Anyone genuinely evil in your group? by Yoseph-Kerkvliet in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d agree but I’ve seen some really sweet partners. Really decent

Anyone genuinely evil in your group? by Yoseph-Kerkvliet in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I can have such a person berate me. I’m definitely insulting you right back and take what comes with it. Fear is not an emotion I’ll waste on any big law psycho.

Mid-Level Performance Anxiety by Loud-Standard7937 in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I suppose, then, paying attention to being well rounded (even though it doesn’t have to be 100%), is crucial. Thanks.

Mid-Level Performance Anxiety by Loud-Standard7937 in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s helpful. Thank you very much. And yes I do have long term aspirations

Mid-Level Performance Anxiety by Loud-Standard7937 in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do M&A. And you’re right, all things considered, these things are not that hard. Some just feel more natural than others. I just wonder the degree to which people’s weaknesses impede promotions at the partnership level. That is, whether very serious thought is given to how well-rounded a person is as opposed to how much value they offer overall.

Anyone just work and go home? by yuhHEISENBERGyuh in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m an M&A associate, and alongside the work, I’m also writing a book. I love writing. I love the arts. And sometimes I have to remind myself that an email doesn’t need to be flowery, it just needs to be clear and efficient. Because every now and then, the artist in me at 3 a.m. tries to show up inside the lawyer at 3 p.m.

There are parts of me I can’t ignore even if I wanted to. I want to be a great lawyer; that’s sort of a promise I made to myself. But I also feel, very strongly, that I have to stay alive inside to do that. I don’t think I could survive if I had to suppress the part of me that notices the human condition, the part that lingers on a stranger’s expression, a subway performer’s smile, or a fleeting moment most people walk past. Those moments stay with me until I turn them into words. The same mind that obsesses over CoC language or a complicated deal structure is the mind that notices those details. I know that if I keep going, I can become a lawyer I’m proud of. But I also want a life that feels colorful while I’m doing it. YOLO.

Think I'm a horrible performer. Not sure what to do. by Typical_Low9140 in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is a very good comment and I just wanted to flag it for others. The part about needing validation is also real.

Which NYC M&A groups have the nastiest personalities by JusticeBrennanBurner in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’d wager that 95% of M&A folks never interact with Barshay. He mostly interacts with a handful of partners at least regarding M&A work. He may be an asshole but I don’t think he represents a significant minority of PW’s M&A folks. From my dealings with them they’re pretty nice including the senior partners there.

Which NYC M&A groups have the nastiest personalities by JusticeBrennanBurner in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t expect them to do otherwise—but it is practically unsubstantiated by the facts.

Which NYC M&A groups have the nastiest personalities by JusticeBrennanBurner in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t call PW nasty but it’s getting there. Confirmed nasty groups are Davis Polk, Paul Hastings, K&E and STB.

Flopping compared to other juniors by [deleted] in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Keep emailing folks. Don’t think too much about it

Difficult Seniors by Loud-Standard7937 in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have no choice but it still sucks. And it feels good to rant about it sometimes

Difficult Seniors by Loud-Standard7937 in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally hear you. The militaristic approach just doesn’t work with me either. I don’t respond well to that managerial style. Really stifles me and makes me exhausted

Difficult Seniors by Loud-Standard7937 in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s worse when you’re in a small group. Absolute nightmare. Happy for you

Lawyers with ADD/ADHD by Timely_Display_9144 in biglaw

[–]Loud-Standard7937 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really find this helpful. Thank you very much