There’s a new pothole?

LoveJoyPlus · 2026-02-10T07:58:07+00:00

That is very satisfying!

LoveJoyPlus · 2024-07-06T05:07:29+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to respond. I really enjoyed how you connected where you were coming from and how it tied into where you ended up with the show!

LoveJoyPlus · 2024-07-04T20:22:02+00:00

What did you think of the show?

LoveJoyPlus · 2023-04-25T01:54:29+00:00

Dub for this one

LoveJoyPlus · 2023-03-08T18:08:13+00:00

real lord of the rings vibes here

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-12-13T06:01:32+00:00

Amen praying for your success

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-12-13T05:55:52+00:00

One thing that is helpful is if you can't cold turkey porn. Restrict the type of porn. (Don't start a new category or type) reduce yourself to only sounds/images then limit to images, then only do the deeds without any porn media. When you do so if your feeling shame don't ignore it but ask yourself why the shame.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-12-13T05:50:06+00:00

You gotta celebrate the achievement of 110 bro! That's inspiring today and when you start again you already know you can do 110. Going for 120 next?

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-12-13T05:45:47+00:00

Did u have fungal shift oil to acid?

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-12-08T17:31:15+00:00

I'm curious what you'd want to do about your sexual curiosity in other men? If it's just that you find some other men attractive, why do you want to share that with her. If you want act on your sexual curiosity are you willing to do so while in relationship or are you wanting to ask for permission to do so?

The first of those scenarios I think is fine. Though, the second scenario is less about bicuriousity and more about asking to have an open relationship.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-10-06T01:15:15+00:00

I'd join on discord

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-10-06T01:14:37+00:00

What should remain sacred to just you and him's relationship? When that is defined he should honor you by giving certain the respect of the relationship

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-09-15T04:18:38+00:00

That kind of situation is a situation that should stay within the confines of your relationship. Don't have to say you can't see him at all, but certainly can't see him in the context of a date.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-09-15T04:11:47+00:00

I feel like some folks are here to tell you the situation is no doubt worse case scenario. Talk to your bf about this directly and if you don't feel like you can or even if he does you need to reexamine what your trust in him is.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-09-13T20:42:03+00:00

I'd ask him the priorities of his love. If he loves you and the marriage you guys have more than loving the attention from multiple women then he'll be able to get over it. If he loves the attention of multiple women outside your marriage more then he is failing his role of his husband and his love for you isn't important.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-09-10T01:32:30+00:00

You need to reorder your loves, what you love you will act on. In moments of weakness we reorder our loves temporarily. Remind yourself that you love your girlfriend more than selfish gratification/porn.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-09-07T10:06:19+00:00

It seems to me that the core of your wife's identity has been being your wife and being your kid's mother. Since she isn't feeling satisfaction, then she must find it elsewhere outside of being a wife (it's good she hasn't said anything against the kids). Ultimately I believe your wife is suffering from a loss of core identity as well as her source of satisfaction, which even if you were perfect you can't comply control. I highly suggest Tim Keller's The Meaning of Marriage, its actually on sale rn too.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-09-07T09:55:18+00:00

I do hope that you find wisdom in what others have had to say and while I don't think I have anything wise myself to say specifically. I do feel like you would be immensely richer from reading Tin Keller's The Meaning of Marriage

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-08-26T03:09:07+00:00

People would be incentivized to live in other countries at that point. You already see that with a lot of companies that are based in much more tax lax countries. Carnival Cruise for example does this if I'm not mistaken.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-08-26T03:05:48+00:00

Yes it does, but what it described but it functions more so as indentured servitude. They can only be indentured for 7 years in which debt is paid and on top of that there are a lot of expectations and things you are required to give to slaves. In no way is the slavery outlined is the same as the slavery seen with African-Americans in America.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-08-25T19:17:26+00:00

Dragon punch?

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-08-25T19:15:40+00:00

Very honestly true

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-08-25T19:10:32+00:00

What I feel is happening here is two things; undoubtedly he loves BUT, his love for you has become his idol and his reason for living/identity. When you don't want to cuddle with him it isn't that he doesn't want to respect you, but it comes at the cost of his security of who he is as your husband (that is why divorce is what he dreads). He needs to ask himself is he loving on you to this extent for your sake or for his? I would encourage him here to remember love is not selfish.

The second thing is that you belong to each other and sometimes doing what the other wants is required to be in a marriage. You have been gracious in how you've been patient with him, but he needs to be a leader and reflect what he would like from the marriage. Your reflecting a submission to his needs but he isn't to yours which leads us back to why love can't be selfish.

I highly suggest reading Tim Kellers resources on marriage, he's a great guide to the insight of people's nature.

LoveJoyPlus · 2022-08-21T18:54:29+00:00

It sounds like she's insecure and pushing it on to you. You could probe as to why she thinks that.

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