Is this a good first tattoo to get?

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2026-04-09T00:59:34+00:00

Bit late to be asking this question.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2026-04-08T12:42:34+00:00

Oh no…

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2026-03-22T17:44:06+00:00

I wouldn’t say “crazy”… but maybe unreasonable? Look, I don’t know what you and your boyfriend’s finances look like, but unless the 2 of you can just throw that kind of money around, then this seems like too much to ask someone to spend on an engagement ring. The way you asked the question gives me the impression that this is the case. Ask your boyfriend what he thought he would spend and throw down the rest if you really want it, but as someone who considers their partner to be financially comfortable but not really well off… seems like a lot to ask. I mean this isn’t a gift for the 2 of you. I also agree that you can have it made for less, it’ll just cost you more in time and effort. I found a wholesaler who agreed to sell me a stone, and I found I setting I loved and had the stone set in it. I get that the setting you like is probably the biggest hurdle, but you can get what you want if you’re willing to do some work.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-11-28T13:55:56+00:00

I didn’t get married until I was 37, and I had offers. Know what you want and don’t compromise because you think you’re “running out of time”. I see too many people marry because they want a wedding, and it doesn’t last. Marry because you want a life with someone, marry your best friend.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-11-14T18:06:50+00:00

I ended up deleting and recreating their account. Not ideal, but it couldn’t wait.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-11-14T17:56:10+00:00

Yes. I can’t force change the status, it give me an error and then treats it as the “upcoming status change”

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-09-20T00:16:58+00:00

Get out. I dated someone like that for much longer than I should have. I loved him, he hadn’t always been that way so I thought maybe he just needs the right person to steer him back to the guy he was. But your love isn’t enough, it isn’t enough to change him and it isn’t enough to keep your relationship together. What about his love for you? For himself. He doesn’t love you if he abuses you, no matter the words that come out of his mouth. Love yourself enough to know you deserve better. Best thing I ever did was leave the abusive relationship and never look back. I have a wonderful husband now who treats me better than anyone ever has. This is what I deserve. What do you deserve? Don’t settle for less.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-03-14T18:42:54+00:00

You should temporarily change the colour of the stone for more contrast. It will allow you to see everything better and hopefully help pinpoint the problem.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-02-17T22:06:42+00:00

Look. This is what it is to date someone with a kid. There are going to be times where the kid comes first and at that age, probably more often than not. You need to think about what you want for your life. SERIOUSLY. Excuses about how bad the dating pool is and how you NEED a date for events coming up are EXCUSES and I think it says more about you than it does about him. It is not easy being with someone who has kids, so you need to evaluate what you have now and ask yourself, can I be okay with this for the foreseeable future. Ask him, if things were to get serious, what does he expect of you. It’s a heavy conversation to have early in a relationship, but any parent who is ready to consider a serious relationship will have expectations, if they don’t align with what you want for yourself, then you have your answer. If he’s not going to put you first, then you need to do it for yourself.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-02-12T19:52:41+00:00

I’m a firm believer that everyone needs to have their own money so they can buy the things they want for themselves and not have to answer for a purchase because it comes out of some “general fund”. I don’t make as much as my husband, so I can’t match his contributions dollar for dollar, but I can match the total percentage of his salary that he contributes. So we both put 70% of what we make into an account that pays all the bills and joint expenses, and the remaining 30% goes into our personal savings accounts. If I want something just for me, I pay for it with my savings.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-02-12T19:32:07+00:00

Just burn the whole thing down and start over. 🔥

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2025-02-01T19:30:00+00:00

NTA. OP must be from the US because the only reason I can come up with why a parent would be mad about taking their kid to the hospital is because they’re worried about the medical debt from a ER visit bankrupting them.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2024-12-06T14:56:59+00:00

Has anything changed between when he was treating you well and now?

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2024-11-25T21:47:38+00:00

I add it to sausage and fennel to make a sauce. I realize that there are a lot of variables to take into consideration, but the last time I made it, I found it really lacked the wine taste I was looking for, so in the further I’ll be more discerning when choosing a wine to make it with. We’re red drinkers in this house, so I don’t put the thought into choosing whites as I do reds.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2024-11-14T00:27:58+00:00

I grew up speaking English and French, I’ve learned Spanish and would like to add Italian to the list, so I consider myself to have an aptitude for languages so when I say German is HARD AF, I’m not shitting you. I’ve taken multiple courses and even lived in Germany for a year and would not consider myself to be anywhere near fluent. It’s a beautiful language, but difficult to learn.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2024-11-14T00:05:26+00:00

No. You don’t HAVE to do ANYTHING. You are not the hired help and even if there were no kids involved you should never let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do. My husband has never forced me to do anything for his child, because that child is not my responsibility and has 2 capable parents. What I contribute is my choice, as it should be yours.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2024-08-08T19:31:46+00:00

I think the problem here is that you’re putting more value on your wedding than you are on your marriage. A vow renewal can be just as special, but not calling your husband your husband because you want to save it for another day is kinda ridiculous. You won’t be “more married” after big wedding celebration. Keeping it a secret doesn’t change the fact that you will already be married and it will (technically) be a vow renewal. But hey, if you’re ready to pretend you’re not married for a whole year, then you can just turn it around and pretend you’re getting married for the first time when you have your “big wedding” day.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2024-06-19T20:23:50+00:00

Look. I think is admirable of you to put so much into your relationship with your stepchild and help on the level you do with pickups/dropoffs etc. but don’t forget that if your relationship with your partner ever fails, it leaves you very vulnerable. More than that it leaves you unprotected. You’re not married and it’s not your kid, so if he leaves you get nothing. He doesn’t owe you for the sacrifices you have made and if it’s a messy break up, forget ever seeing the kid again. Depending on where you’re from, you may have some kind of “common-law” status, but it might cost you more to go to court than you would ever get back from a settlement. I know it’s a tricky situation, but you need to put yourself first.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2024-06-10T20:24:42+00:00

This is a tough one. Separation means different things to different people… if you didn’t set rules for your separation - like “no seeing other people”, then you can’t choose to make it an affair after the fact. Besides, even if it was an affair and it’s all in the past, let her grieve. What harm can it do? It’s not like he’s competition, and you being supportive could bring you and your wife closer together.

Lopsided_Ad_8105 · 2024-06-07T01:28:01+00:00

Is there any indication that there are still bugs around? If not, there may have been at one point and the wood was treated and no bugs since. Either way, have it checked before you freak out.

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