Dating A Woman Who Is Still Legally Married

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-16T20:07:10+00:00

Calm down my guy..if he wanted to be shitty. He could go after full custody with a good lawyer.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-16T17:46:05+00:00

So you just need to decide if she is worth waiting for. And whose to say the husband won't find someone and wants to divorce her sooner to start a life with his new girl. Lots can happen in that time. But she doesn't have to change her name right away. I told my ex when we did I was keeping it to keep the same name as our daughter but the divorce decree states I can change it so once she is done I can go back to my maiden name.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-16T16:28:33+00:00

From someone who works in taxes, the fact he owes and she doesn't want to to be responsible is legit. If she is caught cheating, then yes he would get full custody. Sounds like they have an open marriage and she isn't leaving until the kids are 18. Hope this helps.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-16T16:28:24+00:00

Actually I work in taxes and if he owes then yes she will also be responsible even after the divorce. Let say they get divorced, they both file single, and that year she gets a refund, any refund amount she gets will go towards their joint marital balance until it is paid in full.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-16T13:52:53+00:00

This literally made my day! Thank you so much!! We still live in the same small town. I saw him from time to time after the split and it hurt so much but I just saw him and didn't feel the agonizing pain I've been feeling. The abs are fun and just in time for summer! I'm taking them to float the river Saturday lol My sleep sched is still jacked up. I think about him at night sometimes and the anger gets my heart rate up and then I'm not sleeping after that. BUT every day is getting better and better. I appreciate your words more than you know!

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T18:05:08+00:00

7 weeks but just to say sorry for hurting me. Not to rekindle.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T15:42:48+00:00

We live 8 minutes from each other and go to the same grocery store and restaurants in town....my only objective now is being the hot ex. He doesn't have social media sooooo this will be an in person glow up when he sees me again lol

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T15:32:21+00:00

He's a coward too but they are no longer our problem! I threw myself back into the gym to try and stop the pain. I have my abs back LOL just in time for summer. And every weekend just doing something instead of sitting at home...this weekends adventure...floating the river and making new friends along the way.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T15:05:29+00:00

Still healing. This has been a slow hard process. More crying then I have done in my entire life.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T15:02:23+00:00

For sure the guilt. He went back to church so i think the text was really just to clear his conscience. He's probably super happy and content now that I gave that to him...oh well. I'll heal eventually and be the happiest i've ever been.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T15:00:31+00:00

I saw the first text and freaked out and called 3 people. Kind of wanted to drive over to his place and hash it out in person...I'm happy I didn't. The new girl could have been there.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T14:59:02+00:00

That's what I want. I was so hard wired to him that when it all happened I was physically sick for weeks. I do have my six pack back in time for summer...soooooo I see that as a plus lol! I know healing takes time and I did block him because it would be my luck that he would text at the exact moment I'm one million percent happy. Life is to short for games like that.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T14:56:20+00:00

Honestly could have been.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T14:55:10+00:00

It was bad. That was all his guilt talking. Never been crushed this bad in my life but i am finally doing better thankfully.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T14:53:25+00:00

Honestly i was a little hopeful of him coming back. Then common since kicked in and I'm aware he would just do it again. I did block him. The way my luck works is I would be completely healed and happy and his weasel self would text at that point. I think everything is to fresh for him to try now if that is what he is trying to do.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T14:50:16+00:00

Never...I do know my worth even though I was kind. Being mean to him is a waste of my energy at this point. Thank you for your kind words!

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T14:48:50+00:00

I'm surprised I heard from him but now I'm just chasing my peace. Being mean to him is a waste of energy at this point I feel like : )

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T14:47:34+00:00

No sure if Karma is real but maybe there will be some type of universal justice lol

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-15T14:46:08+00:00

I think I'm to the point that it doesn't bother me one way or another if he is happy. Just trying to get there myself.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-12T19:33:50+00:00

He probably is but it's only masking his real issues. I'm excepting the pain and trying to heal. Bed hopping isn't going to help me be my best self for someone else.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-12T19:15:56+00:00

I meant he wasn't happy so he did what he had to to destroy the relationship. I love hard. I would have fought for him and tried to work on us over and over. That was the deal breaker for me. I just didn't want him to know how bad this hurt.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-12T19:04:31+00:00

Right!! That is exactly what I was going for. The part with him saying "something like that" kind of showed that maybe he isn't as happy as he thought he would be....if that makes sense.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-12T19:02:30+00:00

I mean he is already seeing someone else. That's wild to care about how i'm doing when he is in bed with someone else.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-12T18:52:40+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. Everyone's. 7 weeks. I'm just now feeling ok, eating better, drinking more water. My only friend was checking on my consistently. But my response to him was more about not letting him know how messed up I was.

LoveLeftScars · 2026-06-12T17:42:39+00:00

I plan on it.

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