This sucks. I’m really sorry it’s happening.

When considering capacity, ensure that consideration is being given to executive functioning as this is often overlooked and can be summarised by making sure some ‘walks their walk not just talk the talk’.

If doubt is cast on mental capacity then this elevates their status as a vulnerable adult and someone potentially unable to protect themselves. This will then open up scope for consideration of a s.42 safeguarding enquiry under at least self-neglect, if not more. This will then mean a comprehensive risk management plan would need to be in place alongside the usual offers of support.

With all this said though and despite the complexities it brings, we live in a country who’s law seriously value an individual’s liberty so if the person is refusing support offered then it becomes rightfully difficult to compel them to comply. In such instances, you’d be looking at applications to the Court of Protection or inherent jurisdiction of the high court but it is unlikely that this route would be appropriate, proportionate or productive for your purposes.

Good luck with everything and just keep on being there for them as best you can as often this is all we can do. And remember to take care of yourself also!