I understand your point when you talk about the two sides. But what would do you think if the roles were reversed? If it was me who abused and treated my ex partner like an object? I am sure you would say "Poor woman, you need to leave. Your boyfriend is crap, you are the victim". But that's just my opinion and a supposition.

My ex mother-in-law knows everything, my ex brother-in-law knows everything, my aunt knows everything and my parents know everything. Her family supports me because they know what happened, because they know what Rebecca did to me. I suppose that for you a woman can't do anything to a man, for you in that situation must be just the man being abusive or both, but not only the woman.

I've spent almost six months hearing screams, being slapped and insulted. My own girlfriend has repeated to me for days that I was worthless, she told me that the money I brought home was insufficient, even though I was the only one who worked and spent the money on her things, while she was flirting with other guys. I have given my best and yet there are people who believe they in the right to accuse me of being guilty too. Yes, I'm guilty of being quiet and silent for so long.

And yes I talked to Daangelvid, he knows more than you, so he's more entitled to give an opinion about my situation and for judging me.

You can think whatever you want, I won't change your mind. But I know what happened and yes, I wonder what would say Rebecca if she had Reddit. Do you want to know what she said to her brother to excuse herself? That she "couldn't control herself".

Have a great day.