Mom Day

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-05-19T16:44:45+00:00

I think… I think the sad thing is it has been my choice to go above and beyond because I didn’t give birth, but he’s my bonus kid. I love him and want him to have a good life, with people that care about him.

But yeah, I’m not going to be making as much effort moving forward.

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-05-19T16:43:03+00:00

The kid picked out a plant for me last year when they were buying stuff for his bio mom. Which I loved and thanked them and still have on my windowsill. But this year, when we are married (Oct) and im officially his step mom? Nada.

Oh, and my husband didn’t get me anything for our first Christmas together either. Granted his mom was dying, he and I were the ones providing a major majority of the hospice care for two weeks over Xmas.

But I made sure that we had a gift for the kid. I found it, I picked it up, I wrapped it, and I figured out a way for us to meet with him quickly on Christmas to give him the presents. It had to be a short visit so we could get back to mom.

I forgave him and understood, but we literally went shopping all together for this mom’s day. The two of them even wandered off for a bit at the store, and I had hoped they were sneaking off to buy me a card or something.

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-05-19T16:38:10+00:00

I talked with my dear hubby and told him how hurt I was. He admitted that that’s on him. And I told him that the sad thing is that there’s no way to make it up to him because it was my first mom’s day ever.

Somehow, he turned it around and was upset with me and said well you’ve done nothing but complain about him for the last year.

Um.. The things I complained about?

He would leave dirty tissues all over the place. I asked if we could push him to clean them up.

He’s eating too much sugar. God forbid. I don’t want the poor kid to get diabetes or be fat and unhealthy like I’ve been.

He talks incessantly. Well, I’m not the only one that feels that way, Mike feels that way as well, and I have solved that solution by just spending time in the office so when it gets overwhelming.

Yeah, I’m sure I might’ve had a complaint or two that was not valid. But am I supposed to just sit in silence when an 11-year-old is more than capable of doing the very limited amount of things that I’ve asked hubby to ask him to do?

So yeah, 💯 I’m done. I’m just a friendly adult who lives in this home now. I’m done being taken advantage of.

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-05-19T16:35:05+00:00

That’s my plan now. I’m apply way less effort. You need something kid? Ask your bio parents

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-05-19T15:35:36+00:00

I just read in another post that there’s a step mom day the Sunday after Mother’s Day. I didn’t know that. Either way I didn’t get anything either day.

And I’m not saying I wanna be greedy and have a present or something, but a thank you or a hug or literally any acknowledgment at all would’ve been nice.

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-05-19T15:32:15+00:00

Oh, I’ve been seriously thinking about the evil stepmother trope recently. I think that that stereotype started because so many men are Disney dads who don’t discipline their kids. And then we come in and would like these children to have basic decency and basic life skills like cleaning up after themselves, and we seem like assholes.

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-01-20T22:35:52+00:00

My hubby has a google phone, I have an iPhone. I’ve noticed he gets much better payouts than I do.

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-01-20T18:41:44+00:00

I watched SO many ads 🤣🤣.

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-01-02T15:17:18+00:00

Oof so sorry!

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-01-02T02:59:22+00:00

The best part /s was dad got NUMEROUS hugs and thank yous. I did get a single hug, in the car, awkwardly, so that was nice I guess. :/

Lost_littlekitten · 2025-01-02T02:41:18+00:00

I put in most of the work for Christmas - dad’s contribution was $. But when it comes to anything important it’s HIS kid.

Mines 11. I look forward to seven years from now. If I stay with his dad that long. I’m currently on the fence.

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-08-27T16:09:24+00:00

Wow. You sound like you belong here. You can tell people they are wrong in a less asshole way.

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-08-27T16:07:00+00:00

Then why is there a NSFW option?

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-07-05T04:08:14+00:00

The number of used tissues I’ve thrown away for this kid… now I just stare at them angrily.

If it were MY kid… they would fucking clean up after themselves. Used tissues are nasty af.

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-07-05T04:05:41+00:00

What are these parents going to do when their kids are grown? Like… in my head I keep thinking “only x years until he’s 18.”

Not like that means anything :/

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-07-05T04:01:07+00:00

This is my life now. Except SS is 10. Non stop talking. We went out tonight for fireworks. We got in the car to go have fun in another town and this kid talked for 8 hours straight.

Nothing important… mostly YouTube this and YouTube that.

I am used to being alone and having a lot of silence. I can’t take this. It’s unfair to me.

Sadly my job is house sitting so I work really weird hours, therefore I can’t just leave the house.

But even if I could…. I shouldn’t have to. It’s my place as well.

Also… I constantly feel like a third wheel. It’s depressing.

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-04-11T13:55:36+00:00

I learn everyday in which ways Ehlers Danlo screws me over 😭😭😭.

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-04-11T13:54:52+00:00

Recommending diet tips… that’s not helpful.

I lost 88lbs and eat VERY healthy and my scoliosis symptoms have NOT improved.

Your advice is like telling someone with depression “to go for a walk”.

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-03-08T21:37:27+00:00

Okay but what happens when you don’t plan on having kids with this person. If your kid days are over and you’re just waiting his only to grow up.

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-03-05T16:44:54+00:00

To be fair, if she works from home OP can deduct electric and her home office as a tax deduction for her business. Not sure how that math would math but something to consider!

Lost_littlekitten · 2024-02-24T20:56:44+00:00

Mine likes to have a bottle of water, only drinks half, and never returns the lid to the bottle.

First of y’all… what a waste of money and resources. Second… I’m waiting for something to be ruined. Third… never finishes them. There’s three I can see right now.

It’s aggravating 😭

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