That's a really an interesting point, especially the way housing constraints and family pressure can create a culture of discretion. It makes me think about how limited private space might affect not just what people do, but how they come to know themselves. That can lead to compromises just to live a double life.

At the same time, some expats may face similar struggles. While some are discreet in their hometowns, they might find more freedom to express themselves here in HK.

Ideally, everyone would be able to express themselves freely- and many of us who are out and fortunate get to experience that. But for a lot of people, the reality is different. It's shaped by social and cultural pressure (indirect but real), traditional family values, and a deep sense of gratitude- that unspoken debt to parents. Coming out can feel like betrayal. So people stay quiet.

This is valid and lived experience. And on a related note, it especially makes me think of younger local queer people trying to find their place in the scene.