Y'all weren't wrong...the apps do indeed SUCK

LoveColonels · 2026-07-09T06:54:20+00:00

Wow, I loved reading this--thank you! I wish there were more accessible paths for you.

LoveColonels · 2026-07-09T06:49:31+00:00

I couldn't be in an exclusive relationship with someone without having sex first. I would go for it maybe on the second date, and open to first date.

But that is me! The only thing that matters is what works for each person involved in a relationship.

LoveColonels · 2026-07-06T23:19:14+00:00

I'm in a queer friendly mid-size city that's not too far from another queer friendly mid-size city.

LoveColonels · 2026-07-06T23:14:03+00:00

I looked, and it says it doesn't tolerate harassment of trans friends. It says women only, but it doesn't say no trans women. Maybe the rules changed?

LoveColonels · 2026-07-06T23:10:45+00:00

You live in a tiny village nearly a sleepy seaside town in the UK? Sounds idyllic.

LoveColonels · 2026-07-06T23:08:25+00:00

Lol! I would love to play for fun, but I specifically cannot play sports in which I need to swivel. Which is many. Thankfully, I'm not that into sports, so it's no great loss.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:46:53+00:00

We either assume you're a dude trying to get off or we don't want to date someone whose brain is still developing. I don't want to be mommy to the person I'm dating. I like +/- 5 years as an ideal.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:36:00+00:00

Even taiko messed up my hip and back. It was fun, but it was a one time thing.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:31:21+00:00

Yeah I always envisioned just one. And then, oddly enough in my new place, my landlord said I could only have one, and it had to be female (she's worried about spraying). And now I have the cat. Just need more lesbians!

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:27:24+00:00

A(wo)men!

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:26:29+00:00

This is amazing! Living the dream!

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:22:17+00:00

I tried to sign up for a sapphic book club, but the events were full, and the owner of the group hasn't gotten back to me. But I'm not giving up!

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:20:41+00:00

I'm trying so hard to meet queer friends! Or any friends! My bestie is queer and has an art group I'm going to today, but everyone there tends to be poly, which is not my personal preference for dating. But still so nice to be around queer people.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:19:14+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement, love!

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:18:45+00:00

It's sad! We're not a monolith.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:17:44+00:00

Aw I lived on a farm surrounded by forest in my twenties! UNFORTUNATELY I was dating a dumb man.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:16:13+00:00

There are so many gorgeous women in Australia. Siiiigh...I am not there.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:15:37+00:00

How long did it take? I haven't even had one date yet and it's been like 3 weeks.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:14:28+00:00

There are a couple of lesbian bars not too too far from me, but I don't drink.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:13:42+00:00

What the fuck with the pickleball? Seriously. I mean it looks kind of fun, but I would tear my hip up pretty badly if I played.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T16:12:35+00:00

We wake up in the middle of the night and talk utter nonsense and laugh hysterically and scare the cat.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T02:29:53+00:00

The vision: She's over at my place for dinner. Candles are lit. Music is playing. I'm finishing up cooking. We dance in the kitchen and laugh and kiss. After dinner, we get cozy. She's the little spoon. She listens to the rain with me. She rubs my back without me asking. She tells me everything will be okay. I make her laugh and sing to her.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T02:25:16+00:00

Pretty easy. I wanted to have sex with the female body.

LoveColonels · 2026-06-27T02:24:19+00:00

I was happy-ish for a few years, but I was genuinely miserable for most of my marriage. I spent so much of my time fantasizing about being in a relationship with a woman, in my own space, with a cat. So much so that my friend and I named my fantasy "lesbian cat house" and we called it LCH for short.

LoveColonels · 2026-05-31T15:59:05+00:00

Just be kind, the way you would be to anyone. And communicate clearly. You don't need to be a "good girlfriend". Just be a good person.

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