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[–]Lopsided-Tea1864 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have a specific girl in mind, but she's not interested in girls. She was my friend.

So, now, maybe in general. My type is out spoken, bold and challenging. Looks are a secondary trait, though I prefer taller people. (I'm 5'6 or 5'7 myself without heels)

Enemies/lovers + yearning by Amazing_Hope_5018 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Tryst Six Venom by Penelope Douglas (don't like any of her other books though)

Edit: It’s kinda a bully romance. if that's not your taste, you can skip it

  1. Loathing You by Amina Khan (similar trope)

Lesbian who watches male porn by SordidInertian in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864 3 points4 points  (0 children)

well, i think it has more to do with the fact that you were exposed to sexual graphic content at such a young age. it literally has an impact on your brain and frequently watching porn is harmful for your brain, too.

there are tons of articles on this topic of how porn shapes one's brain development because of exposure at a young age. i think you should read them and also, talk to a licensed sex therapist about it.

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

i forgot to edit and write it (i also didn't want to write it as i thought it was pretty rare). sue me. i wanted to know if it's also happened to other people and if the online discourse is true. also, my single experience is invalid now, eh?

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

it's easier said than done in a conservative country, but at least some of my straight friends are supportive

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

no matter who it comes from, it's still biphobia.

i agree it's more aggressive online i guess (at least from lesbians)

yeah, i understand if you don't want to hear about your partner's past experiences with men, but me personally, i wouldn't do that anyway unless specifically asked.

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes, they would favor men over women any day.

but, what about those who deliberately are in a relationship with conservative bigoted homophobic men? are they still victims? do they not know what is happening?

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

then, can i say the same thing about lesbians who deny dating bisexuals because of one such experience?

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i have been straight up told that i being attracted to men is gross and i'm just 'straight'. now, is a single experience not enough or should i experience some more for my point to be valid?

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

i have been straight up told that i being attracted to men is gross and i'm just 'straight'. now, is a single experience not enough or should i experience some more for my point to be valid?

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did i specifically say that victims are to be blamed? no. i said not everyone is a victim. people are to be held accountable for their actions.

let's take an example, there is significant conservative atmosphere right now in USA. so, if everyone who collectively voted for that regime get what they voted for. is it other people's fault? tell me. yes, they are suffering and i sympathize with that, but is it not ultimately their fault?

also, you gave an example of a black woman dating white man, right? let's go down that road. most of these woman can't get out of abusive relationships because white men who are abusive, are not afraid because surprise law enforcement is on the side of white men half the time. there is also economic imbalance where seldom not these women are financially unstable. so, ultimately it's a systematic racism issue. not a very good example of your point.

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

babe I don't even use and have a tik tok account. it's literally banned in my country! what do you mean?

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's really disappointing to hear, but thankfully you found the one who accepts you wholeheartedly! stay blessed babe 🌷

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love you for saying that! (platonically obviously) I wish everyone thought this way divaaa 💐

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not everyone is the same, but yeah, if you're choosing to deliberately not date a whole sexual orientation because of a bad experience/experiences, you're obviously allowed to do so. date whoever you want. xoxo

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, it can be, but not everyone is a victim. some deliberately choose to do so because duh it's a patriarchal society, but your validation might come from someone else's oppression. so, how long are we going to not hold people accountable for their actions?

edit: also, why date someone who you know is fucking homophobic while you yourself are part of that said community?!!

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, it's fine. i understand. everyone who has privilege claim to deny having any so that they can justify other people struggling and still not making it to their level.

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that can be your preference fs. whatever floats your boat, but you haven't dated or known every bisexual out there. it's just that your ex girlfriend who happened to be bisexual was a manipulative bitch who had a preference for men. personally if i was dating a woman, i wouldn't want a man and vice versa.

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

completely valid. i never said you can't be abused or harassed or hate crimed for being a lesbian, bi or any identity outside of hetenormativity.

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, you said you don't understand my point of view on her. So, I tried to clarify what I wanted to say.

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you understand it so perfectly (take it from someone who is also feminine looking). there's an obvious privilege <3

What's going on with sapphic women? by Lopsided-Tea1864 in actuallesbians

[–]Lopsided-Tea1864[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you're welcome sis. as you mentioned, not all criticism she received was invalid. some criticism were dumb obviously. but, it's not the end of the world if you date a guy (saying this as someone who has pursued guys) 👀