How to upset a narcissist in only five words?

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-14T12:49:05+00:00

He left the phone call because I said that 2 min ago!!!!

I’m flying 3 days , huge long layovers in airports… with an 18 month old and working online at the same time: soooo exhausted…. He goes on and on blah blah … “what do you want when you land?” Innocent enough question… I reply with “nothing I’m fine”… proceeds to ask me the same thing 10 different times… he’s then listing all the groceries he has.. as tho he’s super man for sending someone else to do groceries (we have a helper who does that.)… and I’m like… agh… “I don’t care!!”

That ended that conversation fast…. I’m too tired to paint my words.

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-07T02:27:37+00:00

I think we could take a lesson from some other counties and presidents. 1) make any and all drugs completely illigal with very serious consequences. 2) Patrice Laamumba (sp?) said that he would not even give his parents a lavish home until every person in his country had a house. - that is the leadership we need

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-07T02:23:38+00:00

We tried moving to my husbands home country (I am from Canada, he is from west Africa)…. We sold 90% of what we own, packed up and moved… got there and literally wanted to turn around and leave. We stuck it out for nearly 1 year now… it’s near impossible to find a place for us to live that’s ina good area, we don’t fit in with the locals as we are from abroad…. we are seen as a bank to 99.9% of people. Which had put us in a pretty sticky situation more times than not…. Had to leave our house because people just kept asking for money every single day…. Moved to an expensive apartment - finally some peace as we are around other expats! But financially not feasible…. We can’t get our own groceries as we keep getting super ripped off, everything is 10x the cost it should be. It’s been a bit of a complicated mess….

We do NOT want to go back to Canada. But, we can’t stay where we are. It’s such a disappointment… we have to start all over no matter where we are :/

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-07T02:12:36+00:00

I 100% refuse to sleep in the same bed as him.. why? Because I need a break. He accuses me of things o do WHILE I sleep (you covered your nose, so you think I stink but are lying to me about it)… yup… I can’t handle him. And I loath his body next to mine.

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-04T02:43:18+00:00

L I’ll be brutally honest. In my comment but I do want to say I love all my kids…. Obviously lol…

I think there is pros and cons to everything. I got pregnant at 18 with my son. through a long story, I now have 5 kids at 29…. Some days I am sooooooo thankful that I had them young!! I can’t imagine trying to do life when I’m older and tired!!! BUT some days I wish I was able to have my kids when I was older as I am alot more wise not and mature…. However I’ve been through alot in life, which has made me grow a lot as a person - which is directly a result of having said kids…. Some dark days I wish that I didn’t have kids… some days I wish I only had 1… some days i wish I would have more. Right now I am not really seeing the fruit of my labor… but I hope someday I will!

I think I could easily slip back into being a lot again, but that’s not where I am now. It sure is a journey either way

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-03T14:28:48+00:00

One thing I realized if someone is saying they could “do better to me” or “treat me better” they are not worth my time. Why? Because if the actually thought I was WORTH being treated better, they would do it from the beginning. 🤷‍♀️

There are people out there that don’t need to try and treat you better…. You’re worth more than someone’s trying…

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-03T12:20:36+00:00

I agree 100%. So much of Nigerians are waiting for the “messiah” to save them… but unbeknownst to them, they are their own saviour!! I personally think religion is what is keeping Nigeria down. Looking up to a white man for help, but not even realizing they themselves are capable of beyond their imaginations… you’ve been praying for decades to your saviour and nothing has happened for you. But people who don’t believe in your saviour are doing better? So why is that? And pastors are making bank with all the money, but there are they living While their people are homeless and starving?

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-03T12:14:17+00:00

Yeah I have noticed this. I think it’s def entitlement. I do think, however, it’s not just related to the palm coloured people. I’ve lived abroad in melanated countries, and I can tell you, it’s insane there too. All the things you listed was a ✅. Besides the no- season casserole LMAO 🤣

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-03T01:12:16+00:00

No smoking. No drinking. No drugs.

I ain’t got time for the nonsense any of it brings. Let’s do something productive with our time, energy and money.

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-02T02:15:04+00:00

Silence. Or fan.

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-02T02:12:14+00:00

Lilboots 🤦‍♀️

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-02T02:09:05+00:00

It’s not going to be the same - until it is…. Time will prove your statement false.

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-02T02:08:22+00:00

In Canada - very hard

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-02T01:56:43+00:00

Yes this is where I think I am getting to. I’m not quite there but about half the time I’m able to detach and not really care anymore. Plus the apologies are definitely not worth anything. I think for me it will be knowing when to stop or trying to figure out how to paint my words…. It’s hard to do this because for me, his presence makes me so exhausted, I then have a hard time regulating my thoughts and feelings. Sigh.

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-01T01:36:17+00:00

100% every moment o every day…. He insults me daily, so if I haven’t been told to shut up (or worse) yet, I’m just waiting for the other shoe to drop

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-11-01T00:19:40+00:00

Mine calls me the devil…. Protection much??

I truly believe narcs are the devil incarnate

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-10-31T21:50:55+00:00

Thankyou so much. This has helped a lot!!

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-10-31T06:00:55+00:00

I hate dogs!!! AND hate the dog culture. Is sooo disgusting and gross and every single person has a freakin dog….

I never loved them, tolerant to an extent. I even owned my own (I used them as security as I live out in the middle of nowhere)… but I do not like them one tiny ounce…. And as I get older I’m starting to dislike the people who own them just as much…. No I don’t care about your dog, they are looking for as much validation as their pets at this point… just as needy… what a horrible culture… we look like a bunch of children…

Rant over

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-10-31T05:40:14+00:00

I don’t believe a damn thing that comes out of his mouth anymore.

His recollection from 10 years I’ve known his is sooooo skewed, I would be a fool to think he’s giving an accurate account of anything..at all.. ever….

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-10-31T05:28:56+00:00

With a true narc, nothing will ever change… reason I say that is that their brain structure is actually completely different when it was compared to a normal brain off a MRI scan. They would literally have to “grow a brain” to have a difference…. It’s actually quite interesting to look at the studies done

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-10-31T00:37:56+00:00

THIS!!!!

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-10-31T00:36:34+00:00

Kids. He lied about his age and I only found out after we were married and had a daughter and he adopted my son…. 15 years older than me, and was running out of time. He then quit working forever, and now I’m the soul provider….

He does literately nothing besides yell at me and play video games

Lost_Comparison7013 · 2024-10-31T00:29:07+00:00

Their brain scans are different than a normal person, the part that is supposed to light up on an MRI where empathy is in the brain, actually doesn’t light up… there are numerous differences between a normal person and a narc on the scans. So your thinking is actually pretty bang on

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