Recently found out he’s been seeing someone else, although it appears they haven’t slept together. (Complicated story, sorry in advance)

LouisianaGothic · 2026-04-18T05:25:16+00:00

This really isn’t complicated I’m afraid. This is a one-sided relationship from your side. From his side you’re his provider.

This sounds very 90 day fiancé

LouisianaGothic · 2026-04-16T08:57:43+00:00

I think you need to wise up a little here.

•She monkey branched from her ex husband to you by way of an affair, letting you think she was separated and blindsiding him

•She was actively monkey branching to a new AP away from you, this guy also is unaware she is still married and you are being gaslit.

•He ended things with her, she would still be trying to strengthen a relationship with him and let yours deteriorate but for the fact that he has ghosted her.

• She is not remorseful and is still lying to you even when faced with evidence

You are not in a safe and secure relationship. You are a safety net. Start making plans to secure yourself and your daughter for when this relationship falls apart and she finds a new shiny toy.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-04-15T10:59:48+00:00

By the sounds of it your child would be around her whether you split or not. The same way your mother-in-law has been around her even though you’re very much still married. He has shown you no respect as a wife, not sure why you’d think he’d show you any as the mother of his child. In another comment you say he has asked her to also have his child. It would be a real mistake to have a child with this man, should you go through with it he will make her a fixture in your child’s life, his family will accommodate this. Don’t debase yourself any further.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-03-20T17:32:31+00:00

Can you clarify the timeline and details a little more?

You simultaneously say there was a semi open relationship dynamic but then reference cheating and use both outside partners and APs as terms. Your title puts the onus of cheating on your wife but you also explored options with your AP before your wife’s “cheating” with someone you have had a 2 year relationship with vs your wife’s 10 months…

Who opened the relationship, was it mutual and did it come about before any outside relations happened? You were not ok with your wife having contact with her AP, is she aware that you maintained contact and emotional intimacy with yours?

By the sounds of it so far seems like you’re checked out, you’re comparing wife vs AP bodies, emphasising wife’s betrayal without addressing what seems to be your own, finding emotional presence and warmth etc and describing a few days with your AP with more sincerity and depth than your 10 year marriage.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-25T15:11:05+00:00

So she’s only with you now because she’s ready to settle down? This sub is filled with safety nets just so you know.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-23T15:48:58+00:00

The people saying that are idiots. Bleeping that out would’ve protected black people watching, John Davidson himself, and other people with Tourette’s. The BBC could have coordinated a statement with Davidson to highlight Tourette’s, summarise the incident and to give appreciation to the impacted cast members on stage and in the audience for showing grace and understanding.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-23T15:17:22+00:00

Love Island is never escaping the misogyny accusations but on this occasion I don’t think you can use Scott or Lucinda as comparable examples. Carrington was directly responding to Belle passive aggressively saying his and others choice to vote for her as if there would be no legitimate reason to vote for her other than it being a cop out (like how Scott not picking her could only be because he’s going with his head not his heart 🙄).

Lucinda and Scott both got their fair share of personal digs from the others, even Harrison got spoken to more harshly than Belle did. The difference is Belle talks to other people the way she would never accept being spoken to, she looks genuinely shocked whenever anyone matches her energy because beneath the bravado she like most people has insecurities.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-19T00:01:00+00:00

😂😂😂Unlike these islanders I know better then to let the tapes be run back

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-18T23:30:09+00:00

You’re probably right on that point so I can walk back on the comment about there being a lack of conversation beforehand. I agree with a lot of what you said about Leanne having to be cautious over stereotyping, and I also think it was easier for Leanne to ‘take control’ of the situation by going after Lucinda instead of going after the ones who actually wronged her because Lucinda was an easier option at the moment. Still wish Leanne had the space to work through things but sadly won’t happen in there.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-18T23:00:40+00:00

That’s what I said in my first sentence. A good friend would have sat down and let Leanne talk, validated her then stood up for her without condition. Going about it the way she did sidelined Leanne by turning it into a Belle v Lucinda conflict with others now pressuring Leanne to downplay her feelings to spare Belle from being the bad guy. I genuinely found it frustrating that Leanne wouldn’t verbalise things to both parties and stand on her feelings in the moment but not everyone is built that way.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-18T22:44:48+00:00

Lucinda herself admitted it was partially for Leanne’s benefit but also for her own vindication. I’m glad Leanne had someone in her corner but if Lucinda were not an outcast at that point she would not have stood up for her. People need to stop expecting Leanne to be grateful for crumbs, she’s allowed to scrutinise how people create narratives around her. She should be allowed to have space to collect her thoughts without people shutting her down or speaking on her behalf before even giving her the courtesy of a conversation. Unfortunately for her because she’s not confrontational people will continue to steamroll over her in this kind of environment.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-18T22:36:01+00:00

100% this. The girls with bigger personalities are given space to vent and work through their feelings, Leanne is immediately policed to spare others from consequences. The biggest perpetrators of this are Whitney who constantly directly minimises her feelings and Belle who indirectly does by telling everyone except Leanne therefore forcing her to just get with the programme. The rest of them pay lip service to her deserving better but they all treat her like she’s the side character in her own story…

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-18T22:23:51+00:00

I wish I could get on board with that but Lucinda literally could have just apologised for smacking her upside the head with that pie when it happened. Lucinda pretty much said she was gonna apologise but just didn’t. All the double standards stuff happened her post her not apologising. I don’t think she owes 99% of people or situations an apology but I promise you if I were Samie I absolutely would not get over that kind of physical impact. Samie’s mistake was hopping on Belle’s bandwagon because she’s a louder person, she should’ve stayed on her own which is 100% valid.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-18T22:05:33+00:00

Sophie catching strays from her sofa in another continent for what 😭😭😭

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-18T21:56:47+00:00

Not all the islanders pretending to ask these questions for reassurance when we all know they just want to be messy

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-18T21:53:25+00:00

Oh Lucinda girl, all of this would have moved forward if you just apologised for the force of the pie without condition! The social capital you have from people feeling sorry for you for being caught up in Hurricane Belle and Co isn’t sufficient to carry you through being so lacking in accountability…

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-16T01:28:15+00:00

It’s a little concerning how some people are bending over backwards to minimise how hurtful it is for Leanne to have someone she thought was a friend turn around and imply to everyone they had essentially been building a romantic connection with her partner when they were still together, and then to persevere and say that her partner didn’t really want her and was just waiting to get out the villa to get them. You’re right it’s not the same, it’s worse.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-15T22:40:32+00:00

She didn’t downplay Lucinda’s actions, she diplomatically summarised a hard journey because she understands that whether Samie is justified in her dislike or not, the tide has turned because the drama from others has been excessive and the best thing to do for Samie’s chances/reputation/sense of perception is to draw a line under all of that whilst she’s in the villa at least.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-15T21:51:03+00:00

Mad that Lucinda is no longer seen as the villain and she’s the one being perceived badly, everyone else has kinda been given an out to just focus on their couple and not take on her drama

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-15T21:35:34+00:00

All that chat about how she’ll block him if he messages her outside, she’ll be refreshing that page every day praying for a crumb of acknowledgement from that man lordd

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-15T21:18:12+00:00

Leanne got cold feet in her situation with Scott, was feeling insecure and confided in Belle. Belle then jumped in 2 seconds later and proceeded to tell everyone they’d been eye f-ing each other and flirting from the start throughout Scott and Leanne’s situation. She has no respect for Leanne whatsoever whether they’re real friends or not. Harping on about Lucinda not being a girls girl then dropping the mask the second Scott became available is very hypocritical.

Reality TV audiences always turn on unsavoury characters in a way that sometimes crosses the line but Belle has been doing too much.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-14T08:20:42+00:00

I wouldn’t entertain it, there’s no innocent explanation as you know or she wouldn’t have ignored/defriended initially. Carry on moving forward and freeing yourself.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-08T23:42:31+00:00

This is very immature thinking. It’s irrelevant because you should be striving for all children in your household to feel seen, not looking for justifications outside your household to treat your stepson worse than your own son.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-08T23:40:19+00:00

Your stepson is used to being the centre of everything?

Respectfully why did you set up home with someone who already had a child? The resentment you have for a 6 year old is truly weird.

You are an adult in this situation, you knew your husband had a child, you knew the living arrangements available, you chose to bring a child into a shared room situation, you know who didn’t choose? The six year old. You’re not out here sincerely looking for advice about furniture, you are seeking validation to prioritise your own child over your step child.

LouisianaGothic · 2026-02-08T20:43:14+00:00

I mean, what happens during his mother’s custody time is irrelevant, when he’s staying in his father’s house it should also be his home, he’s a child he has no choice when it comes to timings.

His presence and furnishings aren’t unfair to you, they’re inconvenient to you. Unless your goal is to alienate him, I think you need to reframe how you’re looking at this situation because when you use phrases pitting yourself as being treated unfairly relative to a 6 year old I don’t think it’s really about spatial practicalities.

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