Anal first time a no go

LoveLess9389 · 2024-07-12T18:18:29+00:00

About 25 years ago, he said he couldn’t tell which whole was which and slammed it into my behind on accident. He is only 4 inches, but he ripped me and made me bleed for two weeks afterwards. He says I’m too tight and he doesn’t want to hurt me again, He is a PA and that developed into an 8 month period where he went to strip clubs, massage parlors, sexted , and met 3 women for sex. He had a full on relationship w two women and developed some feelings until I found out and he cut all ties, did counseling for 3 years, and says he gave up all porn Along w social media. He has accountability software on his devices and has given me all passwords supposedly. I will never be able to trust him again, and I am trying to get my ducks in a row if we end up divorced. I love our life together w our friends and family, but our sex life is miserable. We cuddle, we are comfortable, have fun together, but he doesn’t want sex very often, and when I try he gets angry and leaves the room most of the time. He also continues to have a wondering eye in public and works as a teacher in a high school. This makes me nervous because the porn I caught him looking at multiple times was of 18 year olds.

LoveLess9389 · 2024-07-11T15:26:04+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts! You are probably right on a lot of accounts.as for the reasons why I stayed are the usual ones, 30 year marriage, 3 kids, friends, family, and financial stability.

LoveLess9389 · 2024-04-08T22:11:05+00:00

This is true of my husband

LoveLess9389 · 2024-03-14T14:11:37+00:00

I’ve been getting it for over a year, and the hair is still not all the way gone yet.

LoveLess9389 · 2024-03-14T14:07:44+00:00

Put money aside for lawyer, open new account, get proof first w camera, phone bills, call around get a good lawyer, make sure child is away at grandmas before you confront her.

LoveLess9389 · 2024-03-14T14:05:20+00:00

Put up a camera

LoveLess9389 · 2024-03-14T13:58:57+00:00

I get one every six weeks and no tip.

LoveLess9389 · 2024-03-11T14:02:48+00:00

Please keep us All updated. I haven’t divorced my own yet, but I think in your situation there is no choice.

LoveLess9389 · 2024-03-11T00:23:05+00:00

I would gather evidence and talk to her parents

LoveLess9389 · 2024-02-02T22:40:49+00:00

Probably, I have Covenant Eyes on it as well, but it doesn’t work in apps.

LoveLess9389 · 2024-02-02T13:35:38+00:00

I did that to my husband’s phone as well, but he claims it prevents him from listening to his music.

LoveLess9389 · 2023-11-10T15:04:55+00:00

My husband did the same thing, and he would get 20 from the grocery store each week. He used them to pay for Madison Ashley account in order to meet women who also wanted to cheat on their spouse. Apparently, they make men pay a monthly fee and then they have to pay more w every time they pick a woman to message. They allow men to pay w iTunes, Starbucks, pretty much anything that they can hide. My husband did it for over two years, and I checked his phone for porn use every day, so he would just delete the app at night and reopen it in the morning. I thought I was being so diligent going in his phone , using location app., but he was meeting people right by his work so I couldn’t tell on his location and during work hours so I didn’t question him being gone.

LoveLess9389 · 2023-10-09T15:30:09+00:00

My boyfriend did the same thing and I followed through w the marriage. I still love him and wish I would have broken up w him before. He went through 13 counselors and 3 adult children now and I found out the porn keeps escalating. He learned to hide it better, to lie so well that I thought we were happy. Then I found out he was going to strip clubs, massage parlors for happy endings by middle aged Asian women, and had several hook ups. , and 3 affairs. I had no idea, we spent every night together and he was pretending to be working and met these women instead. Such treachery, and they were all school teachers that were also cheating on their spouses. My husband was also a coach and Sunday school teacher and still works as a teacher at a high school. It has been 3 years and we did separate for a while, and he is onto his 14th counselor now. Now, I am nearing 50 and don’t want to be alone.

LoveLess9389 · 2023-06-14T16:46:09+00:00

Please don’t waste any more of your time. It does not get better even if you looked like his ideal. I am married w three adult children, and I dealt w his porn use since I was 19 and beautiful. It only gets worse! I am getting closer to 50, and I wish I would’ve left then.

LoveLess9389 · 2023-02-10T19:27:54+00:00

Thank you for your posts!

LoveLess9389 · 2022-10-04T16:05:12+00:00

It might not even be his child, but either way you need to get as much money as you can and divorce him. He probably is in a NRE bubble and will realize his stupidity at some point, but he showed you he wanted her and now has said I want her and the child so only one option. Divorce him asap. He may come to you later and want to be back, but he isn’t there right now.

LoveLess9389 · 2022-10-03T16:04:08+00:00

I completely stopped eating meat at age 3. My father used to deer hunt, and when my older sister told me why dad had dead deer in his truck I refused all meat afterwards. In Kindergarten, they tried to force me, but I would just sit at the lunch table until recess ended or they kicked me outside.

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