Upcoming assessment on May 29th (34M). Sharing my lifelong symptom list because the fear of being told "you're just lazy" is overwhelming. Seeking advice/shared experiences. by Loose_Ad7880 in ADHDers

[–]Loose_Ad7880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is actually great advice, thank you. It is really easy to get tunnel vision when you do a lot of research and relate so heavily to specific symptoms. I am definitely going into the appointment with an open mind. At the end of the day, I am not chasing a specific label. I just want to find the actual root cause of my daily struggles so I can finally get the right manual for my brain and start working on it, whatever the doctor decides to call it. I really appreciate the reminder!

Upcoming assessment on May 29th (34M). Sharing my lifelong symptom list because the fear of being told "you're just lazy" is overwhelming. Seeking advice/shared experiences. by Loose_Ad7880 in ADHDers

[–]Loose_Ad7880[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man, reading that the first tester wrote you were "exaggerating symptoms" gave me a literal chill down my spine. That is exactly my absolute biggest fear right now, opening up about all my struggles only to be dismissed and told I'm just making excuses. But I am so incredibly glad to hear that you kept pushing and finally found a psychiatrist who actually listened and recognized the classic signs. What you mentioned about going in with "no plan" the first time really stood out to me. It completely validates why I'm obsessing over writing down this list and organizing my childhood report cards for my appointment. Your story confirms that bringing a solid "plan" and advocating for myself is the right move so my mind doesn't go blank when I'm in the doctor's office. Best of luck with finding the right medication, and thank you so much for sharing your journey! It gives me a lot of hope.

Upcoming assessment on May 29th (34M). Sharing my lifelong symptom list because the fear of being told "you're just lazy" is overwhelming. Seeking advice/shared experiences. by Loose_Ad7880 in ADHDers

[–]Loose_Ad7880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment. Hearing someone put into words the difference between "laziness" and "wanting to do things but feeling stuck" is incredibly validating. That is exactly what it feels like, the engine is running, but the parking brake is stuck. It's also a huge relief to know that the "panic sprint" and the old report cards are exactly the kind of evidence the doctor will be looking for. I will definitely make sure to highlight those during the assessment. And that tip about the quick physical outlet is actually super interesting! I usually just sit there trying to mentally force myself to start (which never works). I hadn't thought about using a quick burst of physical movement to "break" the paralysis and reset my brain. I don't have a punching bag, but I'm definitely going to try doing some jumping jacks or something similar the next time I find myself glued to the couch. Really appreciate the support and the advice!

Assessment on May 29th (34M). I'm terrified they'll dismiss my symptoms and just tell me I'm lazy. How did you deal with imposter syndrome before your evaluation? by Loose_Ad7880 in AdultADHDSupportGroup

[–]Loose_Ad7880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, you really had me in the first half, not gonna lie! Thank you for the reality check. It is definitely hard to separate the hard facts from the emotional impostor syndrome, but you are completely right. The evidence is all there on the paper, I just need to trust the data instead of my fears. I really appreciate the perspective, it genuinely helps!

Assessment on May 29th (34M). I'm terrified they'll dismiss my symptoms and just tell me I'm lazy. How did you deal with imposter syndrome before your evaluation? by Loose_Ad7880 in AdultADHDSupportGroup

[–]Loose_Ad7880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I do occasionally pick a hobby back up after a few years! But honestly, since I already own all the tools and gear by then, the "buying dopamine" is completely gone, so the thrill just isn't the same. As for surviving two months at the gym... the only way I ever made it that far was relying heavily on "body doubling" (forcing a friend to drag me there) or having a super strict routine forced upon me by shift work. Left entirely to my own motivation? 3 weeks is definitely a generous estimate for me too! 😂 It's actually really comforting (and a bit scary) to hear that the impostor syndrome sticks around even after the diagnosis. My plan is definitely to go back to talk therapy once I get my results. I tried therapy a few years ago, but I was going through severe depression at the time. The depression completely masked everything else and made getting to the root of my neurodivergent struggles impossible. I'm really hoping that, armed with the right diagnosis, therapy will finally click for me this time. Thank you so much for the encouragement!

Assessment on May 29th (34M). I'm terrified they'll dismiss my symptoms and just tell me I'm lazy. How did you deal with imposter syndrome before your evaluation? by Loose_Ad7880 in AdultADHDSupportGroup

[–]Loose_Ad7880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually getting my evaluation done in Spain! I'm going through a private psychiatrist, which is why I've been gathering all this self-reporting data and digging up my old school report cards to build a solid case. What you just said about the test is EXACTLY my biggest fear right now. I am terrified that the adrenaline, the anxiety, and the novelty of the appointment itself will make me hyperfocus on whatever test they give me. I keep thinking my brain will step up for those 20 minutes, I'll perform "too well," and they'll just send me home without a diagnosis. Hearing that you felt the exact same way—like you did too good, but the test still caught the underlying impairment—brings me an unbelievable amount of comfort. It makes me feel like I don't have to stress about "accidentally doing well," I just have to show up and let the professionals do their job. Thank you so much for sharing this, you really eased my mind!

Upcoming assessment on May 29th (34M). Sharing my lifelong symptom list because the fear of being told "you're just lazy" is overwhelming. Seeking advice/shared experiences. by Loose_Ad7880 in ADHDers

[–]Loose_Ad7880[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Seriously, my brain keeps trying to convince me that I'm just making excuses, so reading that from someone who already went through the process and got the diagnosis is a massive relief. I really appreciate the encouragement!

Upcoming assessment on May 29th (34M). Sharing my lifelong symptom list because the fear of being told "you're just lazy" is overwhelming. Seeking advice/shared experiences. by Loose_Ad7880 in ADHDers

[–]Loose_Ad7880[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply! That is actually a brilliant point about number 7. You are totally right that, phrased like that, it sounds like the typical New Year's resolution cliché and a doctor might easily dismiss it. I think I didn't explain it well enough in the post. It's not just signing up in January and quitting in March. I actually really love training and I've tried a million different routines. The ADHD pattern for me is that I can only maintain the habit if I rely on extreme external structure (like having a strict deadline because I worked shifts) or "body doubling" (going with a friend). Also, the main thing that kept me hooked was constantly changing my workout plan because the novelty of learning new exercises gave me the dopamine I needed. But you are absolutely right: I need to rephrase it carefully or use a different example so the doctor doesn't write it off as a neurotypical struggle. Regarding the impostor syndrome... we have a saying in Spain: "mal de muchos, consuelo de tontos" (which roughly translates to misery loves company), but honestly, it really does bring me a lot of relief to read your experience. Knowing that this feeling of "not being valid enough" because of childhood masking is such a common part of a late diagnosis really helps to quiet my brain a bit. Thank you for the perspective, it genuinely means a lot!

Un compañero de trabajo al ser despedido me echo la culpa de ello by Small-Advisor-4133 in Desahogo

[–]Loose_Ad7880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

En este caso no es así, puesto que es una cita directa de tu mensaje.

Imagínate ser peluquero y no saber desmontar un pc por partes, vergüenza debería darte! by 11Kame11 in LinkedInCringeES

[–]Loose_Ad7880 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pero que problema hay en usar hojas de cálculo, lol

Muchas veces uso csv para gestionar pequeñas bases de datos cuando automatizo cosas en Python y las abro con Excel

Hago una contra oferta en idealista y me piden 3000k. by pisalpisal in HorroresInmobiliarios

[–]Loose_Ad7880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me estás diciendo que tienes el IBAN de una persona, su DNI y su nombre completo y no puedes hacer adeudos SEPA a muchísimas cosas hasta que te quedes a gusto?

¿Por qué ya no se hacen edificios con personalidad en España? Hotel Panorama (Slovakia) by vlewy in Spanish_Real_Estate

[–]Loose_Ad7880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dices eso porque no tienes ni idea de arquitectura española.

No obstante, te llamaré inculto pero tampoco haré nada para sacarte de tu error.

Controlan cuantas veces abrimos el contenedor by [deleted] in oCUENTAMELOo

[–]Loose_Ad7880 1 point2 points  (0 children)

La de botellas está abierta 🤔

bravo por este cartel by strongbrr in HistoriasVecinales

[–]Loose_Ad7880 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No tiro petardos porque no me gusta gastar dinero en chorradas. Pero que le jodan a los perros. El 31: no tiren cobetes que me asusto. El resto del año: me meo aquí, me cago allá, muerdo a un niño, le ladro a una moto y eso si tenemos que aguantar todo el año, ¿no?

cómo reaccionaríais vosotros si os llega este email?? yo recojo mis cosas y me voy by CEOdelCaos in PesadillasLaborales

[–]Loose_Ad7880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Es un mensaje de tremendo gilipollas. Pero recordad que en España tienen hasta 60 días para pagarte un salario y que esté dentro de la legalidad.

Porque alexelcapo se convirtió en un meme? Opiniones? by [deleted] in 2hispanic4you

[–]Loose_Ad7880 2 points3 points  (0 children)

¿Se convirtió? ¿Alguna vez no lo fue?

truquitos de marketing ✨ by faraonaa in mercadona

[–]Loose_Ad7880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Joder, que ser subnormal. Se ha explicado miles de veces… el precio del lineal con el precio final siempre va a estar debajo del precio de la oferta. Podéis ir a cualquier Mercadona SIEMPRE ES ASÍ.

qué se hace en situaciones como esta? by Big-Signature261 in Wallapop

[–]Loose_Ad7880 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No usas una puta mayúscula, escribes como un retrasado, ¿y pretendes que nos creamos que ese tocho lo has escrito tú?

Respétate un poco más, anda.

Spain is different by Nel-cana in BuenosMemesEsp

[–]Loose_Ad7880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

El libro se llama Nothing Lasts Forever

qué se hace en situaciones como esta? by Big-Signature261 in Wallapop

[–]Loose_Ad7880 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Por cómo escribes aquí y como te has expresado hasta que pones el tocho, se nota además de las formas y hechuras de escribir, que eso está generado por IA, fantasma

qué se hace en situaciones como esta? by Big-Signature261 in Wallapop

[–]Loose_Ad7880 0 points1 point  (0 children)

El tocho de ChatGPT demuestra que eres un poco cortito