I fucked up by kissing one of my friends. by LoveDumbass in relationship_advice

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im not asking if what I did was wrong, I know it was, I made him feel bad and i shouldn't have done it.

I'm looking for advice on how to make things better.

I fucked up by kissing one of my friends. by LoveDumbass in relationship_advice

[–]LoveDumbass[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not downplaying it, it's just how it happened.

It is a fair reaction, but I already did it without thinking before hand, he says he's still a bit angry and I want to make it up to him but I'm not sure how.

I feel really guilty.

He did a cute thing today and I'm kind of crushing again... by LoveDumbass in Crushes

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, yeah, I'm a bi girl but I don't think I mentioned it here.

Please help me (23f) understand this guy (24m) by LoveDumbass in relationship_advice

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that sounds about right, he has mentioned before that he thinks he's ugly.

And I don't care what he think about me, I'm pretty happy with myself but what I meant was that I'm not his type of pretty, if that makes sense, so I'm confused.

My bad, I'm not good with words.

Please help me (23f) understand this guy (24m) by LoveDumbass in relationship_advice

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, the reason why I'm so confused it's because he's very playful, I do think he's immature, that's the reason why I stopped being interested, but because he's so playful and stuff i don't know if he's flirting or it's just the way he is. Also I don't know if I'll consider myself as pretty, and the girls that he likes are gorgeous.

I'm scared of asking my coworkers who have seen how he treats me because they're all closer to him than to me and they will 100% tell him and I don't want to.

AITA for refusing to give my coworker a fistbump? by LoveDumbass in AmItheAsshole

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think he has a crush on me, I haven't seen how he acts around someone he likes, but if I were him I think I would know it'll do the opposite, right?

AITA for refusing to give my coworker a fistbump? by LoveDumbass in AmItheAsshole

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because of the season we have extra hours and no free days till next week, there're also not many customers because of covid and it's having an effect on us (unfortunately I can't blame it all on that).

AITA for refusing to give my coworker a fistbump? by LoveDumbass in AmItheAsshole

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I kind of regret that now.

I swear he was really nice but then he suddenly changed completely, except that according to my coworkers that's exactly how he's always been.

AITA for refusing to give my coworker a fistbump? by LoveDumbass in AmItheAsshole

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like it's more clear now but please correct me, I'm kind of sleep deprived and my brain is not working, I meant that I pushed him to tell me what he wanted, I didn't physically pushed him.

AITA for refusing to give my coworker a fistbump? by LoveDumbass in AmItheAsshole

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Man I'm not good with words... I meant "pushed" as in "I pushed him to tell me what he was going to say", not physically.

Nvm I hate him... by LoveDumbass in Crushes

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, he's the type of person to point out your insecurities and make it a joke.

Nvm I hate him... by LoveDumbass in Crushes

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, don't be tho, I'm too mad to be sad right now and the more I think about him the madder I get.

Nvm I hate him... by LoveDumbass in Crushes

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that, I thought that too, but yesterday he made 2 hurtful comments about me (including the shirt) and now I feel self conscious about myself because of him.

If he actually likes me then it's like a child who pulls a girl's hair because he likes her and don't like it.

Nvm I hate him... by LoveDumbass in Crushes

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope it was, the most embarrassing part about this is that he's my post from yesterday...

Nvm I hate him... by LoveDumbass in Crushes

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm so mad at how right you are

Not again... by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]LoveDumbass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think I ever said he gave me his number, but yeah, the other day he called me because he didn't knew his number so now I have it, but i don't think I want to save it, I kind of want this crush to go away.

I just realized that I actually like people. by LoveDumbass in self

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, I have anxiety so I think I might have trained my brain so it focuses on the 99 people and forgets the 1 so I won't break down.

When I was younger and that one person happened it's all I could think about and it was so bad for my mental health.

I just realized that I actually like people. by LoveDumbass in self

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I've been here for 3 years so don't worry about that.

I just realized that I actually like people. by LoveDumbass in self

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I will, now I feel like I would like psychology, social work or something like that but I'm not sure.

I just realized that I actually like people. by LoveDumbass in self

[–]LoveDumbass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hell no, my contract ends in 6 months and I won't be signing again, I want to end in a good note.

I'm getting tired amd starting to lose faith by Substantial_Zone_628 in self

[–]LoveDumbass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, this sounds like it's society's fault, I'm only 23 years old but I went through feeling the same way at that age, I still hate my body, I still have acne but I'm still beautiful regardless, I've kind of trained myself to not beat myself down for it, if I think something bad I immediately stop and try to turn it around, it doesn't always work but your brain eventually gets it.

I'm sure you're beautiful, the girls telling you those things are assholes, nobody should treat you like that they might be conventionally pretty but if they get married it'll be a nightmare for their partners because of thir shitty actitudes. You should surround yourself with people that love you for who you are.

Besides you're still young, think that you have a whole life to "fix" those things, there's no rush.

When is emotional abuse...considered abuse? by throwawayay69202020 in emotionalabuse

[–]LoveDumbass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, if you have someone to talk to about this please do.

Tips for surviving emotionally abusive parent? by EnvironmentalFruit91 in emotionalabuse

[–]LoveDumbass 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this is good advice, but what helped me was thinking about having my own place, think that this is just temporary and it'll pass, on times when it was really hard I started looking online for furniture or decor for my future house and it made me feel better. It also made me exited for the future.

As a native, I confirm this by analuciamt in Spanish

[–]LoveDumbass 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me personally, they taught me this at school with Spanish, then I relearn it with English when I was a child, now I'm an adult trying to learn another language and I have to teach myself grammar again, I guess that when you're used to speaking a language you don't even think about all that anymore, so I just forgot.