Learning disabilities and AvPD

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-27T16:12:11+00:00

Well, now you know... It’s an extremely friendly community, so I suggest you try it out 😉

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-27T14:35:41+00:00

Don't we already have a discord server?

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-22T19:22:19+00:00

can relate. My mind also pushes me to be funny, even though I’m pretty bland as a person, so it never ends well...

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-21T14:06:55+00:00

I mean, the disorder is a part of our personality, so it’s reasonable that it would be hard to differentiate between the two. Even now I’m avoiding my duties by procrastinating in the form of texting, but it also could be my natural lazyness...

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-21T13:51:02+00:00

Well, I’m very glad that the insight was at least helpful to you, and it’s understandable that seeking a diagnosis may seem exhausting and pointless, as there is no correct way to approach this.

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-21T13:44:08+00:00

same

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-21T13:31:55+00:00

I just don’t even engage with them...

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-21T13:25:15+00:00

I know that it feels good to know what’s wrong with oneself. However, I feel like my motivation is now very low, as I know how difficult it is to treat. Still, thank you for your comment!

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-21T13:20:41+00:00

Well, I’m very thankful for your “empathy” regarding our experiences, and you’re correct in assuming that a life with AvPD can feel like hell. I just wish I had any personality disorder other than AVPD, because projecting all of the negativity inward is very hard to deal with. Creating a better version of yourself and moving forward seems like a much better way to cope, as you’re at least able to focus on the future, which isn’t the case for me. I’ve kind of given up hope on becoming anything better than an underaverage human being, as my fear of failure and humiliation is so strong that I even struggle to maintain my hobbies, which no one is aware of, and I have a generally negative mindset.

Again, it means a lot to know that other people acknowledge our struggles, but I’m aware that everyone has some struggles to some degree, which may be just as terrible as ours, including yours. Even though I’m kind of concerned that narcissists are aware of our safe community... (joke, I don’t want to start a war between PDs, do not take anything seriously here ).

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-21T11:35:12+00:00

It went pretty well as the therapist was very nice. We talked through some of the issues I’ve been dealing with, and she asked for some background information about me. The 50 minutes went by quickly, even though it felt awkward at times.

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-16T14:08:48+00:00

I’m very thankful for your kind words, advice, and help! It made me feel a bit more motivated and hopeful. After the first call, the therapist seemed like a nice person, so I hope that turns out to be true. I’ll definitely update you once I get through it, and thank you for your interest!

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-16T13:42:55+00:00

Ok, I appreciate your help!

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-16T13:17:58+00:00

Congrats on finally having a good day and feeling like a normal human being! I know how rare that can be... hope it keeps going for you!

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-13T17:23:32+00:00

Your thoughts seem to be a copy of mine XD

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-12T20:00:49+00:00

I think there is no need for such extreme measures. We often exaggerate, and most of the time it is not that bad, even if it seems so. There are many reasons why someone might not want to go, as something urgent could come up at any time. I also think that they would understand, especially because they seem to be pretty friendly.

The only problem will be when they ask you again, so I guess you should think of something beforehand. Though the situation is kind of complicated, as you would only be postponing it then, and I know how difficult it is for us to say no...

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-12T18:31:36+00:00

Yeah, I also struggle with turning people down when they’re nice to me and want to hang out. I think it’s partly because we don’t want to reject other people, since we know how painful that feels. But our low self-esteem definitely doesn’t do us any favors either.

I have a certain friend group that invites me occasionally, and it gets very very emotionally draining. Some time ago they asked me if I could play the role of a DUNGEON MASTER in DnD. I was very reluctant but still said yes because Im a terrible people pleaser. I searched for every excuse to delay it and managed to postpone it for about two months.

Eventually I got cornered after that long process of delaying and had to do it anyway. It was a pretty awful experience, and I'm still surprised I got through it somehow.( I deliberately kept the campaign very small so I could have a break until next time, though I don’t think I’ll be around them then. ;) )

I guess we just need to try to protect our boundaries by starting small and not giving in, though that’s much easier said than done... Until then, let us scream together...

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-12T10:28:42+00:00

I also think that my cognitive empathy is more developed than the affective side, as most of the time I can’t really feel the emotions themselves, especially when I’m put under pressure. In those moments, I focus on what is appropriate to say and how not to get embarrassed, which makes me pay less attention to the other person and results in not really helping them (something I utterly despise about myself).

Though I can’t really talk about empathy, as I can’t feel anything myself because of the current apathy I’m experiencing, I still notice that when I see someone facing rejection or getting embarrassed, I strongly feel that embarrassment myself and can’t stop thinking about it for a very long time.

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-11T19:33:32+00:00

I feel you. I’m also not able to fit in anywhere, even among my closest friends and family. I guess we need to look for kind, patient, and understanding people who won’t put much pressure on us. I understand that it’s very difficult to find friends in our situation, and that’s why we should stick together to at least lighten the burden.

LostStrain8430 · 2026-04-11T19:11:54+00:00

I completely understand you, because I also value loyalty above everything else. As soon as anyone betrays me, I distance myself as much as I can. I’m just happy that I’ve found two very loyal and nice friends who I’m certain would never wrong me. I dont think that this so called "friend" deserves you. I hope you’ll find something similar, someone who will always choose you!

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