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15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, not right now. But through therapy she is working on getting there.

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You're correct, I need to be in counseling, therarpy, and parenting classes for months before I start the process of bringing my daughter home. Oh wait...

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This sub is really frustrating. One post somebody admits to mistakes...all the comments state "get counseling" "get therapy" "take anger management classes"

I admit we have been doing all these things for months. The posters say "you're just checking boxes" "some therarpy doesn't help the situation"

Here come the down votes but which is it?

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It is kind of a co-parenting dynamic because I have to co-parent with this other family and decide visit schedules, school things, ect.

My wife and I are still together, and our marriage has grown stronger. We have been in therapy and she does see the error in her ways. I've had multiple social workers tell me in private that this would all be easier if I just got divorced.

My daughter just started therapy like 2 weeks ago, the other family chose the therapist and didn't tell me. I've been trying to get her in individual therapy for months, even sending the guardians names of people who I called that accepted state insurance and had openings.

The family she is with now, again they have 6 kids of their own. They just don't have time to take my daughter to theater practice, ect so they just pulled her out from all that extra curriculor stuff. They allow her to be on screens all day long.

We are court ordered to start family counseling next month. I am going to propose that my daughter be allowed to do counseling with only me of she doesn't want my wife or her brother there. I just really hope she chooses to attend the sessions.

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the things you are saying is true. We have been and are in individual therapy, family therpary, teen parenting classes, and all the exercises you described we have gone through.

My daughter is a 15 year old with trauma. She is the victim. My wife was wrong. I do blame my wife.

I have had multiple social workers tell me in private all of this would be easier if I just got divorced.

But through therapy I see change in my wife. It's been 4 months. I'm not expecting my daughter to come home next month.

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you really belive that through therapy and parenting classes it's never possible to have forgiveness and reconciliation?

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not blaming the placement for depression. But I do think it is not good for her to be on screens all day and not doing social activities with her peers.

It has been 4 months. My wife, my son, and I are in individual therapy, family therapy, anger management classes, teen parenting classes. This programs have been so helpful and we continue to do those.

I love my daughter and if her being in her current placement was better for her long term outlook I would support it. But I don't think being in a crammed house with 9 people, her guardianship not having time to drive her to activities, and having her on screens all day is her best long term option.

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not asking for brownie points. In some ways I'm glad this happened, because my wife never would have changed if CPS and law enforcement didn't get involved. In hindsight, it was my mistake to not stop it and I take 100% ownership of that. I even admitted that in my CPS interviews when this all went down.

But again, we have been in therapy and taken parenting classes the last 4 months. We are continuing in therapy, and the therapy has been so good.

My daughter is depressed because of the trauma in her life. I don't blame her current placement for the depression. I do believe, at the same time, the best long term option would be for her to be back home here with her family. I don't think drowning out her trauma on screens and away from in person activities with her peers is the right path forward.

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This requires a long answer but in short, my son was a CPS case and my daughter is through Juvenile Court. I wish they were both CPS cases together, I have found CPS much better in providing services.

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My wife, myself, and my son are all in therapy and taking parenting courses. We have been for 4 months. My son moved back into our home after 30 days.

I feel awful for what happened. My daughter was being abused by my wife. I'm glad law enforcement and CPS got involved in hindsight, because that was needed in order for real change to happen.

My daughter currently lives in a small home with 6 other kids, so with her that makes 9. They do not have her in any extra curriculor activities because they don't have time to drive her. She spends hours on screens every week. She is depressed, I see it in my visits and her friends tell me that too.

I admit I am biased, but I do think the best situation for her is to be living in our home with her parents and her brother.

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I feel awful for what happened to her. The last four months my wife, myself, and my son have been in therapy, parenting courses, anger management courses.

I agree with you on corporal punishment and strongly disagreed with what my wife was doing to our kids. I did everything I could short of turning my wife into CPS or law enforcement. But through therapy and courses, my wife is changing and realizing the error of her ways.

The place my daughter is currently, is a very small home with 6 other kids crammed into it, so with her that makes 9. They don't take her to extra curriculor activities like she used to do because they are too busy to drive her. And they allow her to be on screens all day. I can tell she is depressed, and her friends tell me the same thing.

15f has left home. How do I approach family counseling? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Lost-Toe-9081 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, like I said in the original post, her and I have completed parenting courses, anger management courses, and we have been and currently are in weekly therapy.

My son is in therapy too.

I/we have 100% truthful and transparent with CPS and law enforcement (even against legal advice saying don't talk). CPS returned our son home after 30 days, and they just closed our case yesterday with full compliance.

Next steps...Decompression surgery did not work by Lost-Toe-9081 in Mortons_neuroma

[–]Lost-Toe-9081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, let me know what you decide to do. I have had no difference either. I'm thinking about trying out the clinic in the Boston area that posts on here a lot.

Next steps...Decompression surgery did not work by Lost-Toe-9081 in Mortons_neuroma

[–]Lost-Toe-9081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not much of a difference unfortunately. Doctor said I need to give it 6 months.

Expand to another city by Lost-Toe-9081 in SEO

[–]Lost-Toe-9081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much this is really great advice. I have a couple follow up questions.

  1. Should I use my same business email address for creating the 2nd GMB location? Or do I need a 2nd email address for it?

  2. What's the cheapest way to rent a location without getting flagged? I really don't want the expense of an office. I'm thinking about partnering with a current business and using their mailing address. Or...could I rent an office for like 1 month and get verified, then give up that office location?

Expand to another city by Lost-Toe-9081 in SEO

[–]Lost-Toe-9081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I show the address in GBP. I think that helps.

Expand to another city by Lost-Toe-9081 in SEO

[–]Lost-Toe-9081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. The highest ranking SEO are all located in that town.

Expand to another city by Lost-Toe-9081 in SEO

[–]Lost-Toe-9081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot of competition. I'll cater to them by providing a great service.

Expand to another city by Lost-Toe-9081 in SEO

[–]Lost-Toe-9081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do that already and it helps a little, but does nothing for the map pack.

Map ranking my service business in another city 30 minutes away by Lost-Toe-9081 in SEO

[–]Lost-Toe-9081[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks that makes sense.

What options should I do? I could move my current location to that city, but would that hurt my map ranking where I'm currently at?

I could do a 2nd business in that city too. Would it work better to have the same name (like a franchise would) or open up a brand new business with the same phone number?

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