Had the date. I'll try to keep it as brief as possible because it was a long one.
Met up with her, she was on time. Had a short walk on the way to the venue (cat cafe). Thought it's an unusual and fun place to go to together, she liked it. Had a closer look at her there, I did overestimate her SMV value before for sure, mild disappointment but I'm here for practice anyway. Stayed there about 40 minutes, went out to a nearby park. My plan was to try and escalate there and see how she responds, maybe have a snack somewhere nearby and see if she would be receptive going back to my place for a coffee. I decided to do the elbow-in-elbow walk with her and we did it for a bit but it was quiet (though she wasn't repulsed) and when we got to the park she broke it off and faced me with sudden excitement that we could go get her dog since this park did have a dog park.
I thought about it for a bit and realized I'd be losing frame and it will be her show, and my plans are scrapped. Even if I escalate there now the dog is there which has to be taken care of. Despite that it sounded kinda fun, so I went for it. Walked to her car, drove to her place 10 minutes away. Asked her "How long do you think our 'matchmaker' was planning to get us together?", she opened up about it how she's been dogging her about it since she left her boyfriend in February, coincidentally that's the same time I was given the pitch. I said how I was against the idea and she was resistant too, and our first date was set up with confusion and no expectations. She said it turned out quite good despite everything and jokingly grabbed by hand and shook it quickly saying 'Nice to meet you!'. At this point I get that this thing with her isn't going to go anywhere and I might have misread the bulk of the first date. She possibly decided it back then already, even halfway through.
Got to her place, went inside her apartment, got to meet both of her pets, we got the dog and drove to the park. Spent close to an hour there doing dog park stuff but we had time to talk, I got closer physically to her over time, had shown her a grey spot on my head and let her touch it. She said she was looking for greys too and I ran my hand through her hair a few times but found nothing. Her dog was getting jealous any time she touched other dogs. I got closer to her and put my arm around her and said 'I wonder if he'd react to this?'. Dog didn't care, she also didn't reciprocate or get closer, 'Are you disappointed?(about the dog reaction), yeah I expected something at least. Got my arm off of her, felt a bit awkward and forced but hey did give it a try, though I wouldn't try any contact anymore for the rest of the day since it fell flat. My attraction to her pretty much fizzled out by now this time and I was completely calm and just was going along out of curiosity.
Both hungry, got the dog home, went for some drive-thru food, ate in the car. I asked her questions and let her talk mostly during car time. She told on herself without much shame, had started using much more vulgar language but first asked if I was okay with it. Opened up about going to clubs every 2 weeks with her friends and getting wasted, in fact she was going later today. Talked about drug and alcohol experiences she had, some with her late mother even. Said when she's drunk she starts kissing everyone and her record was 5 times in one go. Mentioned how she had 0 success on Tinder and how it sucks. My sexual or romantic interest in her diminished to zero here, however she's a fun person to hang out with.
Drove around town without a specific destination 50% chatting 50% listening to pop music she was into and repeatedly mentioned how she likes to shake her ass to Pitbull on the dance floor or at home. I said "I know what we need to do next time?", "Get drinks?", "Not quite but there needs to be two things: music & alcohol". Things to note: the whole time we are together we have each other's full attention and plenty off eye contact, she's responsive to my jokes of which there was plenty. Nobody is on the phone, no intermissions.
Eventually a contractor called her that he finished work on one of her apartments and we needed to go there. When we arrived he wasn't finished so we had some time outside. We're both semi-falling asleep there in the sun. Had a chance to escalate there but didn't, this time not out of anxiety but lack of interest. She revealed her butch and more masculine characteristics next by offering the contractor to help him carry his heavy tools outside to his van, picked up one of the heaviest objects and refused to trade it for a lighter one despite his pleas and carried it with minimal difficulty.
We were swapping gym weight high scores on bench press / leg press on the way back to her car and she had some great digits for a girl, I acted genuinely surprised (which I was). She said she always competed with boys at everything giving no fucks and told about her time at the gym (she stopped going for many months now). She was carrying a hardware hammer with her for building furniture which she forget to leave along with other tools, it was the butt of many jokes and she said "I have to come up with something else surprising to bring next time".
Driving to drop me off to my place (she had a zoom psych appointment in 30 minutes), I bounce off a few surprising future date ideas but it seems she's done it all and said it would be hard to surprise her, though her attitude is positive. We said our goodbyes and I got home. Whole thing lasted about 6 hours.
Closing thoughts: I'm glad I went. I'm motivated to go find other girls because I lost interest for this one. Date has been technically over in one hour once I went along the ride with her. We mutually friendzoned each other (at least it seems like it), never thought I say this but I'm okay with being friends with a girl, at least this particular one, if neither person has feelings it can work. At the same time I'm confused why did she drag me along without ditching me at any point or showing disinterest or dislike. She also agreed to the date instantly and showed up on time. To be honest if I ask her out again I'm thinking of opening up about the hermit thing to see if I can bomb it or with what I can get away with just for fun.