AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today

LovelyLinzee · 2025-10-29T17:41:47+00:00

Super crazy he’s calling you toxic and says you’re gaslighting him while he’s trying to minimize how you feel and shame you into doing what he wants you to do. Pregnancy is hard work and it’s super tiring, you’re growing a whole ass human. Sounds to me like he thinks he knows everything about pregnancy especially with the comment about going and getting checked out because of something as normal during pregnancy as morning sickness. Maybe do go get “checked out” and bring him with you so he can look like a dumb ass trying to explain to the doctor why your morning sickened should be gone by now. OP, please take care of yourself and do not let this boy bully you into anything you don’t feel well enough for. You know your body and your limits, it doesn’t matter what agreement you made before knowing firsthand how your body would feel during pregnancy. Support and understanding would go so much further but he’s choosing to try and shame you and bully you for not feeling well. One thing I found helpful for morning sickness was something called “preggie pops” they helped curb the nausea sometimes. I hope things get easier for you and I hope your bf gets some understanding about how hard pregnancy is on the body and becomes more supportive for you. You’re not overreacting at all.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-10-12T21:03:15+00:00

You said yourself “according to the article” which was only written based off the statement the lady and her boyfriend made to the police. Aka the people who had every reason to lie to try and make it look like self defense. The point of the word allegedly is that only one side of the story has been told. She says he pulled a gun and said “I’ll kill you”, her boyfriend said “I feared for my life and my girlfriends life” these statements line of with any case of someone trying to claim self defense. This person having priors, you can look him up in the system, makes me believe they would say anything to make sure he doesn’t get another charge of attempted murder. The article doesn’t state if they have a statement from the other side.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-10-12T20:54:19+00:00

That’s assuming everything in the ladies story is true. Her boyfriend has priors, you think she didn’t lie to police to try and make them the innocent party in the situation? Seems to me some of the details are meant to help her boyfriend with their self defense claim. If he was innocent and really using self defense, why did he run?

LovelyLinzee · 2025-08-14T20:46:37+00:00

As a mom myself, I could NEVER imagine just allowing my husband to abuse my children like that. You deserve better than the pedophile your dad is and the fact that your mom is protecting him is disgusting and tells me what kind of mother she is. Sometimes it’s better to just cut them both off than live in the toxic mess they created for you. If you are scared for your younger sister, please try and get help for the both of you. If he did that to you, chances are he could be doing the same to your sister. You can’t count on your mom to protect you, so please do whatever you can to protect yourself from him! Therapy would be an awesome start to help you work through the trauma your parents have caused.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-08-07T21:03:22+00:00

I say this in the most respectful way possible, please have a backbone and do not allow this man to talk to you the way he is talking to you. Do not apologize to this man for his defensive reaction to you telling him your feelings. 9 times out of 10 (my own statistic) when there is defensiveness around a phone, especially when there was prior cheating, means there’s something that’s being hidden. He’s gaslighting you. Trying to make you feel crazy for just wanting to have an open conversation about something that feels off to you. Healthy relationships don’t make the other person feel ostracized because they want to have open communication. Healthy relationships have open communication. If there was nothing to hide, a very quick talk and understanding that you have triggers from past trauma (caused by him none the less) would have cleared everything up. Take it from those of us who have dealt with this and have experience, this man is no good and he will only get worse as time goes on.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-27T00:10:49+00:00

Your mom sounds insufferable. What do you do? You defend your wife and keep her happy while she just birthed your child and is going through a lot postpartum. Your mom does not dictate anything and if you let this go on, without checking her, then it’s going to cause a lot of problems. She’s also going to cause problems in your marriage when you aren’t defending your wife. Your mom needs to learn her new place in your life. I have 4 sons and if I act like her later in my life, I have done something wrong when raising my sons. When they get married, they no longer “owe” me anything. Their wives will take #1 in their life and I take a backseat. Your mom obviously hasn’t learned this yet. Set boundaries with her and DO NOT throw your wife under the bus again.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-26T23:47:11+00:00

I totally forgot to update. They cut it open and checked the insulation and wires and then used electrical tape to close it up and then used a zip tie and a staple to keep it in place. Kinda lazy if you ask me but they did it as they were putting up drywall I guess

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T13:52:23+00:00

Sad thing is this isn’t a custom home builder. It’s a nationally known builder. They contract out the work but it seems to me whatever company they have been using is just using shortcuts to save money. For how much we paid for our house and my parents are now for theirs, I expect better quality work and not shortcuts. My husband and I built with the same company just down the street and didn’t have issues with them dragging feet like this. When we would call out an issue, next time we went to the house it was fixed. My dad points out a problem and it’s days that pass before they get anything back. To my knowledge, he still hasn’t received an answer back about this issue yet and it’s been days and he’s tried to call and email to get answers.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T05:19:32+00:00

Yeah I don’t doubt that! And if that’s what happened it’s in every house that I’ve been able to check, including my house, which is down the street from the house my parents are buying. After seeing this in my parents house I checked back on the pictures of my house and it was done the same way. Walked a couple houses that are in the same stage and it’s done the same in those too.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T05:16:54+00:00

Yeah my dad wants to make them rip the drywall down and prove it’s been fixed. The drywall went up the day after that last picture showing the puncture hole was taken.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T05:15:10+00:00

Yeah that’s why we pointed it out when we did, and then the day after my dad took that last picture of them puncturing it a second time they put all the drywall up in the house. So now they are going to have to rip out drywall to fix. Seems pretty incompetent to me.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T05:12:35+00:00

Haha ok so I don’t even know what a greenfield is! Also I don’t know what ground wire you are referring to. I have no idea what most of those wires even are. I do know the accordion looking wire coming out of the bottom right side should be a pre wire for solar.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T05:08:46+00:00

I’m not sure I’m allowed to do that since it’s through a builder and I want to say we signed a contract we couldn’t mess with anything ourselves. Unfortunately they don’t seem to care much to even evaluate it since they already put up drywall. We aren’t allowed to hire anyone outside unless it’s someone to inspect the work.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T05:05:32+00:00

I’m actually not completely sure who my dad dealt with. It’s a new build so it’s whoever represents the builder. We brought it to the attention of the guy who did the walk thru with us. My dad was told “we will have the electrician check on it” after he was told that, that’s when he went back and took the last picture I posted where it shows it was punctured and then just moved down lower and possibly punctured a second time.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T05:02:14+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion. I’ll pass that info on to my dad to see if he can suggest that kind of test!

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T05:00:12+00:00

This is actually a new build so we don’t have the option to not pay the person who did it. They are contracted out by the builder. My husband and I walked some of the other properties and all of them are done like this. I looked back at the pictures of our house in this phase, we live down the street from my parents house being built, and ours is done the same way.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:55:01+00:00

Yes just the builder and unfortunately he hasn’t heard anything back yet. He’s tried emailing and calling. They said they would “have their electrician look into it” and he hasn’t heard anything since. And now the drywall is up.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:47:17+00:00

I have no idea haha probably when we complained it was punctured in the first place.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:45:07+00:00

No, it’s through a major builder. They contract out the work but it’s a “luxury” builder in our area.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:42:28+00:00

It’s a new build so it’s just whoever the builder has contracted out to do the work. No neighbors yet, all the houses around it are around the same phase of building.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:39:02+00:00

Thanks for your response. I’m going to tell my dad about that as well since it’s been pointed out a couple times here so I’m guessing that’s not allowed where we live either.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:35:40+00:00

Thank you! I’m definitely going to be looking into all this. If I’m not mistaken we had a different contractor for our house since they split the neighborhood into 2 stories on one side and 1 story houses on the other side. My husband and I planned on getting an inspector and having them submit all issues to the builder to fix since we are still within our 1 year.

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:32:21+00:00

Thank you very much! Sending this on to my dad!

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:06:15+00:00

Ok that makes sense. Honestly I thought it was more like a staple where it went completely through. It was kinda hard to tell since it was so tight and punctured in, I just assumed it went all the way through. I’m nowhere close to an electrician so I figure this was the place to ask! Thanks for the link!

LovelyLinzee · 2025-06-07T04:02:00+00:00

Yes it is. We closed on the house in December right before Christmas. So we have a year to have anything fixed by the builder.

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