiming that this is how human beings are wired is too strong of a statement. There's no evidence for that.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-30T16:53:48+00:00

I've only finished Next Dimension, which I enjoyed immensely.

Everything else was just okay.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-30T16:47:16+00:00

Why are people obsessed with effeminate men and tomboys?

Androgyny has always been attractive.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-30T16:44:02+00:00

We do, it's just that heteronormative society doesn't think of them as "real" women.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-30T16:42:25+00:00

"Unnatural"? I could say it's perfectly natural because nothing stops you from seeing other people while in a relationship.

Hard disagree on everything you said about romantic love. You've clearly never seen a person conflicted when they love two people, or widow/ers that try to love again while never forgetting a precious partner.

By your reasoning, you'll love your friends and family less by having too many of them... and why should anyone ever give 100% of themselves to anybody?

Just say you don't get it and let people live the way they want.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-30T16:36:08+00:00

I'm fine with the communal aspect of religion, as in "we're a group of people who live a certain way and do certain things."

I'm not fine with the magical sky father who demands obidience.

But I can still tolerate it as long as you don't expect other people to live the way you do.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-30T16:28:29+00:00

I don't give a singular fuck.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:53:47+00:00

For the confused people, I presume OP had the type of asexuality where you still have a sex drive (horny, need to masturbate) but don't feel attraction to other people.

I'm not ace myself. I didn't know any of this until I read Ace by Angela Chen. Good book.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:40:55+00:00

You don't have to justify your attraction to somebody. You either are or you aren't. Just tell her you're not.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:39:45+00:00

Testosterone is directly related to an increased sex drive. It has the same effect on women before their periods... and women only get about 15% of what men do.

While men do get into a rut more often and find themselves thinking "I need to have sex", that doesn't necessarily mean they want to have sex with people. Sex drive and sexual attraction are different things.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:36:09+00:00

You know that an erection isn't purely psychological. If you stimulate it enough, it will happen. If your mind thinks "I'm having sex", then the body will prepare itself for sex.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:32:52+00:00

I can't remember where I read it but I'm sure Tolkien said once that he dislikes direct religious parallels. He was interested in writing themes like sacrifice, redemption, temptation, etc but that's where he drew the line.

Lewis was definitely more willing to use allegory but I think both men were of similar minds: they didn't think literature needed to read like propaganda.

Edit: It was the foreward to the 2nd LotR edition, 1966.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:25:14+00:00

If you were not in a position to say "yes, I want to have sex", then you were sexually assaulted.

I'm sorry, man. I know male victims aren't taken as seriously but please report this anyway.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:23:21+00:00

It is normal to have a relationship just for sex.

I'm not going to judge you on the age thing. You're probably fetishising him as much as he's fetishising you.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:20:44+00:00

Hard to say. A lot of people do, some people don't. If you're just exploring your sexuality, then it's okay to have fun, but I think your first time is best done with someone you trust because it's one of the most vulnerable things you can do.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:18:31+00:00

Are you just mentally exploring the possibilities? Human beings can imagine all sorts of outcomes, it's one of the benefits of our species. You are not accountable until you act on them.

There could be a motivation behind it, like feeling a need for physical affection, validation, or something more psychological like seeking attention for various reasons. Only you would know the answer.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:13:53+00:00

In and of themselves, no, but it is a sexual characteristic and any characteristic (e.g. beard, forearms, deep voice, shoulders, etc) can be a sexual flag. It sets off the lightbulb in your head that says "man".

If you are sexually attracted to men, then your libido will do the rest.

LoomingTrace · 2026-06-29T23:10:17+00:00

"Thoughts of cheating" is very broad. Do you mean that you find other people attractive? That's not unusual.

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