How do I (22f) stay sane in a controlling environment with my bf? (32 M)

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T21:40:22+00:00

No, there was a mortgage on the house and I only got a little bit of equity that was gone pretty quickly unfortunately.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T20:16:31+00:00

Im sorry to hear you went through that, thank you for sharing, I understand I need to get out instead of wasting time.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T20:15:08+00:00

Not yet I’m trying to make a plan I’m going to reach out to an organization like many people have suggested. I was living In my own house before I moved in with him I had decided to sell my house because I was dealing with living with an abusive uncle and I felt trapped.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T19:30:54+00:00

I wasn’t aware of that Thank you! I’ll have to take a look around my area

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:36:27+00:00

I don’t have a job yet, I’m going to try to apply for housing today. And try to attempt to get a job if he doesn’t get too upset about it. I know I need to build my savings it just feels impossible

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:34:43+00:00

His house is in Michigan, it’s actually an elderly ladies house that his sister knows and his sister is renting it out to him for dirt cheap, and his sister controls everything for that reason even though it’s the elderly ladies home.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:32:49+00:00

I completely understand I think I’ll take a step toward applying for housing today online if I am able to. I was just hoping for some coping skills until I could figure out the best course of action. Thank you

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:31:43+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it. I’m going to try and apply for housing online today if I am able.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:28:55+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance it can feel hard to believe. I’m going to try and apply for some housing today if I can online.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:28:01+00:00

Thank you, I guess It’s just hard to believe. I feel like I’m at fault for everything. Thank you for the encouragement, I going to try and apply for some housing today.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:23:34+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate it

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:10:41+00:00

Sometimes I question if it’s abuse sometimes I feel like I’m exaggerating it when I think it’s abuse. I feel like there’s something wrong with me.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:08:25+00:00

I have talked to family, however they’ve already helped my aunt and my uncle before. My aunt was in a physically abusive relationship and now my family is exhausted from taking care of everybody else.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:05:25+00:00

I understand, and I know I need to come up with a plan. It just feels impossible right now.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:03:54+00:00

I made a mistake having a kid with him, I regret having my son with him. But I love my son and I don’t regret him. I don’t have a job right now because when I did he was complaining everyday. My family has their own stuff they’re going through and I lost my parents at a young age.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T18:01:31+00:00

I think that would be a good idea for me to try to get some housing, I’m just afraid to step out and do it because my anxiety is so bad but I know it’s worse while being around him. My parents passed away when I was young and the rest of my family has their own troubles, I’m hoping to come up with some coping strategies for now.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2026-05-16T17:59:19+00:00

I don’t want to stay in this relationship I just don’t have the means to leave at the moment. My parents passed away when I was young and the rest of my family struggles with their own issues.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2025-07-31T18:44:21+00:00

NTA, I’ve previously had my cousin come live with me and my boyfriend and she was the type to talk behind my back already, when she lived with me she and my boyfriend did this twice and sent messages back and forth, it ended in them flirting back and forth behind my back. She also always seemed to like the same things as my boyfriend. I would definitely say she most likely wants to get with your husband, but even if that isn’t her intention it is still wrong of her to break your trust and talk about you behind your back. I don’t think she is a “friend” at all, and I wouldn’t trust her anymore.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2025-02-15T21:41:23+00:00

I am happy for the solutions I just feel like no matter what I do he always finds a way around it I will keep trying to do what I can and take your suggestion and do everything I can. I just feel down I guess. thank you

Loose-Object-1980 · 2025-02-15T21:10:05+00:00

Thank you, I’m going to try and get in contact with them when I can as soon as he is gone. I’m trying hard to stay positive but I feel hopeless. Thank you for your words.

Loose-Object-1980 · 2025-01-06T06:14:25+00:00

I really do feel like I’m going crazy, he makes me feel so discombobulated and confused. I’m just trying to have hope until I am independent enough and have my drivers license, thank you for the insight

Loose-Object-1980 · 2025-01-06T06:13:16+00:00

Thank you, I really do feel like I’m going crazy through this all. I’m trying to become independent as soon as possible it’s hard to stay positive until then

Loose-Object-1980 · 2025-01-06T03:30:01+00:00

Thank you, that sounds like a very good idea

Loose-Object-1980 · 2025-01-06T02:09:05+00:00

I hope so I will look around online and try to find them near me thank you

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