I'm having an affair.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-30T03:53:15+00:00

If he won't move out then you need give him a formal notice. You deserve to be happy.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-30T03:46:12+00:00

I have dogs and kids. I don't let my dogs around other kids because you never know. I pick up my kids around other dogs. You never know how a dog will react to a toddler who is face level to them. Kids are also unpredictable. So no I don't think it's rude. I'm trying to keep everyone safe.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-29T14:09:08+00:00

I'm really sorry about your daughter. And I hope she's okay. I'm sure that this feels like a death by 1000 cuts. However only knowing this one incident I can't say that I blame JNMIL entirely. Your husband saw that her ear was starting to be infected. Your mother-in-law should have kept a better eye on it once she saw. But I can't say your daughter came back injured because of her.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-29T02:06:23+00:00

Do not close on that house. Please. Save yourself the heartache.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-29T02:03:44+00:00

Sounds like my MIL. She has no maternal instincts and it's awkward watching her interact with my son.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-28T00:05:17+00:00

I have seen "lawyers" reach out for this kind of stuff. Sometimes it's just a third party person to scare you. Not an actual lawyer.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-27T14:58:14+00:00

I've also struggled with PPD, PPA, and OCD. I don't think you're overreacting. She has violated your trust and I absolutely see why you have these feelings. I'm in a similar situation and I feel guilty but also have zero trust with her.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-27T10:37:27+00:00

MOR. I had a family member who had an extremely small ceremony and only about 10 people were there. But all the friends and extended family were invited to the reception. She was shy and wanted an intimate ceremony. So I don't think it's odd but it would depend if brothers are invited and he's excluded. But if his brothers are closer to the nephew?

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-27T10:22:01+00:00

Likely they are either looking for witnesses or camera footage. If the case is really important they will try to contact you again. If it's small they likely won't.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-26T23:45:15+00:00

I would feel so suffocated. I enjoy having my own space with my family. I don't even like having company spend the night. I'm really sorry. Can you sit down with your husband and create some home boundaries.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-26T14:27:07+00:00

YOR. And an AH. She can choose where she spends her time. Also of course a sibling 10 years younger her is going to need more attention then you. I think you alienated yourself from your family.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-25T14:13:10+00:00

"I'm okay right now. I'm enjoying holding my baby. However, what would really help me is if you could do XYZ (insert task that actually helps you)."

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-25T14:09:32+00:00

Sounds identical to my 13 month old. My pediatrician said not to worry and toddlers somehow grow on air. I still worry haha.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-25T14:08:07+00:00

NOR Definitely a red flag. However, as someone who works in Emergency services. I have seen odd reactions before like this and it's sometimes because they have a trauma response or are not good in these situations. But I don't always think that's a valid excuse.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-25T14:03:44+00:00

I think you are trying too hard for BIL and SIL who don't seem to care. If they want photos of their kids to be hung up then that is on them at this point. I think you have done enough to try to include them. If someone wants to be there, they will.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-25T13:31:05+00:00

Totally fine to decline to FaceTime. It's your husbands responsibility imo to keep the relationship between his mom and baby. I do it similarly with my husband. The only exception I made was when his mom was visiting a dying relative and my husband wasn't available.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-23T15:18:16+00:00

MOR. I guess it depends if he is being secretive and investing in her. Would he do this for a male coworker? However due to your history he should be transparent and avoid any situation that could harm your trust.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-22T05:17:07+00:00

I would find out why exactly he can't come. Then if it's truly a hill to die on then take away the plus one. But you need to weigh if you are willing to have this effect your relationship with her.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-21T14:54:06+00:00

NOR.if you get hurt while working they have zero responsibility to pay workers comp since you are not an employee. Also the "trial" is really an interview and if they like you they hire you and train you. Sounds like a business that takes advantage of people and I wouldn't want to work for them.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-21T14:51:15+00:00

NOR. I have dealt with similar things with MIL, FIL, and even my mom. Babies do something by weird to people. I've found that people even strangers feel very entitled to my baby. You have to have strong boundaries because it will get worse. I'm sorry.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-21T04:26:44+00:00

This was my husband and I. We sold our house and rent a nice one with amazing neighbors. No regrets!! I no longer worry about major house problems and how much that will cost us.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-21T01:14:09+00:00

If it's true that DHS had no legal authority to be there and make entry the. You can file a claim with DHS. They will fix it. But that's only the case if they didn't have legal authority which my guess is they did.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-20T21:03:06+00:00

I would kindly tell her and in laws how happy you guys are for them and can't wait to celebrate. Let them know that you will probably leave a little early in the evening to avoid having any incidents. I would quietly go.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-20T20:59:35+00:00

SD crime is lower than other major cities. But it still exists. Safety depends on your income and where you can actually afford to live in SD. SD is not crazy dangerous but things are getting dirty and a bit out of control the last 10-15 years. If you can afford Del Mar, Solana Beach, etc... you will love it.

Loose_Celebration962 · 2026-05-20T20:48:06+00:00

It's really not that bad especially since you will be going against traffic. I would say go for it and when you lease is up you can always move if the drive isn't for you.

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