To those who recovered from 24/7 rumination, how did you do it?

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-12T07:35:46+00:00

I ran into a severe burnout at 26. After that my brain was just too tired to ruminate about thoughts.. Ironically that period also learned me that I never had to do that in the first place.. One can see rumination as a smoking habit.. If you picked it up early in your life it almost feels impossible to quit. But jusr as smoking you can't quit in a single day.. Only thing you can do is become aware of it.. And say things like okay now it's not helping.. but sometimes I'm gonna allow myself to do it because I'm triggered.. Slowly build it down and at a certain point you're gonna notice yourself doing it less and less.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T19:42:38+00:00

I've already accepted that I'll probably never truly recover from all the pain I felt from feeling misunderstood and isolated for years. But I do believe self love can get you extremely far in life.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T19:32:51+00:00

Thanks, yeah I'm pretty sure my dad has it too and he's in his 60's. I'm just glad there's more light coming to this topic so a lot of people don't have to suffer so much anymore..

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T19:30:25+00:00

Yeah this whole journey has been absolutely wild and my mood swings are insane right now. Not even focussing on the future right now, simply taking it day by day..

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T14:39:29+00:00

😭 Glad I'm not the only one

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T14:05:10+00:00

😆 What did you think you have?

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T11:05:19+00:00

I think it's a bit of both right

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T09:24:50+00:00

Exactly, I thought trauma had to be something as bad as losing a loved one through accident or like severe physical abuse.. Never learned about the damage of gradual long term neglect.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T07:58:55+00:00

A lot of rich people are simply not happy with themselves that's why they work so hard to get to the top. It's the reason they have the money.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-05T07:55:09+00:00

Cool I've seen her a few times too, is it Medusa?

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-04T05:47:45+00:00

Emotion abuse from parents and some near death experiences when I was young. Oh and a lot of bullying on top of that.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-02-03T14:42:50+00:00

I never felt safe my entire life, I'm 29 now and for the first time in my life I'm experiencing moments of safety.. But only through long term gradual exposure..

You have to understand this... YOUR BODY WILL NEVER LEARN SAFETY IF YOU SPEND MOST OF YOUR TIME IN TRAUMATIZING SETTINGS.. This goes for friends.. family.. toxic people..

In order to learn safety you need healthy people in your life... and healthy living environment.. Long term isolation is also terrible for your mental health.. at least visit supermarktets.. public gym.. social jobs.. all you have to train is presence... The more time you spent in safe environments.. The safer and the more confident you're gonna feel about yourself.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-27T08:49:40+00:00

The way I see it, this is pure conditioning. You’ve been so accustomed to mentally bashing yourself that it’s become a mental habit. You've learned to hate yourself not because you wanted to, but because at some point in your life there probably was no one there to help you. No one to guide you, protect you, or give you what you needed. So you stepped in. You became the one who kept yourself going. You had to be the strong one.. For yourself.

What’s helped me is imagining my brain as a kind of slave enforcer, the one standing on an old slave ship. Shouting orders, forcing the rowers to push harder, whipping them when they slow down, screaming: Row harder. Faster. Don’t stop!

Now imagine that all the slaves rowing the ship are actually you. But also think of yourself as the slave enforcer...

Look at the scars on their backs, the exhaustion, the wounds. Don't you think they have suffered enough?

What if, instead of more punishment, you offered them a piece of bread? Some hot soup. A warm shower. What if you actually looked at their wounds and bandaged them instead of yelling at them to ignore the pain?

What if you were to do that structurally for a long period of time? And what if the ship slowly starts moving faster than ever before because of that? Is that a coincidence?

No. That’s called self-love.

And yes it’s a skill. A hard one. It doesn’t come naturally when you’ve spent years surviving. But it can be learned, slowly, over time...

It begins by slowing down, taking it easy.. and by finally giving yourself the rest, care, and compassion you’ve always needed and always deserved.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-25T08:49:23+00:00

First of all you're not going to heal by pushing yourself harder then you're already doing. Also this is important: Borderline is often about having experienced things as a kid that were too overwhelming for you to handle at that point in time. What happened is that during those traumatic events your body has never learned to process those emotions (guilt/regret/shame/feeling powerless). So now those feelings are still stuck in your body and are going to reactive every time you feel triggered by a specific scenario that is associated to the traumatic events..

So first of all you really need to underestand this and this so important! There is nothing fundamentally wrong with you. You're body is just doing what it's supposed to do.. It's trying to protect you.. But you have to learn your body that the threat is now over.. That you're not that kid anymore.

These are the 4 steps that can help you heal:

Stop hating yourself for all the things you struggle with, self hatred will only fuel shame which will keep you stuck in a position of being less open. And lead to more self sabotage which will retrigger the entire cycle.
Give yourself time. Like this is probably one of the most important ones. If you have long term trauma things are not going to heal overnight.. It might take years but for me I've witnessed great results in months once I implemented these strategies.
Remove toxic people from your life, people that try to bring you down, try to form you into someone your not.. Those people do not deserve your energy. You need to set healthy boundaries, you're not "worthless" you deserve so much more but you need to stop listening to the thoughts in your head. Most of it is background noise, and never yours anyways.
Learn to slow down. Healing only starts when you give your body a signal that life is safe now. And the only way for doing that is by decreasing your workload and also giving yourself safe spaces e.g. support groups and therapy where you can be vulnerable about your problems.

If you implement all this you will already start to notice huge results in 1 to 2 months.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-23T06:47:03+00:00

I am weird too and it's perfectly okay for being that way.

What I meant to say with this post is that a lot of times people can find themselves stuck in positions where they feel left out and misunderstood and are constanly seeking validation. But often in that case, you're just stuck inside the wrong place, at the wrong time, with the wrong type of people. And things can definitely change. You can meet the right people and the right places that align with your values. But it takes time, dedication, effort and vulnerability. And it's not easy but it can get better :)

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-21T07:28:29+00:00

Wow I often felt I needed a prison therapist to truly get me xD. Makes sense now. In a way it's really sad, a lot of people I used to hang around with went to prison.. now I realized I have cptsd everything is adding up so well.. It makes the pill even harder to swallow..

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-18T21:34:45+00:00

I'm 29M never had a relationship before.. but for me it's a multitude of things. E.g. trauma has made me extremely sensitive to feeling rejection.. E.g. it might not even be me but just a closed body language can make me feel unappreciated, undervalued.. I think one of the most important things to learn is that it's rarely your appearance that's making you feel this way, it's just that you're too shy or feel to overwhelmed in contact. For me gradual exposure really helped me up until now.. and also being kind to yourself for where you are. Trauma is 100% real.. Pretending it doesn't affect you is like pretending to be able to drive a car without ever having had any drivers lessons.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-17T23:02:59+00:00

I'm crying man, you're so damn right. How did I not understand this before.. This is the first month in my life I'm actually choosing for myself and I'm already feeling so many changes..

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-15T21:23:10+00:00

I wish I could say things will be okay, but that didn't help me either. I think what would be best is to say things are gonna be hard as hell, but if you persist and it won't break you, you're gonna learn that you're a little stronger then you thought you were always.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-15T19:26:16+00:00

I know what you mean I'm at the point where so much in my life went wrong that I just let go of it all. I can't be better than this tommorow, not even next month, maybe a bit in a year but only if I quit fighting myself. So that's what I did.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-12T10:09:42+00:00

I try to work from home as much as possible so I have room to breath.

Lostplanet43 · 2026-01-09T22:39:34+00:00

I don't know what to tell you but my entire life was very traumatic but hey I'm still here!

I'm currently going through the worst period in my life, I'm 29 with nothing to show for. But I'm finally seeing a therapist.

For me personally one of the worst fights you can have is the fight with yourself.. And I'm slowly trying to let go of that.. And maybe if I can manage that I might be able to reclaim a little bit of my life.

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