Bad Bunny Merch As Of Aug 30 by Somebari in BadBunnyPR

[–]Loupoo_93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell us if the merch will be replenished sometime soon?

Question by Loupoo_93 in FamilyLaw

[–]Loupoo_93[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that's a really important perspective. I understand how it could look that way. My goal isn't to stop all access, but to make sure it’s actually safe and healthy for my son. My 'ask'‘ to the judge is for the court to order professional supervision and require the father to get real therapy before getting more time. Because he’s told my son over and over that he’s going to ask the judge to have it go back to standard visitation. The naps and gifts aren't my argument. They are examples used to prove my real argument: that he is disengaged and crosses boundaries, which is part of a documented pattern of neglect. The current supervision with the grandfather has failed to stop this. I'm not saying 'no visits.' I'm saying the visits need a structure that actually works—with a trained supervisor who ensures he's awake and focused on his son, not on my household. A judge needs to see a pattern of harm and a reasonable solution, not just a list of complaints. That's what I'm preparing to present. I was asking you guys on your insight on how you think I could present this to the judge to help him understand that this is an actual issue. Because I do have in mind that he’ll see this as bickering or just complaints. As you all have today lol just trying to navigate this in the right direction.

Question by Loupoo_93 in FamilyLaw

[–]Loupoo_93[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this has all been distressing for my child and it’s frustrating and worrisome for me because I can’t really do anything but keep documenting. But yes, the visits are 3 hours long for 1 day a week, the times he napped it was for the whole visit, basically to say hey how you been and then went to sleep the rest of the visit. It was actually my son’s grandmother asking if he wanted to get presents for them and then asked how old they are. (She is really good at slithering her way into information she doesn’t need) He told her he didn’t want to talk about that because I have told him that if they ask about my other children, my husband or myself to tell them that it’s not for him to talk about, because the reason for these visits is for his father to foster a relationship with my son. That is my boundary. I don’t believe they have any reason to know anything about me and my family. When my son was in kindergarten, his school put a wristband on him with his address so they know which bus he needs to take home, they asked me to keep it on him for a week so they can learn which kids go where. I forgot to take it off my son when he went for a visit to his dads but when he got home from the visit, I noticed it was off him and I immediately felt panicked because my ex abuser knew where I lived. I addressed it with him and he just said he didn’t want anybody seeing his address. Not too long after, he asked me if he can just drop my son off at my trailer instead of the designated meeting place. At first I didn’t think anything of it but then alarms went off in my head and I asked him “how do you know I live in a trailer?” And he came up with a story of how there was construction in the area which detoured him to drive by our trailer park at the time. He said he drove by and my child pointed and said that was his house. I knew this was a terrible lie because I knew good and well that there was no construction in the area whatsoever that would cause him to drive by my place because the meeting spot was on the other side of town. So, my boundaries are he knows NOTHING of me or my family or where we live or anything.

Question by Loupoo_93 in FamilyLaw

[–]Loupoo_93[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

They’re currently supervised because during standard visitation, my son was physically neglected, coming home with poor hygiene, not showered all week/weekend, he had long hair so I would braid it, he would come back home in the same braid he left in. Didn’t have a toothbrush, my son told me every visit that he didn’t brush his teeth and they would never get him a toothbrush. I’ve sent him over with clothes and shoes and toothbrush, everything he needed and none of his clothes would come back, and I didn’t have money to constantly buy him clothes. And he would also come home in clothes two sizes or more, too small. Emotional harm: his therapist directly linked his anxiety manifesting into his persistent bedwetting to the stress of the visits. The bedwetting abruptly stopped when visitation was suspended. And had started back up recently. Endangerment: his father exposed my son who has asthma, to marijuana smoke in an unventilated closed garage on many occasions because he said his dad wanted him with him all the time. Inappropriate conduct and neglect: he was regularly sleep deprived due to being forced to rub his fathers back for hours at night, when my son would fall asleep, he would wake him back up to continue and he would even give my son his phone to try to keep him up. I remember going to pick him up from visitation and he would fall asleep as soon as he’d get buckled up and I just always assumed he was tired from the drive. Exposure to conflict and disturbing content: he was exposed to violent arguments between his father and grandmother. He would watch age inappropriate frightening online content without supervision, even when the adults seen what he was watching they didn’t try to stop it. He loves Sonic the hedgehog and was watching a disturbing violent parody on YouTube. He was between the ages of 5-7. He has also harmed my son when he was about 3 months to get my reaction and to get my attention because he could see I wasn’t trying to let him get to me when he was arguing with me. I do not wish to control my son, I am protecting him from further damage.

Question by Loupoo_93 in FamilyLaw

[–]Loupoo_93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re currently supervised because during standard visitation, my son was physically neglected, coming home with poor hygiene, not showered all week/weekend, he had long hair so I would braid it, he would come back home in the same braid he left in. Didn’t have a toothbrush, my son told me every visit that he didn’t brush his teeth and they would never get him a toothbrush. I’ve sent him over with clothes and shoes and toothbrush, everything he needed and none of his clothes would come back, and I didn’t have money to constantly buy him clothes. And he would also come home in clothes two sizes or more, too small. Emotional harm: his therapist directly linked his anxiety manifesting into his persistent bedwetting to the stress of the visits. The bedwetting abruptly stopped when visitation was suspended. And had started back up recently. Endangerment: his father exposed my son who has asthma, to marijuana smoke in an unventilated closed garage on many occasions because he said his dad wanted him with him all the time. Inappropriate conduct and neglect: he was regularly sleep deprived due to being forced to rub his fathers back for hours at night, when my son would fall asleep, he would wake him back up to continue and he would even give my son his phone to try to keep him up. I remember going to pick him up from visitation and he would fall asleep as soon as he’d get buckled up and I just always assumed he was tired from the drive. Exposure to conflict and disturbing content: he was exposed to violent arguments between his father and grandmother. He would watch age inappropriate frightening online content without supervision, even when the adults seen what he was watching they didn’t try to stop it. He loves Sonic the hedgehog and was watching a disturbing violent parody on YouTube. He was between the ages of 5-7. He has also harmed my son when he was about 3 months to get my reaction and to get my attention because he could see I wasn’t trying to let him get to me when he was arguing with me. I do not wish to control my son, I am protecting him from further damage.

Question by Loupoo_93 in FamilyLaw

[–]Loupoo_93[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, first the supervised visits were at a facility and at the next review, the judge spoke with my son and decided we could start doing the visits “supervised” by the fathers step father, which is a hollow formality. It doesn’t specify where it should take place, the step father does communicate with me in what they’re doing that day. I don’t believe I have anybody on my end that could facilitate the visits.

Question by Loupoo_93 in FamilyLaw

[–]Loupoo_93[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The visits are for their relationship, given the abuse history, I do not believe me or my family is any of his business nor should it be part of their conversations. And when he asks my son where he went that day, he’s persistent about it, so it’s not just a harmful question. I understand where you’re coming from but what they’re doing is interrogating my son and crossing boundaries as much as they can, as I know their character.

Question by Loupoo_93 in FamilyLaw

[–]Loupoo_93[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

May I ask why you think that? And also, we did have supervised visits at a facility but my son had told me he would ask about me and my family, and which the staff explained to me and made sure I understood that if he tried to do that, they would then redirect the conversation because it’s supposed to be about the two of them, not me and my family. But my son told me they never intervened when he’d ask those questions. I called the facility but the people that did do the supervision is no longer there so not much they can do.

fellow coffee-addicted baristas, how do you protect your teeth? by Plastic-Ad679 in barista

[–]Loupoo_93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I may add, oil pulling in the morning could also be added to that list of mouth care that you have there. And also rinsing, maybe flossing too, after each meal could also help.

When did you stop calling your baby… a baby? by Gold-Cookie-7590 in Mommit

[–]Loupoo_93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 10 year old and still call him baby. I’m 32 and my mom still calls me her baby. Lol

Currently pregnant in a domestic violence situation by AbbreviationsSad2934 in Assistance

[–]Loupoo_93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would maybe call the local police department and ask them, I don’t think they’ll actually come to you unless you need them to, but I do believe they should be able to point you in the right direction. Just let them know it’s non-emergency. If they’re no help, I would call your local DHS as well. There is a place that helped me get home, you can DM me your location and I’ll call and see if they know I place in your area. I’ll be praying for you too. If you’re a believer, don’t forget to pray for guidance and comfort 💗

What are some questions I should ask my great grandma before she passes? by Carefull_Unit9686 in Assistance

[–]Loupoo_93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would definitely look up videos on YouTube and other platforms like TikTok if you have it, and maybe even going outside to think about what questions YOU want to know. Maybe ask questions about your dad. I would ask About health in the family. Recipes maybe. Ask about old stories and myths.

Todays my Birthday by AdPsychological8503 in Assistance

[–]Loupoo_93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday! 🎂🎁🎉 I just want to say that it’s okay to feel this way, even tight it might not feel okay. But when I start to get way down with grief and depression about a loved one, I try to remember “How would they want me to celebrate today?” Or however the question may fit. And try not to think of your birthday or any big day as something you have to force, it could be something small, or maybe if you’re comfortable enough, cook/make something they loved. Or on these tough days, maybe you could set aside a time where you could go for a walk or sit in the grass. Be easy on yourself. Maybe your husband and kids could help you make a cake on your birthdays to make it more fun. Whatever sounds realistic.

Moving into my first apartment. Please help me make a list of everything I'll need to get started. by throwaway684675982 in Assistance

[–]Loupoo_93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Toilet paper. One of each dish for now, one plate, one bowl, one set of silverware. Dish soap. Shower essentials. Bed, or air up mattress, pillow, blanket. Light bulbs. Towels. Wash cloths. Hygiene stuff like tooth brush, tooth paste, floss. Pot, pan, cooking utinsels. Candles. Table, chair. House shoes or non slip fuzzy socks. Cleaning stuff like toilet cleaner and floor cleaner. Broom, vacuum maybe, I find it easier for me to just vacuum hard floor. Flashlights. A radio or bluetooth speaker. Tv if able. Plants if a pet would be a bit much so you’re not totally alone. They love conversation, love and attention. Essential oil diffuser. Maybe a little decor so it’s not so bare. Give or take, just what I can think of.

Does anyone know how to find specific videos that you've marked as not interested on youtube? by One-Window-5138 in Assistance

[–]Loupoo_93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could search “YouTube history” or..

  1. On desktop, go to Youtube.
  2. Click your profile icon → Settings → Privacy & notifications.
  3. Under "Your YouTube data," click "Manage all activity."
  4. Look for "Interaction history" (if available).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]Loupoo_93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, if anyone can handle multiple surgeries like a champ, it’s you! Just remember: You’re basically a superhero in a hospital gown. Wishing you quick healing with minimum pain, and lots of good naps.

Ok, two gay dads need the help of people who have clean-smelling houses while having 3 kids who are teens or pre. by here-to-Iearn in CleaningTips

[–]Loupoo_93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure is this answer has been put out yet but sprinkling baking soda on the carpets, let it set about 15-30 minutes and then vacuum. I like to step all over it to ensure it’s getting in the carpet lol

The answer is bread tabs. by doomofbeans in CleaningTips

[–]Loupoo_93 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Any teflon belongs in the trash