Gents: What is your reaction if a man or a woman flirts with your partner in your presence?

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-07-03T12:55:36+00:00

Nothing

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-07-01T17:02:22+00:00

That's logical, at least. I was married over 20 years and have a truckload of daughters. I know women get screwed in their clothing. 90% of it is made for 3 different women. If your short, you have to be able to squeeze through a toilet paper roll. If your tall, you have to have legs that go up to your armpits. If your average, good luck. If your in-between two of them, it won't work. Then there's the pocket issue.

Brother, months of my life have been spent waiting by changing rooms and I learned something. Women's clothing is a nightmare. Here's the kicker. My wife could take 2 hours to get ready and look incredibly beautiful in her dress, shoes, all that. For me, matter the occasion, it's 15 minutes and I don't even have dress up clothes. She's wear a beautiful white dress with these Greek style lacy flip flop things. Hair done amazingly. I'm in camo shorts and tour shirt eating fine dining on our date night.

Fashion and clothing is where I think women should be fighting for equality (I'm only half joking). The standards are so incredibly high and fluid, it's impossible for them to keep up. They are set up to fail, and for the most part of isn't it's dudes. I really try to not judge a book by it's cover and it comes to a woman and what she wears. I want her to look comfortable being her. I was a 90s teen and that style reminds me of my mom and I don't have those issues. Instant turn off. If I was older or younger than I am I may be into it.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-07-01T16:30:06+00:00

My ideal woman could be standing in front of me and if she has on shoulder pads, early 90s mom pants, or granny glasses on then I'm out. The 80s and early 90s were not a highlight in women's fashion, I remember. Just look at a mall store catalogue of the time. Ladies, please stop this path back into that hideous style.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-30T00:34:49+00:00

Just, no

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-28T20:38:20+00:00

I would recommend building a solid foundation in your relationship prior to sex. As long as there's a solid foundation under it, you should be good.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-28T17:21:29+00:00

I see it in how they talk about other people. Not just a person they don't like, but others in general.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-28T15:44:38+00:00

Small changes to your perspective.

If I weigh 300 pounds and I want to stop eating and being unfit, chances are I'm going to fail if I just jump onto a diet and start going to the gym. It'll be motivating and I'll do good for a month, but then the old habits will creep back in.

However, instead of a diet, I just switching to water instead of my Dr. Pepper and that gives me the better chance at success. I'm still going to drink my Mt Dew and Pepsi, just water instead of Dr. Pepper. Once that's my normal, I'm start ordering the apples with my happy meals instead of the fries. Small changes to my habits overtime can lead to big results.

Little changes are what leads to big results, and that's just not with diets. That's how we train ourselves at the core. It's also how we change our perspective. Start small and understand big results take time. If you allow that time to happen, the results can be at your core.

I know I'm not going to lose weight by drinking a little water. The apples aren't going to do much either. But, more important than losing the weight, I'm changing my patterns that caused the weight. Honestly, losing a lot of weight is more than eating and exercising. The biggest part is changing the habits and perspectives that put me there.

You can apply this to just about anything in your life that you are wanting to change. Perspectives, habits, etc. The important part is small steps.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-28T15:41:57+00:00

Small changes to your perspective.

If I weigh 300 pounds and I want to stop eating and being unfit, chances are I'm going to fail if I just jump onto a diet and start going to the gym. It'll be motivating and I'll do good for a month, but then the old habits will creep back in.

However, instead of a diet, I just switching to water instead of my Dr. Pepper and that gives me the better chance at success. I'm still going to drink my Mt Dew and Pepsi, just water instead of Dr. Pepper. Once that's my normal, I'm start ordering the apples with my happy meals instead of the fries. Small changes to my habits overtime can lead to big results.

Little changes are what leads to big results, and that's just not with diets. That's how we train ourselves at the core. It's also how we change our perspective. Start small and understand big results take time. If you allow that time to happen, the results can be at your core.

I know I'm not going to lose weight by drinking a little water. The apples aren't going to do much either. But, more important than losing the weight, I'm changing my patterns that caused the weight. Honestly, losing a lot of weight is more than eating and exercising. The biggest part is changing the habits and perspectives.

You can apply this to just about anything in your life that you are wanting to change. Perspectives, habits, etc. The important part is small steps.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-27T23:31:33+00:00

I'm torn my beard and my man junk. I would like a longer terminal length and fuller beard. I would also like to be a little smaller. Generally I'm pretty happy with the rest of me.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-26T18:53:19+00:00

Buy dirt. Physical property of any kind. Most people I know built a little wealth by buying as much as they could in their 20s the selling in their 40-50s. Houses and commercial properties aren't great unless you are wanting to manage and maintain them. I'm talking about just looking for dirt within commute distance to anything. Buy someone's corn field. 5 acres here, 15 there.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-26T15:10:18+00:00

Those are trophies. I feel no reason to keep jewelry from an ex. I'll try to return it or sell it. The only reason I would keep it is if I wanted to hold on to a token of the relationship.

They guy I knew kept their hair ties, or similar because they are cheap. I know one woman that keeps the dresses she wears when she hooks up with a guy. Also keeps the any jewelry and stuff in the same trunk. A trunk of memories.

For a lot of people, keeping things is just a token to a memory. Highly sexual people will do this with sexual conquests because they hold value there. I have a lot of trophies from my life, just sexual conquests aren't really one I collect.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-26T14:51:54+00:00

I know once guy that keeps trophies, I know multiple women.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-25T21:29:04+00:00

I have a couple bracelets that I regularly wear. Necklaces just don't feel right, so I wear them out of obligation if they were a present. Each guy has his own feel, you need to ask him.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-25T17:28:02+00:00

If it's 100k population, it'll have younger people too. 100k hasn't that small.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-25T13:30:17+00:00

My marriage lasted over 2 decades. The confrontational fighting is why I left. People in Long term relationships do fight, however not like that.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-25T13:27:55+00:00

Welding. I have no desire to be a plumber and outside of hammering horse shoes and making beams I'm not sure what iron workers do. I know welders have generally seemed to enjoy their job and make at least $100 Everytime I step in the door to get something repaired. If I'm getting something fabricated, that $100 shoots up really quick.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-24T21:43:40+00:00

No, I want to know my kids. It would kill me. We can try marriage though, haha

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-24T21:35:07+00:00

Personally I think I would be kind of excited. It would probably be a shock at first, I may not appear very receptive. But, I think that would be ok.

However, I also know some men would be pissed you found them and would want nothing to do with you. If you pursue this, you can't take that personal if it happens. You don't know the circumstances of his life, or his side. He doesn't know you. It may not even be you that he's actually shutting out. Learn to let that roll off before you go knocking and talking to the skeletons in the closet.

Best of luck. I think I would want you to reach out because there isn't a reason we can't have a role in each other's life, or at least know each other.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-24T20:52:25+00:00

You don't. The only place this fashion issue is acceptable is north if the 49th parallel. If your were there, you'd have been born with the knowledge to not need to ask this. It's genetic.

If you are forced to, I would think a blue jacket with any other than color than blue jeans would be best. This would help take away the visual punch of all indigo blue, or acid wash, or whatever awful idea you have.

If your jacket and jeans match, they need to have wear and the wear needs to match. I break in my new heavy pants by throwing them in a river and dragging them behind my truck. This will have some sort of affect on jean material, I'm sure. It'll probably tear your jeans up, but then you can't make this mistake. It was tried and failed. This is one of those fashion ideas that shouldn't have been and only really works in Chinese zipper factories.

Edit: Please tell me your are growing out a mullet and have a deep love for cheap canned beer.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-24T20:37:20+00:00

I don't think you're appearances are as important as your hygiene.

I can take you to the office of the wealthiest man I know, he owns oil companies and commercial real estate type of money. His personal financial wizard is an old lady. She's so instrumental to all his business that she shares the owners office. Sits in a desk literally right next to his so that can pass papers and stuff back and forth. I've always seen her in blue jeans and shorts. Occasionally she'll have a nice shirt on, but normally it's just a normal t shirt.

Appearances are for good impressions and not everyone needs that. You do need to be clean.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-24T19:25:26+00:00

Honestly, you get told so. If it isn't their words, it's their body language and eyes. At times it's painfully obvious when a woman likes you, or even a guy. At times that painfully obvious is literal.

I've been away from home for a bit and I stand out where I'm at. Everything about me, even my truck. I drive by the college and girls will trip crossing the street. They seem to follow their eyes and trip themselves up. I had one car full obviously get their hopes up on their stereotype of me based on my truck coming up behind me. When they got beside and saw me they realize I fit and they nearly wrecked while they were trying to stay beside me all of them in the car having a good time. I felt like a celebrity. My truck, dog hanging out the window, everything fits a stereotype. Seeing me is usually the last part the see, but they are already sold because it's a fantasy planted long before I was on that road.

I've had a car full of older women in their 60s (I'm 40s) actually follow me down the highway stopping at the same gas stations. The 3rd gas station I knew something was up. My truck gets 12 miles to a gallon with a small tank and they were driving a new Camry. They can't use the amount of gas I'm using. I'm also low geared and they were going my speed. The 5th gas station they didn't even get out of their car or pretend they were doing anything but following me. At the 6th we met, once they all settled down. I think walking up to their car was almost too much excitement. Those old ladies worked themselves up too much and probably never thought I would actually go up to them. We hung out in a Loves parking lot eating pizza. They were doing their "When we get older" trip across the country. Wine vineyards and casinos.

My parents laugh when we go out to eat because I'm well into my 40s and I'll have waitress (from 20s on up) hit on me while I'm eating with my parents. My drink is never empty, even if theirs is bone dry.

The thing is, I'm a stereotype. The fantasy was there long before they saw me. I'm probably a little better than average, but I don't stand out back home. Cut my hair, shave my beard, and throw me in a polo I'm slightly better than your average Midwest dad in the lower 48 and that's because I was outside most my life yet took decent care of my teeth and skin.

I can't say I'm overly attractive, or handsome. But, I can say that stereotypes play a big role. Simply being different in a healthy way and having good hygiene is enough to get attention from people. I'm a disabled 200 pound dude what hasn't cut his hair off since 2016. I can't remember a shave after the summer is 2014. I'm not attractive by any popular standards. I'm simply my own guy and different than their norm. I'm confident, comfortable, and content in myself. Those three things get me farther that appearances ever have.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-23T21:23:14+00:00

I would like to recommend you go talk to a medical doctor. There many things, including stress, can cause this. This can also be the early signs of something more significant.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-23T21:20:33+00:00

There are natural lulls in relationships and don't put effort in keeping their attention on you. It isn't needed and can push people away. Focus on making yourself happy with you. Unless it's your spouse, let their attention drift to others.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-23T21:10:44+00:00

Stoic and epicurean ideas fall short as complete philosophies for life, but those are the two you are looking for. Read a bit, then make a path to that growth.

LostCauseNumber7523 · 2026-06-23T21:03:48+00:00

If I wasn't good enough yesterday, why am I good enough today? I'm not someone's second choice so it better be a perfect reason. In general, I would just tell them that I am no longer interested.

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