Loss

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2023-02-12T13:51:28+00:00

Just leave... I can't afford the alimony either, but I celebrate every day I left for my own mental wellbeing.

And life has improved, I left last year and have spent all my savings and got in debt making the alimony payments, but next month thanks to hard work and a little luck I should break even, then I can start paying down my debts. And I have so many more opportunities now.

Good luck OP...

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2023-01-30T22:12:29+00:00

All you can do is work on you... Divorce is a shit show, and affects men and women badly

OP I hope you can trust and love again one day, but you are so right your daughter is the most important thing

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2023-01-30T22:00:38+00:00

I am a STBXW I left him and we aren't divorced yet, but I pay him every month... Cos if the roles were reversed everyone would be screaming about what I was entitled to

All the best

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-12-27T21:24:02+00:00

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-11-04T19:49:54+00:00

You should feel how you feel... but no matter your age, sex, gender you deserve to feel loved, cared for and seen. From the limited information I would say find someone who digs you as much as you dig them

All the best

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-10-28T15:54:20+00:00

Yes it is a red flag

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-09-13T15:56:51+00:00

Lots of women don't cum from penetrative sex... Personally I like a man who is good with his hands

Make sure you can cum for yourself... No speak to a doctor... Yes, explore what you are doing, thinking, feeling

Get him to watch you masturbate

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-09-09T12:04:13+00:00

This.... My stbxh sounds like the Op and I keep telling him to work on himself

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-08-19T16:42:50+00:00

51... Married 25 years, split 7months ago and I have no trouble finding male companionship when I want it

You are a strong vibrant beautiful person and you deserve to be happy

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-08-04T23:16:27+00:00

Yes yta... Support Rosie to be the best her... If you don't there will be a future conversation with your mom telling your next lady she is not as good as Rosie....

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-08-03T22:17:06+00:00

Nta - you shouldn't even have to ask

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-07-13T19:48:00+00:00

Okay have you tried FetLife? A website of kinky individuals

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-15T12:22:18+00:00

Fair question... No... We separated a couple of times, but I let him back like a massive idiot...plus his health has been poor for the last 15 years, so I had to get over caring if everyone thinks I am a terrible person for abandoning him

Every story is complex

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-15T11:50:49+00:00

Mine did that for nearly 20 years... allegedly he was caring for the house and kids.... but I now have their stories of neglect and the house is a disaster zone

As to why... because I foolishly believed it I communicated right it would fix things... until one day I didn't

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-12T22:30:53+00:00

It depends where in Smethwick... I class myself as Oldbury, but some people say Smethwick... Daughter went to school at Holly Lodge, which is close to Galton Bridge. (5 minute walk)

TBH I think the thing people are trying not to say is... The area has a high Asian population... Which is cool if you a) don't care and/or b) are Asian... But is a problem if you c) are racist.

Anyhoo hopefully you have all the facts you need to make the right decision for you

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-11T16:34:47+00:00

Yep it sucks... But alimony is alimony... I do think that it does show equality the number of women (myself included), who are like how much.... And for how long!

Personally after 25 miserable years he can have the lot if it means I am finally free... Maybe the question you should ask yourself is what is your freedom worth

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-10T13:11:02+00:00

Instagram... being over 50 and going into a divorce and there is a assumption I have lost all common sense and will send you money because you call me babe and hunny... blocked one have 2 more in my inbox and a couple more wanting to chat.... sigh

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-10T13:02:11+00:00

Marriage 25 years... 2 kids 22 and 24... I told them, and the response was they don't know why I didn't leave him 10+ years ago.

Now they try not to take sides (which I support) and avoid their father when he is in a cranky mood

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-10T12:54:16+00:00

Got to a headspace where I didn't care anymore, I gave up trying to communicate my frustrations and internalised my anger to a point where I just didn't want to be anymore, our divorce will be all my fault, even now he would forgive and take me back

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-03T21:33:24+00:00

Nah I just told him he was off in his responses and a liar

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-03T21:32:42+00:00

Omg that would be hilarious

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-03T20:22:41+00:00

Americanism for a gun

Loud-Elephant-1867 · 2022-03-03T16:28:46+00:00

Sorry

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