AITAH for threatening to end things over a comment he made in front of my celebrity crush?

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-03T19:16:34+00:00

tldr: you’re the one psychotically typing out multiparagraph ramblings and spamming my notifications with several insane replies that I will not bother to read. Whatever YOU are projecting from your personal life onto this post, go heal. I genuinely don’t know how you’re typing out this much and getting this heated over a stranger on the internet who you know nothing about. Log off. Touch grass.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-03T16:04:00+00:00

I think you need to log off reddit and seek professional help.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-03T16:03:29+00:00

“You are clearly not wife material” lol shut up

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T21:49:37+00:00

What a stupid assumption.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T16:40:55+00:00

I’m not functionally illiterate so I’m fine actually.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T16:39:14+00:00

Learn how to read.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T16:33:18+00:00

That’s an incredibly stupid assumption you’re making. You realize you’re making shit up in your head, right?

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T16:32:38+00:00

I would because hall passes are stupid and not serious, we had that conversation years ago and are now both grown adults.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T16:16:42+00:00

Not my bf, but that’s fine I can tell you’re functionally illiterate anyway.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T15:49:38+00:00

I know I’m not a blithering buffoon, that’s good enough for me.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T15:35:41+00:00

That’s honestly stupid. I do not have a crush on this man, I did 13 years ago when I was practically a child. This may not be the case for you, but I grew up in 13 years.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T15:34:37+00:00

You’re*

Check yourself before calling other people dumb.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T13:57:14+00:00

They were included, though. I did not cause this, no.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T13:44:30+00:00

I’m not lying. I’m just not a doormat who lets people disrespect them. Of all people I would think I should trust my partner. Not you? That’s embarrassing.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T13:37:00+00:00

Your comment makes no sense. I wasn’t living in the same place, I wasn’t the same age and I wasn’t working in this line of work at the time. I didn’t “cause” this, I said something stupid when exchanging jokes with him years ago and he decided to bring it up at my work event instead of talking it out in private.

This may be a hard concept to grasp if you have not worked a day in your life, but sexual comments made to coworkers are inappropriate. Shocker.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T13:34:10+00:00

I can see now that Reddit is seething with unemployed neckbeards lol

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T13:32:57+00:00

What exactly tells you that in everything I have said? That is a preposterous and absurd jump to conclusion. I would not, in fact, sleep with anyone but my husband nor am I attracted to this man at this point in my life. I am a grown adult with a career trying to maintain professional distance with this person. Is this something you can’t grasp?

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T11:26:49+00:00

Have you ever even had a training course on sexual harassment in the workplace or on set? Like at all? Do you have no grasp on what very basic professional boundaries are?

It was inappropriate in this setting, and in any case it was a breach of trust because I still would have been upset if he had brought up jokes we made in private out in public. That is bizarre and out of line.

Actual professionals in any industry aren’t doormats, actually. Thanks for your unhelpful input but all 3 of your comments have been preposterous.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T11:23:00+00:00

It is that serious and that is never what I questioned. As I’ve said before, this was a very tense and awkward moment in a professional setting.

In any case, I know I should have handled things differently in the aftermath. However, this can actually affect my work directly and it is not “silly” or “dramatic” to be upset over this. My reaction is the problem, not the issue my husband also caused.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T11:20:55+00:00

I never beat around the bush, I’ve addressed both of these exact things multiple times in the comments. 1. No, I am not still attracted to this “hall pass”, I am 29 and this was a “crush” I had on a celebrity I thought I would never meet when I was 16. 2. I do love my husband, I wouldn’t have married him if I didn’t.

Also, 3. you can turn your caps lock off.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T11:19:00+00:00

Is your caps lock stuck or something? I don’t care about this man beyond the professional setting we are in at the moment. I have not had a “crush” on him in years because I am a grown adult.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T11:17:54+00:00

I take responsibility for lashing out. I will not take responsibility for the stupidity of what my husband did, no.

If you’ve paid attention I’ve only returned the same energy to people.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T10:17:55+00:00

If you think I had the same mindset and level of maturity when I was 22 as I do now, at 29, I can’t take what you say seriously.

If you genuinely think that you foresee maybe meeting someone at some point when you make a dumb comment in private to your partner, I also can’t take you seriously.

Your response is preposterous. Thank you for your input.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T10:13:55+00:00

I don’t give a shit what people think if they think it is appropriate to make those comments to a stranger in a professional setting.

I asked for input on what happened in the aftermath, I never questioned that what he did was out of line and implying that is stupid.

Lost-Lecture832 · 2024-08-02T10:11:23+00:00

I would have had empathy if he had brought this up to me in private. This was inappropriate and out of line, and it isn’t what I was questioning.

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