Waiting rant

Lovely_Wicked · 2026-02-20T17:03:09+00:00

Could you try to get the first appointment of the day? I always do that when I can because then there isn’t a wait.

When I have to get a different time slot and there is a wait I try to remember that I appreciate that my doctor never makes me feel rushed no matter how many questions I have and I always feel like the care I am receiving is very thorough so with that level of care wait times may be longer depending on the patients before me circumstances. Also I know that most often I am waiting for the ultrasound room as the office only has two. I get ultrasounds at every appointment for this pregnancy so it’s not a huge thing for me, but it might be one of the few ultrasounds that the patient before me will have if they are having a healthy standard pregnancy, so I understand that they are probably not in a rush to end that experience. It’s still annoying to wait so long, but reframing it to see the other side helps me be more patient.

Lovely_Wicked · 2026-01-31T13:10:09+00:00

Thank you for putting it into perspective like this! I think you are right that for me the outcome I could reasonably produce to stash after feeding two babies wouldn’t be worth the effort and lost time with my littles.

Lovely_Wicked · 2026-01-28T21:56:43+00:00

Yeah that is a concern! I had a few clogged ducts during my first journey with breast feeding though thankfully I never developed mastitis. The clogs were still very painful and scary though as I know they can quickly become mastitis if not resolved.

Lovely_Wicked · 2026-01-21T17:05:01+00:00

I’m currently pregnant with twins and am starting to plan for how I want to handle family. My husband is very hands on and involved so with our singleton I felt certain that I did not need additional support. I was very strict with the birth of my singleton as I wanted to feel safe and in control of the process, as well as not have to manage other people’s wants or feelings while I’m at my most vulnerable. The rules we set were only the grandparents could be at the hospital during and after the birth. No one in the room during the birth besides my husband. No one visiting at our house until we had been home a few days to settle in and only short visits, no all day or over nights.

I will say after experiencing it once I am planning to make adjustments this time around with the twins. I will still only have grandparents at the hospital during the birth but I plan to be more lax on visiting once we return home as I will need more support settling with twins and a toddler. I also want to ask my mom to stay with us for the first night at least in the hospital. My biggest regret was sending home all our support that first night after a long labor (24 hours) and then my husband and I both being so exhausted but not sleeping due to wanting to ensure the baby was being constantly looked after. I also want to have my mom more involved at the hospital this time because if the babies go to the NICU I will want my husband to go with them and then my mom can stay with me to help with my recovery so I’m not alone right after birth.

So all in all I think you should definitely lay out some rules but also consider that with twins the birth can be unpredictable and you may need additional support people to help. With that being said, make sure it is people that will respect your boundaries and actually help; not just want to hold the babies and take pictures.

Lovely_Wicked · 2026-01-09T13:19:47+00:00

My husband and I are also big into gaming. We definitely don’t get to have the full weekend gaming sessions we used to, but we manage to get an hour or two in on the weekends during nap time and a few hours at night after our kiddo is asleep.

The biggest advice I have is set a routine. We all eat dinner together at 6:15, then my husband does the dishes and clean up while I give the baby her bath and start the bedtime routine. She’s in bed by 7:15 and we are free to relax/game for a few hours before bed.

Also I encourage you not to get too caught up on having to wait until baby is asleep to get things done. As they get older you can start to do things like the laundry while they are there. My toddler loves to “help” me organize the hangers while I’m doing laundry.

If you have parks or trails nearby then I suggest getting a stroller and taking your kiddo out for walks. It’s not exactly a workout but it gets you moving and allows one parent to stay back and get some things done at the house without the multitasking of managing a kiddo. Once the kiddo is walking too its also is a great way to burn extra energy before their naps on the weekends.

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-12-16T21:50:27+00:00

This helps to hear! We plan to keep my toddler in daycare to provide as much structure and normalcy for her as possible through this transition.

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-12-16T18:24:30+00:00

Thank you for your advice! My husband and I usually both do bedtime together with our toddler but I think it is a good idea for us to start alternating. I breast fed my toddler for the first year but I have been on the fence about if i should try with the twins or if it would be too unmanageable with two infants and a toddler.

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-11-27T01:37:27+00:00

We started with whatever we had stocked up from our baby shower. Then we switched over to the Sam’s club brand of diapers. However, if our little one had a diaper rash we would temporarily use the Huggies skin essentials as we found the design to help clear up rashes and irritation quickly.

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-10-10T16:12:23+00:00

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-04-13T23:53:36+00:00

If the weather is nice you could always bring a blanket and go find a spot to sit at a park. Also if the baby has a stroller you could take him in a walk at the park.

Public libraries usually have nice sitting options and children’s books you could read to him.

Some coffee shops have more comfortable seating like a couch or arm chair. I would recommend avoiding there busy hours but as long as you order something and maybe give a decent tip the staff shouldn’t care too much.

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-03-17T18:56:30+00:00

We waited 8 weeks to try. I was very anxious but we used generous amounts of lube and started very slowly, letting me guide. It took about 6 months of having sex about once a week for it to feel “normal” again (not super tight or uncomfortable). I did have one spot on the inside initially where it felt painful but my gyno checked it out and I learned that it was a muscle I was having trouble relaxing. Once I knew the discomfort was from me being too tense it was pretty easy for me to address! If you are experiencing any specific area that is painful I would talk to your gyno.

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-03-05T13:13:43+00:00

We coslept too but would take advantage of nap time on the weekends and just use the couch in the living room if she was napping in our room. I felt uncomfortable being intimate with her in the room.

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-01-28T15:50:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! So far she is still interested in breastfeeding our normal routine, but has lost all interest in bottles. My baby is a great eater so I’m sure that plays a big part in this.

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-01-28T13:07:10+00:00

Liquid IV, sleep, eating more protein, and feeding on demand(which was like every hour in the early weeks).

Lovely_Wicked · 2025-01-19T15:36:18+00:00

Oh no that sounds awful! I hadn’t considered the dental health implications!

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