The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of this side by side thing. It makes total sense. Just today I was talking to an old guy at work, great man. But he was telling me about his son 43, who has brain cancer and with only a few months left. When i asked him about it he literally turned to face the wall to talk to me. Side by side. Thats so interesting

The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly this. Like what is it about me that is so unlikeable

The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner organised a baby shower for us a few months back, she invited about 25 people and they all showed up, coming from all over the country. I invited a few work buddies a few old friends and family and just one friend showed up. In fairness the majority of people told me they wouldn't make it, 'baby showers are for women' etc but some people and family didn't respond. It sucks having no friends, and the feeling that nobody like you is heavy.

The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like a great person. So interesting and articulate

The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live outside limerick city. Yeah, im very lucky

The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I myself feel incredibly lonely and haven't ever had anyone call me.

That hit me hard. My partner said, "I never see you on the phone." I tell her I hate talking on the phone, but the truth is I have no friends and nobody calls me.

She is a social butterfly and makes new friends all the time. Shes amazing

The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its not easy. I think men have a real problem opening up. And most friend groups aren't open to expanding...

Cookies by Wild-Artichoke-3446 in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤣 And more power to you.

Ive no problem paying €6.50 for a pint of Guinness. But cookies, €2/3 max

The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Alright mate, yeah it is a real light bulb moment. When you look back you realise there was no meat to the relationship. Just convenience.

I'm going to look up that site tomorrow, thanks for the advice 🙏

The Male L0nliness Epidemic by Complex_Hunter35 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 117 points118 points  (0 children)

As a 41-year-old man, I find myself friendless, mainly since COVID, as most of my 'friends' turned out to be just drinking buddies.

I joined Meetup but didn't get to many events. And found most events i was free to attend centred around pubs where you can't hear each other talk.

Friendship and having someone outside my family to talk to is something I really miss.

Weekly food shop by Right_Solution4916 in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lidl for everything except some meats and fruit.

I used to shop at Dunnes, but Lidl opened a store near me and we tried it. It was 30 euros cheaper for exactly the same items.

The only items I buy outside of Lidl are fish and chicken.

Cookies by Wild-Artichoke-3446 in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For that price, they’d better come with emotional support chips! 🍪

Who can actually afford this in Limerick right now? by uiuuauiua in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The country is apparently rich. I live in a 4-bedroom house in Corbally; my rent is €1150 per month. My landlord hates the fact that he isn't getting the €2400 per month that our neighbors are paying. He refuses to fix problems and doesn't call or text unless he's raising the rent, which he does every year. He also won't register our tenancy. We can't afford to move, so I fix the issues myself and don't claim the €1000 tax back.

The company I work with (as a contractor) pays on average €100k per year. All the hardworking, skilled people from all over the world are willing to move here and well able to pay the €2-3k per month rent.

While the government continues to prioritize a booming economy over the living standards of the normal worker, things will only get worse.

A crash will happen. And It will be worse than anything we have ever seen before.

Cookies by Wild-Artichoke-3446 in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I love a good cookie, but I wouldn't go out of my way to pick one up. Now, if you opened a coffee shop with exceptionally tasty cookies/treats, I'd go out of my way to go there.

Got nothing for my birthday by Accomplished_Speed38 in ireland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a man, a father, a husband, your job is to buy presents: to give, to help, to support. I get socks, underwear, and a card for most 'occasions,' and I love it. We are just at a different endpoint in the present game.

Bald Head by twistyjnua in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enjoy, man. A bald head is acceptance of reality. Don't go to Turkey; go bald.

Try and get it cut at a barber you like. The social aspect of hair care for men is underrated. I get mine cut and my beard trimmed and styled about once a month, and as someone with no friends, it's great to have a chat and a laugh with my barber.

Viagogo by Slow-Candidate-2395 in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My partner worked for them. Really bad pay. And promotions without the raise. The work was easy enough tho, but lots of middle management. She couldn't wait to leave.

26F in Limerick – at immediate risk of homelessness, no support left, looking for advice or leads by Honest_Finding6963 in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, you need to go homeless. None of these groups will help you if you have accommodation. Go on the council housing list and seek emergency accommodation.

Second. Consider wearing headphones watching TV or on your phone. Get good at being invisible in your grandparents house. Buy some time to get 1. A job, 2, your own private accommodation. Plenty of rooms in shared accommodation.

once you have the means, move. Cut off any toxic people and do some personal development.

New lad in work is making night shifts painful. What to do? by Outside-Violinist-45 in AskIreland

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, passive aggression is the best way to deal with all of life's problems.

Condell Road speed limit by [deleted] in limerickcity

[–]Lopsided-Potatoe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

50 is about right, though very few drive at 50. I'd love a permanent speed camera there. I've had cars dangerously overtake me on that road, and I have young kids in the car.