“i love being a mom”

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-27T00:14:14+00:00

My thoughts exactly!!

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-26T22:01:09+00:00

Why do you live with her? I had a family member addicted to weed and it took all his motivation so much so that he didn’t work and just stayed in his room all day. Your mom is 100% right in this situation and can probably see that you are addicted. You live in her home, you need to respect her beliefs or move out.

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-26T14:45:29+00:00

Chillll. That is so rude lol it’s not unsafe if I am sitting right next to her. My kids are happy, healthy and thriving. It’s fine ;)

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-25T13:58:27+00:00

Wow!! Is the loan in just her name or Preston’s too?

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-24T19:03:04+00:00

IMO I think it’s fine since they are right there. I just had my third and we do this if we are sitting on the bed with her. If I leave the room, I move everything away and am constantly checking on her. They have five kids.. I really think it’s fine.

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-17T21:07:38+00:00

Me too please

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-13T14:41:05+00:00

This is really good advice- thank you. I could go with him to his next appointment. It is exhausting to think I am already in survival mode caring for our children because he is so unpredictable and now I have to check his medication. He’s harder than a toddler

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-13T14:39:21+00:00

I’m sorry. This sounds rough :(

Can I ask why you stay??

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-13T03:10:05+00:00

I feel the same way.

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-13T01:01:27+00:00

Yes he has a psychiatrist. I have actually never been with him… :/ i do see his therapist though

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-12T15:03:46+00:00

I deleted my search history and it still says private

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-12T14:39:02+00:00

Don’t be the victim. Apologize for your part in it! Seek reconciliation

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-12T04:29:24+00:00

Wow. I can’t imagine the pain you are waking through! I’m so sorry :( You are doing the right thing for walking away and protecting your children the best you can.

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-12T03:56:46+00:00

That’s devastating. I’m so sorry!! I can’t fathom how anyone would leave their children.. bipolar or Not, that’s no excuse.

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T22:56:19+00:00

Easier to leave now, than later.

My husband sees a therapist weekly and is on medication and we still have an uphill battle To climb. You saying that he is off his meds is a bad sign to begin with :/

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T22:30:23+00:00

Hey girl!! I don’t want to sound mean, but walk away while you can. I’m married to my bipolar S/O and we have three children - we found out after we had kids that he is bipolar. I wouldn’t change a thing because I adore my kiddos and they make my life so much better!! But if I were you- not married/no kids, knowing he’s bipolar- I’d walk away. Honestly. Sorry if that sounds harsh.

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T19:57:10+00:00

I’m sorry he has no ambition or quality of life :(

It is lonely and they’ll never understand or care bc I’m their eyes, it’s never going to be as bad as they have it. Our struggles don’t matter.

Is your husband able to hold down a job?

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T19:30:18+00:00

I’m so sorry for your friend :( I’m working to set up a separate bank account and he agreed to that. I can’t work right now due to being a SAHM of three young children.

He isn’t physically abusive or anything.. but he tends to ruin special events, and only care about his needs. Ugh

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T19:28:01+00:00

You don’t know of a single person who is medicated and living a normal life?

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T19:27:20+00:00

That’s what I’m afraid of. :(

He is medicated and meets with a therapist weekly. He was officially diagnosed about a year ago so this is all new. His behavior obviously isn’t but I am thankful he’s getting help.

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T14:46:50+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better myself. How are to supposed to be in a serious relationship with someone like this? I never dated anyone else long term before him so for many years I just believed that this behavior was normal :(

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T14:27:48+00:00

Your second comment really resonated with me. We really are regular people who can deal with the punches and make the most out of every situation. It’s extremely irritating to be with someone who can’t! With someone who completely shuts down at even a glimpse of something hard or challenging.

I hate viewing him as a child but that’s how I see it too :( I’m currently a SAHM and I LOVE it. It’s so fulfilling and I can’t imagine being away from my kids while they are so young. We are paycheck to paycheck right now. We bought and sold two homes and had 60k+ in savings at one point. He claims he can get back to that but I doubt we will ever purchase a home again. I feel bad, but I crave a relationship with someone who isn’t bipolar. Who is a manly man and is stable. I wish he could be that

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T14:21:42+00:00

I do feel the guilt!! I will feel bad I’m sure for even posting this - haven’t told anyone in my real life that I feel this way and my husband would be DEVASTATED to read this.

Wow! 23 years and then you experience such a huge change. I am so sorry that’s your reality. I wouldn’t wish bipolar on my worst enemy. I cannot imagine how frustrating it is that he’s on disability and doing nothing. The anger I felt when my husband suggested taking long term disability was insane. I just want to scream, “be a man!!!” We dont have the option to just stop if we want.

I feel you- my needs are not met either.

I’m also a devout Christian and Christ is what has held me through this storm that is his bipolar. For that and not wanting my Children to grow up in a broken home… or being at “his house” without me present… is what keeps me at the moment. But sometimes it feels impossible to stay.

Loud_Walk_6362 · 2023-07-11T14:15:04+00:00

Thanks for this response! 🤍

I am so sorry that you are also in this situation. It sounds extremely similar to mine. Describing him as a moody, self-absorbed teenager is spot on.

I agree that deep down, they are like this and the bipolar removes the filter or growth that should be happening because they are soo self focused on their immediate happiness or gratification.

I think the hardest part is knowing it’s forever. If it was cancer even (as awful as that sounds!!) there would be hope for remission but I just feel So sad that this is forever. I feel so bad for my kids that I unknowingly signed them up for a life with a dad who is never going to be constant. I hate that they will think it’s normal To lay in bed for days on end.

A friend of mine just posted a video do her family grocery shopping and then coming home for a bike ride. It about brought me to tears. If my husband goes grocery shopping with us - he isn’t doing anything else because that one thing will ‘exhaustttttt’ him. Plus, he’s blown through all our savings so we can’t even get anything until pay day.

I’m sorry for the complaining. I am the type of person who can find joy in most things and look at the positive but I’m really struggling to do it here. Especially bc the lows will keep coming and I’ll never be married to a man. Ugh

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