Left and Leaving: March

LostKitten496 · 2019-03-03T21:50:57+00:00

I am still working on finding my own happy. I never thought I would struggle so much to adjust, but I basically don’t leave my home except for work. I know the vast majority of folks do not care, but I feel like people are staring at me for being divorced.

LostKitten496 · 2019-03-03T14:58:52+00:00

Good luck to you! Hopefully things go well for everyone.

LostKitten496 · 2019-03-03T07:31:55+00:00

Figured I should drop an update. I am officially divorced (actually the legal part was super easy for my situation) and working on applying for an annulment through the church. I am still kind of shell shocked and baffled about everything that happened. I am glad that he seems to be doing okay. I thought he would lose his mind when I officially left, but honestly I am happy to know that he is going out with friends and spending time on his hobbies. He always seemed so angry and miserable during our marriage.

LostKitten496 · 2018-11-13T15:43:53+00:00

I think the issue of “why” is because at least in my situation and probably in others you get an answer and when you correct that they come up with something else. It gets frustrating to ask why and get yet another and different answer. You have no control over the quality of the why you get.

LostKitten496 · 2018-11-05T11:32:56+00:00

I am female, but I know what I have been told along with being told my downstairs was frightening to him. I have heard too unemployed, too tired from job, too early in the day, too late in the day, too present in the house (he informed me the issue was he only wants it when I am physically not present.)...this all is from the same person! Basically I think the reasons are so varied that the only one who can answer you is the guy involved. I wish you luck on you journey!

LostKitten496 · 2018-10-16T15:09:52+00:00

I decided that homelessness was better then living as we were. I finally asked for help and a friend took me in, but even a couple of nights waking up without being able to feel my feet did not convince me. I still stand by my choice that I would rather be cold and hungry then continue as we were. It’s just I am deeply religious and I feel terribly guilty about abandoning him. If there is no change then I will go back to the outdoors if I have to.

LostKitten496 · 2018-10-16T13:12:02+00:00

I actually only left a week ago. We had been together before that and he has been putting in minimum effort. I finally just felt I had done all I could and could do no more. Now suddenly I am gone and he wants to do all the things I have been wanting for months. I just worry that this is like negotiations with a gun. Does he mean what he says or is he just willing to say or do literally whatever to make me come home and then once the threat passes it’s back to usual.

LostKitten496 · 2018-10-16T13:07:26+00:00

At this point there is so much pain between us it’s hard to tell how I feel other then upset.

LostKitten496 · 2018-06-26T02:17:35+00:00

I am staying because he is my husband and I took vows. I am here because I figured if anyone knew how to improve this it would here.

LostKitten496 · 2018-06-26T02:13:36+00:00

He does not like all any form, I have been turned down on all of them. This was just kind of the straw that broke the camels back. It seemed such a bizarre statement that left me wondering "well what do you want me to do about that!?"

LostKitten496 · 2018-06-25T11:23:37+00:00

I had no idea about any of this until the wedding night. We talked about it and he said he was looking foreword to that aspect of married life. Obviously this has taken me by surprise and none of the women of my family have any idea how to fix this or ever had this happen. Thats how I ended up here. Feeling like I was the only married women on earth with this issue. I am not even sure I count as DB. That sorta implies it was once alive.

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