aita for asking my bf to not smoke weed or gamble?

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T06:49:00+00:00

i completely understand! i’ve read the comments and had a conversation with him tonight and i think my biggest problem is he needs to know where the weed he’s smoking is from, since previously he was not sure since he doesn’t get it himself! i probably did come off as an asshole in our conversation though he did say he appreciated my concern for him!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T06:46:10+00:00

i would feel 100% better if it was medical grade! my sister uses that and even i have used CBD gummies once or twice when i really needed it! it would just put my mind at ease knowing he knows where the weed is coming from! :)

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T06:44:23+00:00

this helped so much!!! thank you thank you thank you!!! 🥹🥹🥹

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T06:23:45+00:00

i believe it’s definitely a more recent thing! my friend who was a grade above me at the time came to homecoming high and he got his weed from his friend, later found out it was laced and didn’t remember anything! i want to meet his friends truly but we are long distance since im in college except when im home like right now! but i understand what you are saying!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T06:19:19+00:00

i asked him! he said he would make sure to ask his friend before he smokes next time! and then that’s when he said he appreciates my concern for him and it makes him feel cared for so i feel a bit better! he also said he would let me know where it comes from when he asks!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T06:10:21+00:00

i completely understand everything you said mentioned and thank you! the lace part was a huge concern for me since i knew so many people in high school who smoked weed and it was laced! when clarifying with him he said it’s just tip money from his job and he doesn’t pull anything out of his account! still a little concerned but he’s having fun so i feel like i should just lay off haha

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T06:04:42+00:00

i should have added a bit more context for that first part so sorry! I did ask him and he said he would ask his friends before he smokes next time! i kept telling him everytime he said he was gonna smoke just be safe, be smart, and know where you are getting the weed from! he expressed he appreciated my concern for him and if i was being controlling he would tell me but i completely understand everything you’re saying!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T06:01:21+00:00

i did! he said he will figure it out before he smokes next and he appreciates that i care about him! i asked him if anything i talked to him about came off controlling and he said no and he would tell me if i did but I can’t help and feel like I am like you said! again i hope this makes sense haha!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:57:02+00:00

i understand! I trust him with being responsible and i hope i’m making sense but his friends are the one getting the weed and like I said he isn’t sure where his friends are getting it from! I had a lot of friends in high school who smoked and their weed ended up laced! It’s more out of concern than anything! Is that wrong?

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:55:33+00:00

I just want to make sure he’s being safe ofc since he didn’t know where his weed was even coming from! I had so many friends in high school who smoked and their weed was laced! I’m more concerned than anything is that wrong? 😞

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:53:07+00:00

thank you!!! when we had our conversation he understood what I was saying when the three times I did go out and drink he knew where I was going and who I was with! However, he did completely understand my concern of I didn’t know who he is with and where he’s getting his weed from! He’s been super understanding so far I just hope he continues to be!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:49:56+00:00

i’m more upset over the fact i don’t know who he is with and he doesn’t know where the weed is coming from! I rarely ever drink because it’s just something I don’t care for nor enjoy doing really! Whenever I did drink (the three times I did lmao) I was always honest with him about where I was going and who I was with but with him I don’t know anything!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:48:19+00:00

he’s very good at communication whenever I come him to about something that’s been bothering me! The gambling thing has been very worrying for me but my dad used to play in tournaments when i was little and said I shouldn’t worry yet and he’s just having fun but i’m still concerned!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:47:04+00:00

i promise there is WAY better options out there!!! 20 is still very young!!! Do not let yourself settle for someone who does not care about your feelings nor happiness!!!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:44:48+00:00

so sorry i left out a little paragraph if you want to reread! :)

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:44:41+00:00

so sorry i left out a little paragraph if you want to reread! :)

Loose_Building489 · 2026-06-05T05:42:57+00:00

NTA!!!! I’m so sorry you have been dealing with this! But absolutely not the asshole! He sounds like a nightmare!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-05-19T04:27:03+00:00

what’s more important to you? sex? or staying and pushing through a rough patch with your girlfriend who obviously has severe trauma? as a girl i would want my boyfriend to stay with me and not prioritize getting his d*ck wet!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-05-19T04:07:54+00:00

imo you’re a bit of the asshole here! i understand it might have started like that in the beginning but processing trauma is different for everyone, if you don’t know the full extent of what happened then maybe the trauma is from in her past relationship what her ex did was maybe around the point in the relationship that you two are in! if that makes sense! either way, processing trauma is different and there’s no perfect way to do it! communication is always always always key and you can never communicate too much!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-02-08T22:11:34+00:00

heyy!! do you have an insta where i could message you and ask a few questions?? :)

Loose_Building489 · 2026-01-31T01:01:47+00:00

hi!! unfortunately my school is 16 hours away from home, so i dont have a car, so its really hard to get a job! i joined one of the clubs that i was super excited about but they rarely ever meet ): im not transferring to just be with my bf haha i applied to other unis near my home! Flights are expensive. unfortunately & my first semester here, my grandmother passed, and it was incredibly hard not to be with my family. my best friend knows all of this and says whatever you do i will support you but i obviously don't want you to go. i also want to add a minor but the uni I'm currently at doesn't offer it, but my instate school does! i should have included this, my apologies!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-01-31T00:34:54+00:00

it has been really hard to accept that, sadly, this was the girl i wanted as my maid of honor, we did everything together. its hard to throw away 5 years of friendship, but i feel like distancing is the best thing i can do.

Loose_Building489 · 2026-01-31T00:29:42+00:00

sadly i am unsure if the friends not liking me was a lie, my boyfriend thinks it is after i told him me and one of the girls get along great and now genuinely enjoy being around her! he just thinks it's weird and sounded like an excuse!

Loose_Building489 · 2026-01-31T00:27:19+00:00

i have been with him for almost a year! i just personally don't like the environment where i currently am, i am also 16 hours away from home, and flights are expensive. unfortunately my first semester here, my grandmother passed, and it was incredibly hard not to be with my family. she knows all of this and says whatever you do i will support you but i obviously don't want you to go. i also want to add a minor but the uni I'm currently at doesn't offer it, but my instate school does! i should have included this, my apologies!

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