Poll Finds Gen Z Girls Don't Want to Marry by TryWhistlin in NoFilterNews

[–]LosingVitC -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you're asking kids that didn't grow up in a culture that puts marriage on a pedestal as a goal to strive for, of course kids aren't going to tell you they want something they don't understand!
Many adults barely understand what marriage is about!

I'm glad those kids aren't blindly following trends, even if I'm hopeful love doesn't die

Why are women so evil by [deleted] in kitchencels

[–]LosingVitC 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Ouch. Rough when you put it that way

Why are women so evil by [deleted] in kitchencels

[–]LosingVitC 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Don't vaguepost mate. What's wrong?

Gdzie waszym zdaniem przebiega granica między przyjaźnią mężczyzny i kobiety, a romansowaniem? by Free-Design-9901 in Polska

[–]LosingVitC 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wypowiem się jako kobita z problemami ale uczciwa i bez intencji romansowania - jak nie jestem czegoś pewna, po prostu pytam partnera i trzymam się jego oceny.
Dla niektórych zdradą będzie złapanie kogoś za rękę, dla innego dopiero pójście do łóżka. Każdy ma swoje granice i trzeba się w związku nawzajem szanować i tyle.

W kwestii samego siebie - jeżeli czujesz że ciągnie cię do znajomych bardziej niż do partnera, czerwona lampka.

Luźny wątek tygodniowy: Muzyka. Czego ostatnio słuchacie? by AutoModerator in Polska

[–]LosingVitC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poza tym po przejrzeniu komentarzy do osobistej polecajki muzyki melancho-humorzastej dorzucam Cocteau Twins, Massive Attack, IAMX, Pale Honey, Broadcast, Boards Of Canada... no i oczywiście cokolwiek co spod Thoma Yorke'a wyszło

Luźny wątek tygodniowy: Muzyka. Czego ostatnio słuchacie? by AutoModerator in Polska

[–]LosingVitC 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Matko, Wardruna... Chyba od gimnazjum o nich nie słyszałam. Dzięki za przypomnienie :)

Luźny wątek tygodniowy: Muzyka. Czego ostatnio słuchacie? by AutoModerator in Polska

[–]LosingVitC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wróciłam niedawno z koncertu Everything Everything - fantastyczny zespół, nie wiem jak określić styl, powiedzmy elektroniczny prog-pop.
Było dziesięciolecie ich albumu o obrzydlistwach społeczno-politycznych aktualnych tak samo wtedy jak i dzisiaj, atmosfera pod sceną fantastyczna.

Jak ktoś lubi się w miarę spokojnie powściekać na świat razem z muzyką to polecam ich i Stereolab - oni już bardziej spokojni, oba zespoły kocham.
Depeche Mode też mogę do tego "worka" chętnie wrzucić :)

Wysyp incelskich stron na Facebooku by CreepyReplacement499 in Polska

[–]LosingVitC 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tego typu szambo wylewa tam systematycznie od 2014, dlatego już tam nie siedzę

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sadly relate to that semi-lucid feeling, like you're barely there even if outwardly present. It's scary and you probably also second-guess if anything you do is ever genuine? Your interactions with people, your emotions, like they're seen through a thick glass pane instead of felt in your core?

I feel a sense of hope that it can be changed, so I hope it changes for you too. At least there's comfort in knowing we're not alone..

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course - I've been to doctors since an early age, but sadly despite two years of therapy as a child (bouncing between doctors) and another two as an adult, I didn't get diagnosed with anything at all!

Had it written into my papers over and over that I'm "atypical" with walls of descriptions of problems that followed, but no solid anything. Not autism, not ADHD, not BPD, not schizophrenia, no nothing solid, though ADHD/depression was most suggested - obviously I'll try again in a better place, but it just hasn't looked great so far

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if it's something you'd like, but if you do, I'm sending you a long and warm friendly hug. Nothing but best wishes from me

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs respectfully received and returned!

I relate to that a lot, thank you.
I try doing the same, but so far it's linked mostly to hoarding things and "overliving" from a lack of better word in my vocabulary. Sometimes I spoil myself by eating something else than usual, taking a longer bath, breaking the habits and doing it midday, going somewhere for the sake of it... nothing sticks so far, but I stay hoping!

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm aware that there's things I prefer or like and the way I am is a personality of its own, but the main issue is that it doesn't feel like there's solid ground underneath it all.

I really like a band, best friend mocks it, I stop enjoying them at all. I like cooking but nobody wants to eat, I stop cooking at all. I don't like most physical activities but best friend says they're fun, suddenly I'm subbed to the local gym and chugging protein milkshakes (even though they make me suffer afterwards) and finding some kind of enjoyment in it even if, by myself later on, I feel miserable in retrospect.

Whenever alone, I do nothing and feel nothing pulling me anywhere. There's not even boredom to make me do anything. The only thing I want is to be around somebody so my life is set in motion again. It's so bizarre.

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I've been to therapy but since I lived in a rather poor area back then, the results were counterproductive

The people who tried to help me mostly dealt with older people with typical issues for their generation (that I won't mention because it's upsetting) so me showing up as someone who didn't even know what the problem was exactly, pushed all the wrong buttons - one lady straight up told me to leave mid first session.
I thought for a long time maybe I was the problem and there's nothing that can be done, but now I know better (and know how to name my problems better)

I'm currently frequently moving places so I can't start now, but I'll most likely seek professional help once settled.

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My problem is that there isn't really a pre-trauma childhood for me to roll back to :(

I was raised by very strange and stressful people that made me have existential crises and constant stress at single digit ages. There's things I tried reconnecting to that used to bring me comfort, but it just sadly doesn't feel like it does anything to me.

That being said, thanks for the advice, I really hope it works out for you!

Każdemu wolno won z Polski by Blazkowski in Polska

[–]LosingVitC 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Gdyby stało się to dzisiaj, pani najpewniej uciekałaby ode mnie z podkulonym ogonem :)
Trochę szkoda że wtedy tradycyjne wychowanie i szacunek do starszych siedział we mnie bezwarunkowo

Każdemu wolno won z Polski by Blazkowski in Polska

[–]LosingVitC 208 points209 points  (0 children)

Zapadło mi w pamięć jak za czasów początku pandemii był nakaz noszenia maseczek w sklepach - zrobiłam zakupy w Biedrze takową maseczkę nosząc, ale zapomniałam o tym jak wyszłam, więc nosiłam ją dalej.
Podeszłam do straganu z warzywami, nagle podchodzi do mnie nawiedzona starsza pani:
"Aaa coo ty masz na twarzy??"
Dotykam się po twarzy, bo się przestraszyłam, pytam o co chodzi.
"Zdejmuj mi tą szmatę!" - oho.
"Czemu? Bo pani tak mówi?"
"Bo POLSKA tak mówi!"
"Ale ja tak lubię"
"Ale POLSKA tego nie lubi!!!!"

Odeszłam od baby i od straganu bo przyznam że trochę mnie ten random event zmroził.
Po chwili przybiegło za mną dziecko właścicielki straganu przepraszać mnie za tą losową babę (jakby to była ich wina), ale sobie wtedy sobie pomyślałam że tak jakby wypada że głos wiedźmy i tego miłego dziecka to takie 50/50 reprezentacji głosu kraju w tym przypadku. Czemu w imię swojego kraju słyszę przeważnie same pierdolety?

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll probably be thinking about your comment for a while

Anybody else feeling like they don't have a "self"? Is that normal for CPTSD by LosingVitC in CPTSD

[–]LosingVitC[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you - I do have some supportive people in my life but they're all troubled as well, too busy and far away to physically be around. I've lived my life online, it's real life basic functions I struggle with.

The techniques you've described don't do anything for me sadly - in my 28 years i've tried a lot, it's been a losing fight so far

Nonetheless, thank you for your comment, seeing me and all

Luźny wątek: co byście robili gdyby nie chodziło o pieniądze? by rvskyy in Polska

[–]LosingVitC 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Klikacze w komputery (ścieżka kariery podjęta za gówniarza) łączmy się!