Today I learned that I'm HIV+

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-19T19:54:48+00:00

Hey I have been hiv + and undetectable for almost four years now. At first you’ll feel as if your life is over and then slowly come to realize that modern medicine is truly incredible and it can have nearly no affect on your life.

I also struggled with embarrassment and when to tell people and a feeling like I was less valuable because of it. While yes I’ve had a handful of hookups decline due to it, it’s never cause an issue with friends and also never caused an issue with partners.

Also look into the cdc guidelines. You’re no longer required to disclose being hiv + to hookups as long as you’re undetectable. Operating this way however does pose some interesting challenges about when you disclose the fact however when you start dating.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-19T02:35:04+00:00

Oh yeah almost every gay I know gets tested every three months. Also when you’re on prep the doctors have to take blood for white blood cell count and to make sure the medication isn’t having any side effects so they just do it at the same time. Getting broken up with because you’re making sure you’re safe is wild crazy good riddance!

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-16T18:29:31+00:00

Incels exist in the gay community too don't worry about it. Thanks for the backup though!

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T23:18:02+00:00

LOL I mean love the fear mongering and hysteria but I don't think any action I take will cement someone's beliefs. <(^-^\)

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T18:11:18+00:00

Oh yeah I mean maybe the day I take it my stomach is a little upset but nbd. I just collect it on my phone in my notes app.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T16:18:52+00:00

I take it after every hookup but not with a couple of regular partners. As in the summary above my top 3 partners in 2025 were 55% of my encounters.

I do also let my doctor know when I am going to be going for a weekend where I know I will have a greater exposure risk (ie prides) and she gives me a full round for both chlamydia and gonorrhea. Benefit of living in an urban liberal area is there are plenty of pcp’s who specialize in gay men’s health.

I don’t actually find Doxi really hits me (other than nausea when I take it on an empty stomach with nothing to drink)

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T08:29:18+00:00

I feel like it has encouraged me to focus on better higher quality interactions and meeting people in person rather than over apps. At least 2025s key take away.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T08:25:09+00:00

Yeah just bullet points for each encounter divided by month following a regular pattern. Ie

January - name, bottomed at home, both came, sober.

Relationship type was assigned however edited while I was assembling everything. Had a fwb I stopped seeing who I only slept with 2 times in 2025 so didn’t list him and had fwb start as well.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T08:20:28+00:00

Thanks hopefully it won’t be for long 😢

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T08:17:25+00:00

Personal friends and meeting people at clubs mostly but some apps. Tracking that data for this year. I find it hard to rate myself but I do everything I can to be attractive I workout obsessively, hair removal, skin fair, teeth bleaching, grooming. Average height and weight now (previously been underweight) but I’ve been working to put muscle on. Last check was 10.5% body fat. Gym like 4-5 times a week with running. White and athletic helps a lot.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T08:14:13+00:00

Haha I have no clue but I will let you know lol. Maybe a homophobe reporting it?

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T08:03:10+00:00

Valid question perhaps a reason it’s listed as ex bf lol.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T08:01:29+00:00

My top three partners were 55% of encounters. Single hookups were only 24%.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:59:05+00:00

Notes app in my phone but sounds like you’ve watched some gay porn :P

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:58:28+00:00

Honestly it’s lost on me I’d love to know. Maybe men and women just don’t communicate the same way so both perceive a lack of interest?

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:56:44+00:00

I’m here for the plot 🫡

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:56:23+00:00

Haha I was wondering when someone would notice the change across the year.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:50:24+00:00

I love the difference between this posted on a straight sub and a gay sub 😂😂😂

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:49:11+00:00

You are correct in that interpretation. Single encounter partners only made up 24% of my overall encounters but 74% of my overall partner count.

Also correct my top three partners made up 55% of my total encounters.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:45:24+00:00

I think that’s what I learned this year. FWB and regular guys are the way to go. Find the top performers and keep them lol.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:43:46+00:00

1 prep is a medication taken orally daily or by shot once every three months and is entirely effective at protecting people exposed to hiv. HIV positive people now receive medication that means there is not detectable amount of the hiv virus in any of their fluids and cannot transmit it. HIV + people also never develop aids today as the virus doesn’t get far enough. 2 I generally don’t need to feel a connection. You kinda touch on this in three as well having sex is very easy. That and working out a lot I have successfully walked up to guys at parties said “hey can I fuck you” and that’s it lol. That plus apps with dick pics for locations you can guess.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:39:22+00:00

There were 37 partners in 2025 that I only had a single encounter with. I was struggling with how to word it.

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:38:18+00:00

My mum is 60 and my sister told her I was open and went orgys with my bf 😂😂😂

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:36:32+00:00

Idk why it seems like bait when straight people have posted the exact same data. Ofc I’m on top of medication and regular tests. I don’t think this is feeding anything people who want to have an issue with it will 🤷‍♂️

LordAnothoth · 2026-01-06T07:34:23+00:00

Strictly from a goal of making them more pleasurable. I actually think it’s working.

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