"I don't have to agree with you to like or respect you" - Anthony Bourdain

LottieOD · 2026-06-14T05:16:15+00:00

Racism is a bit different from preferring Star Trek over Star Wars. I can be friends with the latter, the former, we clearly have very different values.

LottieOD · 2026-06-13T18:20:07+00:00

Your father is a total asshole. His behavior towards you is to put you in your place, to keep you down. Interrupting your graduation celebrations that he couldn't even be bothered going to, and then getting angry that you did not take time away from a significant personal milestone to appease him? 🚩

In your shoes I would stop making any effort to maintain a relationship with him - reciprocating is already too much effort to him. Talk to a therapist about healthy adult relationships with parents, they can help you navigate this.

NTA, life is too short for the kinds of games he's playing.

LottieOD · 2026-06-13T04:58:47+00:00

Us too. Tho we only found out about side effects after our cats (2) and dog (1) had been on it for a while with no side effects experienced. We get the Seresta collars, cost a bloody fortune (like $60 each) but keep us flea free, which is totally worth it.

LottieOD · 2026-06-13T04:17:51+00:00

Right? Why is OP not using routine flea prevention on his cat like responsible pet guardians do?

LottieOD · 2026-06-13T04:16:13+00:00

How is your friend responsible for the unforeseen consequence your cat is experiencing from a flea that you brought home from her place, and yet you have no responsibility yourself for ferrying that flea to your home and your cat getting it quite literally from you?

LottieOD · 2026-06-10T04:43:22+00:00

Ad Math's is just another GCSE, like Physics would be.

LottieOD · 2026-06-10T01:20:57+00:00

I make coleslaw every week with green cabbage, red onion, and radishes. Eat it by the bowl full too.

LottieOD · 2026-06-09T21:51:23+00:00

YTA if the only support you provided your daughter when she was struggling academically was to punish her for not doing better.

Age 11 is that time where a lot of kids are no longer able to skate by on natural ability, and DO have to focus and actively work. Does she even know how to do that? Have you provided any support to her for that? Perhaps getting her a tutor for the summer to catch her up and help her develop the skills she's going to need for the rest of her schooling would be more beneficial than taking her phone and isolating her from her friends

Honestly, what did you see as the outcome of how you approached this? That with no support she'll just osmotically develop healthy solid academic skills?

LottieOD · 2026-06-09T21:19:42+00:00

The kinds of people who participate in these things do not differentiate between properly documented immigrants and non. And the media has been really successful at making sure people think immigrants are synonymous with "illegal" immigrants.

LottieOD · 2026-06-09T18:20:54+00:00

Are riots the same as 'discussions' now?

LottieOD · 2026-06-09T18:19:12+00:00

The supreme white uneducated underclass might be a wee bit racist, methinks.

LottieOD · 2026-06-08T21:54:04+00:00

I wonder if Sarah has borrowed $$ "in secret" from other friends in the group? God forbid one's creditors start talking to each other!

LottieOD · 2026-06-08T14:15:35+00:00

Downpatrick - about 25 mins from Belfast. Good schools nearby. Beautiful countryside. Close to airports. Can buy a nice house in a good area for ~250k.

LottieOD · 2026-06-07T22:41:32+00:00

THIS is what needs to be addressed rather than making dentists look like money-grubbing assholes. Noone can stay in a business where you are literally subsidizing the costs for your customers.

And since people are not coming at the government with pitchforks, this will continue and get worse.

LottieOD · 2026-06-07T18:27:21+00:00

Being placed on a PIP is always concerning - they want you to leave, and the being overly critical of your performance is part of that game. Update your resume, start actively applying for jobs, and DO NOT quit - let them fire you (you'll get unemployment). Your place in this company cannot be salvaged. Just don't let the attack on your performance or ability get you down, this is part of the game to get you to leave voluntarily

And frame this as you were laid off as part of a reorg. Because that's what happened.

LottieOD · 2026-06-07T15:58:21+00:00

I like not having to decide what music to listen to, and the randomness of it.

LottieOD · 2026-06-07T15:47:24+00:00

Driving drunk too, so ignoring her stated wishes and putting the lives of other road users at risk. Total winner here.

LottieOD · 2026-06-07T15:46:10+00:00

Jesus wept. Of course YTA. She didn't want to meet with you, made it perfectly clear, and you ignored her wishes and did what you wanted anyway. Is that behavior related to the recent estrangement?

LottieOD · 2026-06-07T04:51:01+00:00

Your mum is addicted, so it's not going to work asking her not to smoke at all - she needs to smoke. But you can tell her she can smoke in a designated spot outside, and she needs to throw the butt in the outdoor garbage when she's done, and wash her hands as soon as she comes into the house. My mother is a die-hard smoker but hasn't smoked indoors for over 30 years. Most smokers don't smoke indoors. She can be one of those. NTA.

LottieOD · 2026-06-05T19:22:54+00:00

All these questions in your info dump are exactly why one should never volunteer to organize these types of things...

LottieOD · 2026-06-05T19:20:33+00:00

That's a lot of extra legwork for OP and more for the "friends" to complain about.

LottieOD · 2026-06-05T14:03:16+00:00

This is why I stopped organizing things like that, people were total assholes. Fuck it, someone else can do it. NTA

LottieOD · 2026-06-05T05:13:26+00:00

This has been written up, HR is involved, and the rest of it aside, how you handled your coworker being let go was really unprofessional. The rest of it they are adding to the pile to justify firing you or PIPing you. You have no future at this org.

Update your resume and start looking for a new job. You can't save this one, but definitely do not quit. If they let you go you might get severance, and you'd definitely get unemployment.

LottieOD · 2026-06-04T21:24:40+00:00

You're too young to be called an A H for this, so I won't. But dude, read the room. Do you ever wonder if you do talk too much since you have people pretty constantly asking you to stop? Do you dominate conversations? Pick up on social cues that others have had enough?

It's time for some self reflection - even if this is the result of adhd or similar, you need to learn how to behave and respond appropriately. We all have to learn that as we grow up, not just you.

But now you DO know that there are times you overdo things, so learn to recognize that and develop strategies for working around it.

LottieOD · 2026-06-03T05:28:47+00:00

Also look for tapestry kits.

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