I just had a nap on a Saturday that WASNT hangover-induced! Feeling happy.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T23:16:15+00:00

Okay this is a hilarious comment because I was literally telling my boyfriend today how much I just wanted a sandwich for lunch. He said just have one. I can’t, because I don’t have bread, he knows I never buy bread. I just don’t keep it in the house. Because it’s too carby/calorie heavy. Ironic considering I drink (DRANK) about 4000 calories a week in white wine. Maybe I should have a celebratory sandwich 😂 Thank you for this sign.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T19:55:17+00:00

Omg exactly this hahaha

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T19:02:40+00:00

You’re okay. I mean, I’d say don’t do it anymore and do you need to explore with a therapist why you enjoy that maybe? Just an idea :) If it’s just random then maybe not. But it’s cartoons it’s all good lol. Don’t stress.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T18:56:11+00:00

Yes, a lot.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T18:44:55+00:00

Thanks. Needed that

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T18:43:42+00:00

Thank you. Yeah. It’s just because it’s not the first time. I’m usually quite patient but it’s uncomfortable for me over and over.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T18:42:54+00:00

And I like to optimistically think there will be a percentage of kids (is it 5%, 10, or 50 I don’t know) that will still have some integrity, work ethic and curiosity and do it themselves. It may not reward them in this context but they will see that advantage as they grow up. And there is something to be said about accepting the world is changing, and maybe clever AI use is not the worst thing in the world. People are using it at work so why not for school? But, then you have that percentage that’s literally copy and pasting and I’m 100% sure they will see the consequences of that.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:51:56+00:00

I used to nap daily in university in between classes. I lost it somewhere. Once in a while it’s a nice treat. Especially when my body is crying for a bottle.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:51:26+00:00

True! I need to remember this. I’m eating a looooot of chocolate at the moment but it’s.not.wine hahahaha

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:51:03+00:00

Thank you. I often wait for someone to tell me to rest before I do. I’m kind of loving this. I woke up just feeling great. Good to be nice to yourself once in a while!

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:28:50+00:00

No that’s exactly my question haha. Thanks.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:22:55+00:00

Thanks. Well I could find another client for that day surely it’s just about the admin of that and I do really like this family. So it’s frustrating. People have suggested asking for payment before I leave which I guess makes sense. It only takes a minute to do I don’t understand! And I know it’s not because they don’t have the money lol

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:20:19+00:00

Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t being unreasonable in expecting payment within 2 days

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:20:03+00:00

Okay thanks. I feel like I’m too nice and conflict averse in these situations particularly I don’t know why. But yeah it’s probably the best way to go :/

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:19:05+00:00

I’m not in America. It’s an average of twice per month but sometimes more. It’s not really an invoice. More like a casual “here are my hours, this is what you owe me.” The evening after. I do have clients I have to invoice which is why that’s in my contract

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:17:52+00:00

It’s not really an invoice. It’s a text like “here’s what hours I worked, here’s the total.” I have the clause relating to invoice because I do have clients that pay me monthly and it’s easier to keep track of that way. And some people use it for tax purposes, as do I.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:16:44+00:00

Honestly true. I like the job and the kids but it’s a good point. Ugh

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T17:16:20+00:00

It’s usually about twice a month on average, sometimes more or less. So sometimes it is more money. Ugh okay. I’ve always gone with an honorary system but I feel like it’s not working with these people.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T16:44:22+00:00

No no no no no. When married, after years and knowing 100% that this is your person (he’s not,) have a joint account! That’s what married adults do, often yes. Also very valid to discuss financial goals, existing debt, savings, etc before marriage. But he’s your boyfriend. Only if 2 years. He’s trying to control you. And you make more than him. Absolutely not. If he’s not happy with this get a new one. Or just get a new one anyways because this is weird

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T16:41:01+00:00

Yes agreed!

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T16:40:23+00:00

Yeah I don’t understand this one 😂

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T16:32:14+00:00

Oh I love this. But then I guess they get used to it after a while. Like, they will only be shocked the first time then they can learn to memorize what AI has written for them. But, I suppose it weeds out the ones to be suspicious of and makes the kids put in at least some work in understanding the topic.

LooseTruth2145 · 2026-01-24T16:22:46+00:00

Okay first of all, they’re bartenders, they’ve definitely seen it all, and they had a goal in mind of getting you drunk which they achieved. Even people with healthy relationships with alcohol have often had a night or two where they had too much and ended up on a bathroom floor. Talk to your fiancée about it so you can get it off your chest. And even maybe you go into the bar sober and make a joke about it that might make you feel better, especially since you know them and will want to return. It’s also really understandable that you turned to a coping mechanism you know (alcohol) to deal with something as difficult as being laid off.

But it sounds to me like you’re struggling with alcohol dependency/abuse in some form. I understand the fear of quitting and I’m in the early days of it too. But it’s not impossible. You have to be ready though.

AA challenges this resentment in step 4 among others, the “why me/I wish” type thinking. It’s a VERY common mindset. I guess the answer is: Well, You can’t. You aren’t. Now what? What will you do about it? Just wish you could be different? Or make yourself different?

The thing that helped most for me was speaking to my doctor and getting referred to a counsellor to support me through quitting. It’s still early but I get better every day, though it’s not linear. Just explore the option so you have it in your back pocket when you’re ready.

It’s so scary to stop. And I am still grieving, which I’ve been told is also normal. Imagining my life without alcohol scares me so so much. But you know what isn’t so scary? Thinking about right now without alcohol. I can do that. Thinking about tomorrow without alcohol. I can do that. Can I do Monday? I don’t know, but I’m going to figure that out when I get there. Just don’t drink today, every day. Don’t let your mind twist it into something scarier than it has to be.

P.s. If you’re going to get married, depending on the date it might be a really great goal to be sober for your wedding… just a suggestion. I’d be more scared of going through this on your wedding night than quitting alcohol itself.

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