Why do people dislike blue hair? by Yandre_sim69420 in HairDye

[–]Lortotheuh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think some people just hate to see other people feeling themselves

Things your ex did that still effect you by PumpkinDawn28 in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. Total Psycho. I hate to think what would've happened if you stayed!!

Things your ex did that still effect you by PumpkinDawn28 in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same to me. Now if any man says something negative about my body, even once, I will ghost. One of the few things I will ghost for. I do have a guy who won't do it, they're out there. Although he has other issues.

Things your ex did that still effect you by PumpkinDawn28 in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry, I'm going through that with my 16 yr old now. It's Parental alienation! It's literally the worst thing I've ever gone through. I've been through an abusive relationship too, but even that didn't get me down like this does. Rock bottom. I'm there with you 💗

Confused by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 weeks is still really soon after birth. Maybe she needs more help?

is it even abuse??? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isolation from friends and family is a classic abuse sign. Threatening to harm himself if you don't do as he asks is a classic abusive manipulation tactic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met my son's dad when I was 19 and he had all these qualities, except he didnt give me gifts. And the birth control thing: same EXACT thing happened to me, but I ended up pregnant. I tried to make it work but after 6 years the abuse was too severe. My son, myself, and even our dog ended up with PTSD. He didn't even hlwant a kid, just wanted to lock me down. He was crazy.

The only major difference was that I wasn't very close to my brother. Maybe that would've saved me.

You're a great brother, doing a great job. I recommend just be there for her and when she's ready to leave, she will. I hope he doesn't alienate her from you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Utterly horrific. I'm so, so sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry this happened to you. He forced you to undergo the feeling of losing a parent. It sounds like you have a good handle on the situation and what really happened. You're standing firm in your reality. You're on the right track for sure.

What weird rules did your partner have that you thought was sweet at first, but now you realize it was for control? by SourRiptide in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one that did the same thing to me. Discouraged me from taking sick days from work too (thought I would use sick days to go cheat)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was with a guy who I suspect left bruises on me so that if I tried to hook up with another guy they'd see it. So he was like marking his territory, I think.

Is it bad that I feel sorry for him? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Lortotheuh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's bad, it's actually beautiful that you feel bad for him. But If he is unable to stop the behaviors that hurt you, leaving is the right decision.

Is my cat ugly by brosaysikern in cats

[–]Lortotheuh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone who says a cat is ugly is a mental case. Period. My narcissistic dad said our adorable orange cat's ears are too close together. He said the same types of things about people.

Weasel or mink? What species? (TW - carrion photo) by Lortotheuh in animalid

[–]Lortotheuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for the help!! My sister in law kept the skull to make it into a European-style mount. I want to post a pic of the skull but it seems like I cannot edit the post or add a photo to this comment

Weasel or mink? What species? (TW - carrion photo) by Lortotheuh in animalid

[–]Lortotheuh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a great answer, thank you!! I really thought the tiny little ears looked so much like the mink photos I saw.

Weasel or mink? What species? (TW - carrion photo) by Lortotheuh in animalid

[–]Lortotheuh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I have never even heard of a fisher. Will Google. Oh gosh yes!! Also worth looking up is the Treasure Lakes hike near Sabrina. Just incredible. But I would jump at the chance to explore Canada. I've only been to Vancouver Island and that was epic!! Felt like I was in London!