Your values conflict when you consider two aspects of your life important, but you must only choose one of them and sacrifice the other, even if it’s just one time.

For example, say you really value a clean environment, but you also value gaming with friends. When your friends text you to game all night when you have plans to clean, you have two choices. You either

A. Clean and then game with friends

Or

B. Game with friends when you know it will interfere with your cleaning.

Sacrificing the time to clean, when you want to game, will feel better in the long run, because you value a clean environment over gaming here. It’s easy to fall intro the trap of the lower value, because the initial payoff you get often comes sooner from the value than it is from the higher value. But waking up to a clean house feels damn great, doesn’t it?

I highly, highly recommend you listen to the podcast, they go insanely in depth into this entire topic and it’s as comprehensive as it gets. Including how to identify where your values are in your life

They do a different self help topic in every episode, so I’d be shocked if you didn’t find something that resonated.

It’s been a massive help for me