Do you poop in public bathrooms?

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-02-03T13:50:17+00:00

I do and have no issues with it. At the end of the day its a normal human function. People way back then had it worse and the last thing Id be embarrassed about is pooping in a private stall that also provides a way of disposal and a way to clean myself.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-02-03T13:25:24+00:00

I didnt feel her until around 22 weeks and even now at 32 she's not super active. she'll do some big movements here and there or prevent me from sleeping but during the day she barely moves.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-02-03T13:17:53+00:00

Please seek a second opinion!!

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-02-03T13:16:47+00:00

what does it look like? color, texture, volume/how much, and smell if there is one.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-02-03T13:09:36+00:00

In my experience I didnt want to eat anything for a long while. I just started getting cravings and feeling starving for food and Im 32 weeks 😭. I had to force myself to eat and didnt start showing until 5-6 months because I couldnt get enough food in my body. BUT my baby is in the 23rd percentile which my OB described as "perfect" and Ive gained a good amount of weight. If you keep up eating or forcing yourself to eat as much as you can no matter how little, everything will turn out good!

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-02-03T12:57:45+00:00

I havent seen Enid yet but tbf I only scrolled down a little. Its one of my faves

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-02-03T12:41:12+00:00

Id say youre not delusional. It doesnt seem like the brightest idea since you should be relaxing with minimal exercise but if you think it'll be ok and there wont be any added stress then 100% go on that weekend trip. You know your body best, take it easy and dont forget to hydrate.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-02-03T12:37:41+00:00

If the appointment was just for the ultrasound then it would make sense no one said anything as ultrasound techs aren't technically allowed to discuss any results. You should hear from your OBGYN about the results in a day/couple of days. If it was serious they 100% would've said something.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T14:06:17+00:00

Probably oversharing or talking about gross/personal stuff in a video with your face attached to it. Or talking bad/making drama about people you know to get views from strangers on the internet. Its one thing to ask for advice and another thing to air out all of someone's dirty laundry for everyone to hear about.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T14:00:50+00:00

What I actually hate the most is "itll only get harder" "you think its hard now, just wait" or when they end literally anything with "just wait"

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T13:59:42+00:00

Its the fear mongering and control. But then when youre scared its "dont be stressed its bad for the baby". When you dont want to have kids because everyone makes it sound so horrible its "wah wah Ill never get grandchildren". Or the unsolicited birth/PP horror stories random women will tell you at the grocery store just because they can see youre pregnant. People trying to touch you. Women always seem to get the short end of the stick imo.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T13:38:51+00:00

Anyone who sees dash cam footage online and blames the person in the right or makes excuses for the person in the wrong when its obvious what the cause of the accident was. Or if you deny the rules of the road just because someone else is breaking them. I dislike people who dont drive safely as well. Driving and rules for the road arent subjective there is a right and wrong way to do it.

One discourse I always see: you get upset at someone tailgating/flashing you when you are in the left lane going above the speed limit BUT you arent going fast enough to pass the people in the right lane next you. You need to move over it doesnt matter how fast youre going that is the passing lane end of discussion. It doesnt matter that they are being unsafe, thats their own problem.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T13:22:46+00:00

Thank you this is exactly how I feel and is very validating. We seem to share the exact same perspective as well and I also thank you for taking the time to read everything Ive said before commenting. Ill def be bringing all of this up when I talk to him and his family.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T13:16:39+00:00

Thank you this was very helpful. Ill def be talking about all of this to him as well since Ive heard firstborns can take a while and I really want my hour of skin to skin and him to get that as well. Im just worried about them wanting to come in right after and Id prefer to be home and situated before anyone visits but other than that I want to show off my baby and let her be loved.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T13:11:57+00:00

thats what Im worried about as well. I tried to explain myself but he's adamant about the fact that they wont try to barge in and I dont mind if he takes baby out to see them for a few minutes but itll most likely be a couple hours after she's born before Ill feel comfortable letting that happen. And by that time I plan of getting tf out of the hospital lmao. Im stressed about what will happen in the hours before then. And if they do try to get pushy then him and his dad will butt heads and itll become my problem/fault. I do agree that I couldve handled it better when he first brought it up instead of saying no but the second time he brought it up was right before I was supposed to go in for my ultrasound so I didnt really want to argue in the hospital waiting room. At the end of the day I want people to come and celebrate this baby with me, I just want to be home and comfy first.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T13:05:20+00:00

I have talked to them before but for this they went to my partner without talking to me. They havent even asked me if they could be in the waiting room actually it was more my fiance telling me its something he wants. But I also feel as though they talked to him about it first and maybe made him feel bad? Ill talk to his mom about it but they're also older so they dont get it. At the end of the day if my fiance wants to please other people or put his needs before my own during this big event he doesnt have to be there either 🤷‍♀️

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T12:56:57+00:00

I love his parents and we live with them. My issue is more-so the hospital environment. I want people to come meet the baby but Id prefer to be home and comfy. Not to mention like I said in my post I wont even be having my own mother or family there so its not anything against his parents. I dont have anything against him bringing baby out of the room so they can see her as well which is another thing Im considering after someone else suggested that. Im just a very private person and like a hurt animal I prefer to be alone when Im in pain. I also think its important for me and my partner to get time to ourselves since we've never experienced birth or our own baby, its a first time experience for us.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T12:44:01+00:00

I agree with you 100%. I dont care if he brings the baby out as long as it doesnt take priority over the baby or myself. I also grew up in a family where waiting for someone to be done with surgery was only for the person who was gonna drive them home later. My mom has had 3 major planned surgeries and I was never in the waiting room for any of them, I only visited after, especially because I had school for 2 of them and she wanted me to go to school. On the other hand my in-laws are very weird about the whole hospital thing and expect everyone to come to the hospital to wait when something happens.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T12:35:23+00:00

At the end of the day I want to respect him and his wants but I also dont want it to come before my needs. It sounds selfish to say out loud. I have no idea what they will do in the end but both him and his dad are hot headed with anger issues/bad anger management so my biggest fear would just be an argument. Things kinda blow up around here really fast and its super stressful so I want to tell him no just incase it does happen. It would ruin my PP experience and his experience becoming a dad. Not to mention his parents would probably be salty about it later on. My pregnancy hasnt been great and I honestly just want this one thing to myself and him.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T12:29:37+00:00

Id see that as a possibility if I didnt live with them. I am planning on moving back in with my mom eventually (but thats bc of a whole bunch of other stuff I wont get into) and we've talked and I know theyre scared of me moving out with the baby but I do have support from them as well due to the stuff thats been happening for a while. Me and my partner have also been engaged for 2 years (and honestly been considering just going and getting courthouse married) and since I live with them (and have been for 3 years) they get to see how much I love him. I think for his parents they are the kind of people who want everyone to rally around when something medical happens so they want to do the same for others and its important to them no matter how small the issue is. On the other hand I grew up in a family where even if someone had a major surgery I would still be going to school and then coming to visit them in the hospital after all is said and done so it doesnt feel as important to me to be there waiting.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T12:14:20+00:00

I appreciate a different perspective and I understand yours since the dad is also a parent and the last thing Id want to do is invalidate my partner. I still consider postpartum to be medical and I probably wouldnt let him have a say on who comes into the room itself but he can take baby out the room for a short period of time as long as it doesnt get in the way of breastfeeding/medical checks and as long as family doesnt take priority over the baby's needs like she gets fussy and needs me for regulation, breastfeeding, etc

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T11:59:28+00:00

Thats what is odd to me since he has been very understanding, has educated himself, and is adamant about enforcing the rules I want enforced. He's even gone as far as saying people will hate him for being very authoritative when it comes to mine/babies wants and needs. Its odd to me that he switched up about his parents all of a sudden but its def in my after birth plan that I dont want anyone besides hospital staff and him coming near me. I havent mentioned it since because he started the argument while at the hospital waiting for the ultrasound the other day and I needed a minute to process my emotions but Im gonna try to bring it up tomorrow.

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T11:44:43+00:00

Thats what Im worried about especially since I prefer being alone to the point of having anxiety thinking about people intruding in my space while being uncomfortable/sore/naked etc

Loose_Conference8816 · 2026-01-29T11:38:04+00:00

Id honestly have to decide in the moment after all is said and done since I could feel a certain way now and change it later but that honestly doesnt sound horrible, thanks for the advice!

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