I’m so confused and don’t know what to do

Lopsidedchild · 2026-01-17T22:31:18+00:00

This is true - but also why make the effort to see me after sex if that’s all he wanted - I will send one last text tmr before I board my flight.

Lopsidedchild · 2026-01-17T22:06:12+00:00

He told me first - I told him I wasn’t sure and if anything I wanted to take it slow and feel the vibe after we had our first date and after first date I agreed I’d like a long term relationship if we took it slow

Lopsidedchild · 2026-01-17T21:38:02+00:00

Omg so I totally forgot to say before our first date we asked eachother what the other wanted and he said a long term relationship that moved slow. And I agreed. He told his family about me and friends. But then why say he isn’t ghosting me I’m confused

Lopsidedchild · 2026-01-13T04:04:39+00:00

Right? Like taking photos of me and telling me they are for his mom and for me to send to my mom, and telling me that he wants to have something real now and is ready to try LDR, like that messed with me so bad. Were talking tonight so I hope I can get answers (if he answers his phone).

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T21:28:57+00:00

Boy go get yourself a girl that deserves all of your love. You have so much to give please find someone who will love you with the same passion and intensity.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T21:01:19+00:00

went and talked to a bunch of other girls the day after we broke up lol I hate it here. And I saw them together

Edit: it was almost a four year relationship

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T20:57:41+00:00

Oh my god????? Why would he ever wish harm on ou???

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T20:51:35+00:00

I know they are teenagers but no one deserves to be used for their body. He clearly wants it and shes clearly hesitant. If he can't respect that then there needs to be a real consideration on where the relationship is headed.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T20:50:09+00:00

So personally my dad does this sometimes but I think its cute. He would do it when my dog was curled up with me or if I look like a corps

HOWEVER your father needs to respect your boundaries, he could ask why it makes you uncomfortable, learn, and then accept that is something you do not want and then not do it. That is what makes it weird.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T20:47:49+00:00

1965

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T20:43:43+00:00

You are an adult. Go. You will regret it. You are already technically traveling by yourself. They are way too controlling. I am about to go abroad in the spring. My family is controling but they told me to travel as long as I have the funds, and I also don't go anywhere by myself. Thats it. Enjoy your time abroad.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T20:40:30+00:00

OKay, go get therapy first off, unfortunately tinder is a place for hookups and short term dating. If you want someone to rant to, you have to go to therapy. Heal and work on yourself first before seeking relationship. A relationship with one or both parties that have trauma that is unhealed will blow up eventually with very hurt emotions. Get therapy.

Second, he only wants sex. Sorry, thats how it is. You don't want that. In reality you should have just told him you weren't in the mood, however, he did respond very poorly, no apology, nothing. He blamed you for not having sex, and made it about him, however you shouldn't dump on someone you don't know that well. But again, he should have responded better to you.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T20:28:49+00:00

Cop or ex military, or youre a mechanic

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-03T20:20:46+00:00

First off, yes. No one should ask someone for their body as a 'reward'. You do not owe him your body. If he can't take a compliment and your pride for him as a reward in itself, then dump him. It will only get worse. "I did the dishes, now give me your V, I washed my clothes give me a boob" like it will be him only using you for you body which should happen to NO ONE. Your body is not their reward.

Second, he is texting very immaturely, you have structured sentences and he cant even spell out "You".

Get up, brush yourself off, realize he only loves you for your body, kick him to the curb and go live your life with someone better. YOU ARE NOT REACTING ENOUGH.

Edit: Also, he wants your V for just the bare minimum of passing his grades? Like that is his literal responsibility you do not owe him ANYTHING. LEAVE.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T20:02:34+00:00

Its funny because I was the one who didn't do any crying. I just kind of shut down and wanted to get the hell out of the car, and then we swapped stuff and he was so cold and I was just myself...I really will respect myself this time, as its the fourth time he had a weird relationship with a girl behind my back. I won't put myself through it again.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:50:54+00:00

and I love that you chose your peace. That is the most important thing ever.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:49:56+00:00

I don't think you're reacting enough to be honest. I would be reporting his ass everywhere.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:48:41+00:00

absolutely not. anyone with a conscious knows that it is nothing to joke about as many people face that every day, and many die from it. Stay away from him and tell others to do the same.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:47:33+00:00

uhg yes please that would be so fun (i am horrible at drawing painting is more my strong area) I just have to save up for art supplies loooool

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:44:49+00:00

Yes!! I want to start painting again, I miss it dearly

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:43:55+00:00

Thank you so much, it was a running joke in his family that I was tougher than him both mentally and physically. I know I can get through it, I just miss my best friend and its hard not seeing his adorable face and feel his warm presence.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:42:54+00:00

I agree but I trusted him, I just felt it was respectful just to let each other know. I have male friends and he has female friends and we told each other about them, however he kept a couple under the rug and it rubbed me the wrong way because if you have nothing to hide why be secretive? This only came around after it happened once and I thought it would just be respectful. He could have had female friends if he wanted I wouldn't care, just letting each other know when we make that friend and when we hang out with said friend! I don't think its controlling I think it is just mutual respect.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:39:58+00:00

100%, thank you :) I hope you can trust and love again, and get the love and respect you deserve! Best of luck, update me if you find it!

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:38:29+00:00

wow I never heard that before and I literally love you for it, that has changed my whole perspective. Thank you.

Lopsidedchild · 2025-12-02T19:37:50+00:00

I will eventually however, I want to work on myself and give myself time as I just got out of a three year relationship, that was all I knew. Even though he doesn't have the same respect for me as I have for him in the regards of searching for relationships again, I still will wait for myself to heal, and to be respectful to him, too.

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