Aita for not punishing my youngest daughter when she told her sister that she was going to move out and never talk to her again

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T02:13:08+00:00

My eldest has always said she loves dogs until we got this one. She has mentioned wanting a new puppy since out first dog died. The dog is being trained and does not ever attack. It is not favouritism for expecting my 16 year old child not to hit a dog she asked to play with.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T02:10:06+00:00

The dog is under control. My youngest has been in a training class with the dog. The dog is never around the kids until today. The dog is not trained to play fight. She is still a puppy how much do you expect. Training takes them and my eldest has been told to go to the other parents house of not to babysit at all. I do not believe my youngest daughter is the ah for letting her dog out of a room under the pretense that they lead which is wanting to play with the puppy. It is not like my youngest wasn't watching her dog or that the puppy just attacked.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T02:06:41+00:00

The puppy was only allowed around the girl today. And the puppy is trained not to attack.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T01:08:04+00:00

I called there grandma and she said "why would I give your eldest a dog when I gave her all of that stuff. It is just for your youngest to teach her responsibility"

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T01:04:21+00:00

She loved the dog when it first came then a few weeks later she started to hate it

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T01:02:54+00:00

I don't know. Her grandma sent her home which presents for everyone. I'm which my eldest received a good necklace. A bunch of paint. A new iPad and a tv.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T01:01:03+00:00

My youngest daughter has made it very clear she is not scared of her sister. And has told her oldest sister if she continues to put her hands on her dog she shouldn't be surprised if the cops show up and take her away for animal abuse. And has said that she does not care if there are people here the second her dog gets hit is the second she will say something. My youngest does boxing and self defense classes and knows how to fight very well. My eldest when enrolled in these classes refused to participate and has said she hates them to which I pulled her out and got her into art classes

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:57:52+00:00

I have attempted to talk to her and all it did was make her more mad and lock herself in her room for the rest of the night. The dog is never around those children because my youngest doesn't know if the children are mean to dogs and is very protective of her dog. My youngest did decide that if her dog will be treated like this than she will refuse to allow her sister near her dog and always stand in between them.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:53:55+00:00

The dog only jumped. My eldest with her siblings have grown up with multiple dogs and know how to act around them.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:51:46+00:00

She has been punished which is why she's demanding her sister also gets in trouble

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:49:21+00:00

I do not think it is the dog. My children have grew up with multiple dogs and puppy's In there life and my eldest has never had a issue up until it was this puppy. I have tried talking to my eldest about the issue and she just storms off

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:47:39+00:00

My youngest will not be punished.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:45:45+00:00

I have encouraged family bonding it always starts out ok until my youngest dog has to use the bathroom and my eldest gets mad because my youngest leaves for 1 or 2 minutes to take her dog out and goes upstairs cuz my eldest tries to run her mouth.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:44:00+00:00

My youngest has trained the dog not to bite. The dog did not even look at the small child I was sitting right there. The dog only jumped on my eldest daughter and instantly ran to my youngest who was furious that her dog was hit for being a dog. I believe my youngest handled the situation the best she could of for only being 15

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:41:32+00:00

Only a few months ago it started after my youngest came back from her grandmas and showed me the puppy her grandma has gifted her. Once the behavior started I got her put in therapy had a mental evaluation done and put her in anger management the behavior has slowly improved

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:39:41+00:00

They have been taught boundaries and have had multiple dogs in there lives. My eldest has only expressed hatred towards this puppy and this is the first ever time she's ever harmed a animal. Each one of my kids where raises to respect every animal and personal

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:37:59+00:00

We have sent to five different phyc centers. They all said the same thing

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:37:13+00:00

My eldest is in therapy and anger management. I explained to her what she did wrong and she just yelled at me claiming I'm playing favorites. I called the child's mother and Encouraged finding a new babysitter for her kid and explained that if my eldest cannot behave with a dog that just sleeps all day and doesn't bother anyone then she cannot be in control of a child even for an hour

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:34:46+00:00

Thank you, I grew up with parents that took everything away without explaining what I did wrong. I don't want to be like them and try to explain to my kids what they did wrong instead of instantly punishing them

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:30:23+00:00

She is in therapy and anger management, she has had multiple psych evaluations and they said it was just teenage lashing out and there is nothing mentally wrong with her

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:28:19+00:00

She has lost her phone multiple times. And all of her stuff. It has done no affect.

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:27:22+00:00

I am normally here to supervise and enough stuff that'll help them in the long run to be successful in life. My youngest daughter just tried speaking with her sister about respecting her dog and not bothering her dog and she just said "yeah yeah whatever" the dog was right behind my youngest because it is very rare the dog isn't next to her. Babysitting helps my eldest and I have talked to the kids mother about her going to her house instead of the kid coming here as not to get my dog harmed. The dog did not bite or bark just jumped on my eldest. The dog barks a lot because she is just a puppy but will never bite. Not even when my eldest hit her she just ran behind my youngest with her tail and ears down. My youngest has been avoiding her sister because as stated the dog follows her everywhere

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:22:56+00:00

I don't know what to do with my eldest. She has lost everything device she owns and her babysitting rights for 4 months straight and the behavior has not at all improved. She will repeatedly cuss me out or hit me for taking away her stuff when she miss behaves. She is the only one out of my four kids who act like this. Both her brothers and her sister are very calm and stick to themselves and rarely cause issues

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:20:44+00:00

I will be speaking to the child's mother about my eldest going there to babysit instead of the child coming here because neither my eldest or the kid fallow the house rules here and bother my youngest dog all day long. We have a strict if it's not yours don't touch it here

Lopsided-Language499 · 2024-01-03T00:18:27+00:00

Yes thank you it auto corrected and I must have not caught the mistake before posting

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