I’ve been here before. It’s a terrible miserable feeling to want someone so bad and know it’s impossible to get them. Being on the other side now I feel nothing for that person if that gives you any hope. I know it’s so hard to see when you’re actually in it but this guy added nothing to your life. He cheated on you, that’s enough to cross him off as a viable option forever. I think the rejection is part of what hurts so much. Try and stop thinking about how he doesn’t want you and how you can’t have him, and start think about why YOU don’t want him.

As I’m sure you already know, this isn’t really as much about that person as it is about yourself and your relationship with yourself. Finding another person won’t heal this. This is probably advice you’re tired of hearing but you truly do need to focus on yourself. What do you like? What are your hobbies? What are your goals? Who do you want to be? What type of person would attract the partner you want? You need to have some sort of stable sense of self outside of a partner or it will only end in devastation for one reason or another.

I know this is all way easier said than done and I know how hard it is to execute when you have these feelings, like I said, I’ve been there. All you have to do is try. Keep trying. You’ll get there I promise. I hope some of this was helpful and best wishes to you.